Are outspoken girls intimidating to guys?

Question

Just wondering because i'm an outspoken person and I don't really have a filter when it comes to saying what I mean. do guys find it interesting or intimidating? Lots of dudes i've talked to have said that i'm difficult to get along with.

looneymalooney · Accepted Answer

outspoken. I had a work colleague that was "outspoken" She only had one person she personally considered friend. That friend refused to chip in when our team asked her if she wants to help us buy her a goodbye gift

Now though she might have considered herself as outspoken she was actually very aggressive in her speech and loud. "yeah, but at least I'm honest". Nope, she was just one hateful person with difficulties integrating and interacting normally because of that. She only wanted to hide that and play the "honesty" card. But in fact she would snap really easily out of the blue and start talking really loud and fast. Why? So people wouldn't dare to counter her speech. I would say she was just like a brick in expressing herself and her ideas, often making everyone feel awkward. Negativity and short temper from her side that made me feel like walking on glass. Every single subject was a potential cause for her erupting into her talking REALLY LOUD AND FAST SO SHE CAN WIN AND DETER THE OTHER PERSON FROM RESPONDING. She would snap at store clerks, building security, the cleaning ladies.
She simply did not understand when she crossed the line between polite and jerk. because in her head hearing someone speak louder, would be enough reason for her to simply turn around and tell that person to speak on a lower voice because it's bothering. In some cases, it wasn't as I was there, just that it was annoying to her.

It's not just you there, it's a whole group. I understand you have ideas, but the key is to learn to adapt and reach that point where everyone is tolerable to the other. Use the common sense and go for that "no man's land" of social interaction, where you give and take in equal measure. She wouldn't.

She was considering herself above others and would do her best to avoid hard work and elbow grease when that was required. Instead she would "voice" her unhappiness and act like she was hated.
In some way I tend to believe she liked the idea of people hating her. In a masochistic kind of way.

If you are "outspoken" as the girl in my comment, then sorry, I would feel drained of energy by being around you.

TheLastMoon · Accepted Answer

An outspoken girl may be often misunderstood as an obnoxious, loud, and attention-seeking.

Therefore, on the surface/superficial level, it can be a turn-off for guys (not necessarily intimidating), but if your outspoken nature comes from a source of true conviction to do well by others and spread universally appreciated thoughts, then there is nothing wrong with that.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

It depends on what you say and how you say it. There is an different between being outspoken and being strictly disrespectful. However, men overall want's a keen woman. It's biblically true about being silent. Because the man is supposed to be the leader and head of the household. A tamed woman who knows when to speak and when not to speak will be more considered than a woman who is out of control and doesn't have self-control or discipline. She can be interesting as a person, and it can seem attractive while alluring. BUT, long term relationship wise it wouldn't work out well if it shows that she is not a team player or is against his desires overall. Men needs team players.

Also if they feel they can handle you, they won't feel intimidated once they get to know the real you. But if this is how you are with everything, it can be a turnoff because your about your way and less likely to compromise.

Razzle-Bedazzle · Accepted Answer

I think it's important to speak your mind, but not in a rude , insulting obnoxious way. So I guess it depends on your attitude when you're outspoken.

Some outspoken people are just assertive , but have an intelligent way of saying things without anyone taking offence.

I know some very outspoken people , they consider themselves as brutally honest , but I find they can't handle other people being brutally honest to them, so they respond by being aggressive and insulting.

ambertaylor · Accepted Answer

I think an outspoken girl would get on my nerves whereas a confident girl would be better, someone who was just over the top at every turn would be tough to get along with. I think balancing the outspoken attitude with knowing when to just keep calm could go well.

byherlaw · Answer

To me, it's intimidating and interesting
Also SEXY AF!!
Being outspoken shows that's You're confident, know what You want, and not willing to waste time putting up with other peoples BS!!

Most guys are intimidated by Women like You because they're used to docile Girls that don't fight.. And that they have little experience with confident Women because there aren't enough Women like You. Which is a shame. I wished there were more!! :~) You could lead by an example.

dogbert444 · Answer

I prefer shy to middle of the road ladies. Outspoken girls can be intimidating, especially if they're opinionated. It's not so bad if they're prepared to listen to other opinions.

CT_CD · Answer

You're not intimidating. You're probably just annoying. He's intimidating...

Jager66 · Answer

I like it. Being difficult to get along with because you speak your mind only means the people who you get along with like you for who you are, being polarizing is a good trait.

SirRexington · Answer

I'm one who prefers girls that are outspoken. Quiet is cute at first but it gets boring as fuck.

SwolDishWasher · Answer

By seeing your behavior on this site, i wouldn't date you.

cupidkisses · Answer

I am like you too and my friends like me being outspoken.

ColinHarvey · Answer

Yeah loud people are obnoxious, but that's not a gender-specific thing.

coolbreeze2 · Answer

I think outspoken women are actually quite attractive, they show confidence

wolfie12 · Answer

I wouldn't call it intimidating, but I dont like people that cannot adapt to situation.

Blitzkrieger · Answer

i think its attractive, especially if she is politically incorrect as well.

riffy88 · Answer

nah, as long as you don't use it to be rude then it's not intimidating.

USER1996 · Answer

I like it but some guys will find it really annoying if you are politically incorrect 24/7

Anonymous · Answer

No, I just don't like if she uses that as an excuse to be bitchy.

ASEXY · Answer

Real men won't find it intimidating...

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

It's attractive but not in the best way possible.

Djaaaay · Answer

Intimidating, no... uninterested yes !!

JayGarrick · Answer

I find women who speak their mind attractive

Words_and_Wisdom · Answer

Not any more than any other girl.

Anonymous · Answer

I am the same way!

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