You should START by understanding that... the whole experience of "going to the bathroom" is different for men and women.
• We have to sit down every time (... which includes not only the obvious stuff about inconvenience, cleanliness etc... but also we have to rig up somewhere to hang jackets, handbags, etc, if we happen to get stuck in a stall without a hook on the back of the door).
• A lot of our clothes are a big production to remove -- even just to the extent necessary to use the restroom.
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Because of those differences ^^ ... women, in general, start to deal with restroom trips -- in general -- in a fundamentally different way than boys do.
Specifically:
• Guys think of bathroom trips more in terms of NEED.
• We think of bathroom trips more in terms of CONVENIENCE.
Does that make sense? Like... Because it's just a bigger "production" for us to go to the restroom in the first place, we just tend to think more (than men do) about "scheduling" restroom trips for maximum convenience and minimum disruption. Tbh, this isn't even conscious. It's just... a thing.
I first noticed this when I was twelve or thirteen. I have 4 brothers, and I noticed that **I** would always do the "well, I'm just gna use the bathroom one more time before I go out" thing... and that my brothers wouldn't. Like, the whole thought of using the restroom before they had an URGENT need to whiz... just wouldn't even have occurred to them.
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Now, combine that ^^ with (most likely) a greater sense of social awareness.
I mean... If there's a conversation going on, then, if 1 person gets up and leaves, there's always a certain amount of awkwardness. (It's not the end of the world, obviously... but, there's a reason why there is etiquette around the idea of "excusing yourself".)
If 2 or 3 women can get up and use the restroom at the same time, then... • ... there's less of THAT awkwardness (since they'll go and come back faster than if they went individually) • ... THEIR conversation can keep happening, too.
If you think of this -- **AND** the fact that we are more accustomed to restroom trips as things to do at "convenient" times anyway -- then this should all make perfect sense.
(At restaurants/nightclubs/etc there's also the "checking out each other's makeup" thing, but, this is not nearly as much of a thing as some people make it out to be -- it's just that this is easy to NOTICE. And besides, random women are happy to help each other out with that stuff anyway.)
Woman's washrooms are different from men's washrooms. In a man's washroom - the urinals are outside and you can see what everybody else is doing. In the woman's washroom - everybody is in their isolated cubicles so there is more privacy because you can't see what they are doing and they can't see you. It makes more sense to go as a group because if you go at different times then you will have to take turns waiting for your friend to come out of the washroom. If 5 people go at 5 different times, you will have to waste your time waiting for 5 different people to go to the washroom. If you go at the same time it's better. Also some girls do private things like touch up their make or check their eyeliner and they don't want the men to see them worrying about their appearance. It's also a way to have a private conversation with somebody away from prying eyes. Woman are more private and secretive then men.
There are pretty mirrors in some bathrooms and sometimes we're just like; "hey you wanna make a mirrorselfie in the bathroom in the b2 (example of place at our school with a nice mirror)" and then we just go to the bathroom to take selfies and return when the break is over. It's just a nice place were you can talk without too many people and just to your random shit without people looking. And sometimes someone has to pee or something and we are talking and don't want to stop the conversation, so we just go to the toilet either. This way the person who is on the toilet can follow the conversation too. I only go to the toilet with close friends.
The majority of us are trained very young in secret spy organizations and disguise ourselves as a super complicated and social version of the male gender. We don't have friends we have partners in assignments we had to complete and when we "go to the bathroom together" we are actually all debriefing each other on our chosen target. Sometimes its you sometimes it isn't. Mostly it's you tho. ( '-') We must execute our plans... by Any means necessary Anon, please understand.
Come at me then. I have all the things I need to defend myself at my house.
*A belt *Plenty of vibrating electronics. *Strong wires that are pretty decent for knots. *A very deep basement. *Oil. *And I'm sure I can take some more of the wires along with one of my rubber balls (that I just have laying around for some reason) and make a little something to preserve the peace (and quiet).
It's a place where they know they're safe from males; thus they get to talk about their male friends without input from said friends. (This is the most common reason, anyway.)
Otherwise, they just go for the same reason us men do it; strategic conformity, as in: "Oh, well I was going to wait because I can, but this guy and the other guy are going, so I might as well since there's nothing better to do in the meantime."
Pay attention this is important. The group bathroom ritual is age old. This is where women get together and discuss how best to annoy their boyfriends and suck the life out of them. It's scary but a fact of life.
Yeah I don't do this and the girls that do piss me off ever try to wash your hands when their all stood round the sink or tried to get out when their all congregating in the middle taking up all the space? and do the move? do they f***. These girls are ignorant or what annoys me even more is when they go in a cubicle and talk for hours when the place is busy and there's a queue. It's very inconsiderate sorry i'm ranting they annoy me that much lol
- At bars and clubs it's best to make sure your lady friends are safe. While it doesn't happen often you can be cornered by a dude or have something inappropriate or worse happen to you if you're drunk and alone. - Need a bitch there to make you feel less awkward in a crowded bathroom - We make the bestest of new friends in bathrooms loaded with other women sometimes - Makeup - To gossip and decide the fate of the dude you're with
It depends on the night out and the people there and also the girls state.
If I'm with a bunch of people I will try and go with someone. It's partly so I don't get left behind. If we are on a night out it's so I look my best and girls tend to use bathroom time to fix make up and such.
If it's a juicy night out, like lots of single girls, we go as a group to gossip/plan the next move. Who is going where, who needs to go where, etc. It's a safety thing.
Sometimes it's a night out to bitch about your boyfriend/ex and you just want your girlfriend there for a private blub and a pee.
And sometimes... we go together because our bladders happened to sync. I know it's crazy. I know no men ever meet in the men's because nobody ever needs to urinate at the exact same time. But SOMETIMES it happens to us women. And thank god it does - she's the back up lady when you have no loo roll. Sadly shaking isn't great for ladies.
Am I the only one who asks my friend to go to the restroom with me so I can take a breather? I highly agree with the going with a buddy so you don't get lost or left behind, for sure. But also, if it's just a high energy night or there's a lot going on, sometimes it's nice to step outside. Restrooms usually drown out a good amount of the music and it's nice to just pat yourself down and chill a little bit as you wash your hands and wait for your friend and get their opinion on the night or what's going on. I don't usually plot the next move or whatever, but that's usually because I act on my own if I'm out with a guy I like. No, we don't piss together or make it a group process. It's like taking a step outside to smoke, but without the cigarette, cold air, or long walk to the door and push to get back inside.
Interesting. The LAST thing I'd want on a fun, high-energy night out would be a temporary downer.
I mean, this is the same reason why very, very few people would want to go to an afterparty that's more than a few minutes' drive/cab ride from the original party.
We do it because we like gossiping with each other, making observations about each other's appearances, exchanging tips if we're double dating, borrowing each other's makeup, etc. :) it's just fun catching up with our girlfriends where no one can eavesdrop lol :P It's a no guy zone aha :) Just like what goes on in the guys locker room I would assume
I attended an all girl's school, & we did it even there lol. So, I don't really know why (but other girls have offered interesting insights!) BUT I CAN tell you it's not about boys bc its behaviour that continues when you're not around
They feel comfort from knowing that there is someone with them while they touch up their makeup and fix themselves. It's the same feeling like you wouldn't want to eat alone. We would always want to have someone around even if it's just going to the restroom. Lol.
you always see girls go in groups . like others said to help each other out . to get a confidence boost from a bathroom pep talk. but also when throwing up . escaping a creepy guy. (or stumbling to the car) . it's where skirts come down . and shirts go up . fixing wardrobe malfuctions . and sometimes to makeout in the stall.
I normally do it cus I hang around in a 3 so 2 needs the toilet and I go along cus im waiting anyway. To gossip and cus waiting lines take forever so we can still hang with our friends. Last but not least is to check our makeup touch up on lipstick, check hair etc
If it's in night clubs it's because the line is fuckin long so we usually pile into a cubicle with our friends (here anyway). Sometimes it's cause we're doing Charlie in there 😂 And sometimes it's just cause we want to talk without someone listening.
@redeyemindtricks Charlie must be English (England) slang then. And yeah deffo whip out your mirror or do it on your bag or wallet. I never put it on any surface I don't own 😷
Yh possibly. Sounds like the kind of word that British people would use as slang -- and not at all like the kind of word Americans would use. ... but also, I'm old af 😂 it's entirely possible that the young'uns are using that word right down the street. lol.
@redeyemindtricks 😂 I'm sure you'd have heard it though! And yeah it does sound proper British haha. I forget we have different names for stuff sometimes
If its in school, than it's usually to talk about cute guys or other people, to help each other with makeup, just to talk alone without a ton of people listening in, or to take cute mirror pictures together. Outside of school we stick together mainly for safety purposes. The most common reasons are to talk about guys and take pictures though.
We mostly do it bc we get to talk about the guys (or other girls) privately among ourselves. We also get to borrow or help each other with hair or makeup. We sometimes take bathroom selfies to highlight our sexy awesome outfits. Other times, we go together for comfort or for safety reasons bc we know that we are stronger in numbers.
@YourFutureEx you can blame male #2 for screwing it up. if he just went to the far urinal guy 3 would have an easy decision. clearly male #2 was not thinking.
its not very complicated man, its for safety reasons. in general , that is. if its a familiar place, then its for just talking, company. in highshool, me and the boys always went together, to talk about girls and personal stuff
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