Are guy intimidated by girls who are not silent?

Question

Why do the the confident , outspoken & successful scare them and make them hate her?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Guys aren't intimidated - they're uninterested. Men want PEACE and comfort from women, not arguments and conflict. You can be however you like, but if you are loud and confrontational, the consequence is that most men won't want you - in particular, the top tier guys that most women want.

You are entitled to make your own decisions and live how you choose, but you aren't entitled to have men find you attractive for a relationship - you have to EARN that, just like men do.

The fact that so many women are unwilling to do that is why so many men prefer to remain single rather than be in a relationship with no peace. And when you hit 30 or so, and interest from men falls way off, and you realize that all you have to look forward to is 35 more years of work, you will probably REALLY want a relationship, but you'll have blown your chance with higher-value men, and even with most average men who are willing to be in a relationship, so you'll either have to accept a below-average guy or remain single.

I've seen my godmother, my aunt, and a close family friend - all loud, opinionated women - strike out for 30 years after pushing away men up to 35 or so, and they are all incredibly lonely and miserable. The family friend acknowledged her mistakes and tries to warn the younger girls (most don't listen), but the other two can't seem to understand why men find them toxic.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

They are not scared of a woman like that. If they don't like you its because of YOU. Don't make excuses, don't place all the blame on him, suck it up and admit its you. Men don't hate women with opinions, in fact I know plenty of guys who would never date a woman who couldn't carry a conversation. But the kind of woman he won't date is a woman who believes all of her opinions are correct and every one else has to believe everything she says without question, thats the kind of woman a guy avoids. He doesn't care if she is successful, he cares if she is so career focused that she will not make a good mother or wife (he isn't looking for a roomate he is looking for a partner and if she is prioritizing her "career" over that, then he isn't going to be interested in her any more then a woman is interested in a guy who will not provide and support her.). No guy has ever had an issue with confident women, in fact they find confidence just as sexy as women do. What he does find unattractive is a woman with an over inflated ego. Lastly he will also avoid manipulative women, women who shift blame on to him for what they are doing, who are abusive etc.

So chances are you are one of or more of these and that is why you are rejected and "hated" by him.

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

There are keys to being opinionated a lot of women haven’t figured out.
Instead of being loud and confrontational, be calm, clear, and concise.
Pick your battles and wait for your moments.
Be educated on what you’re speaking about.
Speak with authority.
Speak to understand and be understood, not to “win” an argument.

Somegirl408 · Accepted Answer

i doubt it. men might get annoyed by them but hardly intimidated. they can be intimidated by masculine women though who swear and act aggressive

Gespenster_division · Answer

Guys are not intimidated by confident outspoken successful women. Its a thing women say to explain they are single when the truth is either their standards are impossibly high, or they have a horrible personality or they are not that attractive or these high quality men they want weigh their opinions and feel they'd be better off dating a younger, hotter woman who can possibly give them plenty of kids and either use them for sex or invest in them for marriage. Basically not intimidation rather these guys feel they could do better.

hahahmm · Answer

No but... thinking back when I was younger, there were many, many times when I thought a woman was hot but based on her talking, I changed my mind. Speaking of, 'hot', a man may let a woman say things he wouldn't have the patience to let a man say, simply because he has sexual interest in her. But more confident guys will have less patience. Way less patience.

exitseven · Answer

I dated as girl who had a roommate that scared the crap out of me. She would ask me really personal questions and used to say really rude things to me. The funny thing was that we got to know each other better and she became a really good friend to me.

Gingervitus · Answer

In my experience, I've come across 3 types of dudes.

1. Guys that are NOT ok with it. (My Grandpa).
2. Guys that are ok with it. (Me)
3. Guys that say they are ok with it, then pull a switcheroo when the girl becomes more successful than them... Avoid these dudes.

Not_Average · Answer

Out spoken and arrogant people are unattractive in general. It’s even more unattractive in women given that it defies what’s considered feminine if we’re going to by societal and biological standards. The delusion starts when a woman is unpleasant, and instead of self reflecting, she says the world is the problem instead of her.

Andres77 · Answer

Umm... in some cases it's not intimidating... it's aggravating. I'm not saying this is you but some people (men and women) just don't know when to shut up. They just keep going and going, they don't have anything of substance to say but keep running their yap.
If it's not contributing to the work being done in a constructive way... it's just noise.
And so they might not be intimidated, they're really trying to get away from the noise.

007kingifrit · Answer

ah there's that trope that men are intimidated

men are almost never intimidated by women. sure times when they have to walk up and introduce themselves but that is universal to any type of women regardless of personality

they aren't intimidated by you, they probably just don't like your views, your attitude, your feminism, or your left wing twitter parade. that's what it usually is

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I love Confident, intelligent, feisty successful women. the majority I date, have relationships are like that. Most girls I am friends with are the same.

blank_expression · Answer

The word “intimidated” is a sign of seeking attention but with hate attached. I would suggest checking into a feminist re-hab facility to obtain an attitude adjustment if you have any intention of being with someone someday.

TwinTonyz · Answer

Is this person presenting those traits and only those traits, or is the delivery egotistical?

I wouldn't want to be around someone who projects themselves as being the best person in the room, let alone court them.

FakeName123 · Answer

Because usually "outspoken, successful and confident" are codeworks for "this is an excuse for me being a total cnt".

The women who are actually outspoken, successful and confident do not need to tell others. They just are.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Weird conservative values of women should be quite when spoken too. They want reserved women who don't ever be above them cause there values don't allow it, more like Inscuritys and sexism n

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Intimidating? No. Annoying? Yes

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It has nothing to do with being scary. The way words work is that the more you speak, the more likely it is that you'll say something that someone else objects to.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I don't hate girls who are outspoken. I prefer it. Better to know where you stand than being lied to because they are scared to open their mouths.

Anonymous · Answer

That's ridiculous. Sounds like you're trying to find reasons you're not getting approached, and the best you can do is that they are intimidate by you, for "reasons".

Leavesbound · Answer

I like a confident woman who speaks her mind but I am not fond of loud people in general.

jshm2 · Answer

No. But being arrogant and noisy doesn't add to your appeal

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i like girls that talk sometimes. i'm not so verbal. i'm very physical.

Still-alive · Answer

some mind be but im not really as long as she can back up the things she says though. My oldest sister is very outspoken and i do like her for it

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Hmmm interesting one. Personally I hate people who shout. Be it girl or guy.  I believe it shows your character. Shouting does not make the point right or heard.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Yes, Definitely. Because most Guys are at least partially Shy, Confidence can come off as arrogant to most of us Guys which is why most of us Guys like Shyer Girls.

Hanrej · Answer

For the same reasons women started making career choices instead of relying on a partner. Everyone is affraid of losing their independence and become an assecory in somone elses life.

dray995 · Answer

No, I am not but can be intimidated by women who I feel like I’ll have no chance with.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Not me. It's nice when someone else can also carry a conversation.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

That doesn't scare us. We just find those girls annoying and unattractive.

Bean2thousand · Answer

I know a lot of confident and successful women who actually inspire me a great deal. They're called professionals.

clampfan101 · Answer

Depends on if she’s confident or just bragging, and what she’s being verbally confident about.

Diversity_Hire · Answer

Nope, I'm far more concerned with the woman who keeps her thoughts to herself.

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

No I'm not intimidated by women like that. I actually like women that are like that because those are signs of confidence to me.

Smegskull · Answer

I don't see the relation. In fact some of the times women have said I am most intimidating is when I am being silent.

goodvibes4life247 · Answer

I am not intimidated by girls or women who are not silent.

AhmetMiraç · Answer

Of course I'm afraid when I see a woman stronger than myself

blondfrog · Answer

Yeah that makes us poop our pants.

anylolone · Answer

Everyone is intimidated by outspoken people.

grega239 · Answer

Maybe they're annoying.

WowwGirl · Answer

YESS THEY ARE

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