What does ''you're not my type'' mean?

[kobaro]

As my title says.. I want to what it means when a girl says to you ''you know what.. you're really cute, but you're not my type...'' This is a little bit my situation.. I met a girl like more than a year before.. talked to her.. tried to get her on a date, but she had Everytime an excuse! I'm sick in love with her and I've also told her, but she says that she wants me as a friend! why is that so? Is she afraid to lose me? Am I that ugly that she doesn't want me? there are hell of questions in my head, but it's all a bit difficult to type here... can someone help me with his/her wisdom? thnx ;)

[Anonymous]

Your situation reminds me of something that happened with me and a guy that liked me. You see, he was so nice, so kind, so sweet, but he was completely mad for me and that was the problem. He would change his interests to match mine, and whatever I said was right no matter what. He cared so much about me, I could tell that if I were to accept him and be his girlfriend, I would never love him as much as he loved me, and I would feel so guilty all the time. I had to tell him that he was a great guy, but not my type because I still wanted to be his friend.

You see, the problem might be that you are TOO much in love with her, and she feels like you will be more in love with her than she will ever be with you. She would feel guilty as a result and be miserable in the relationship. By doing this, in her mind she is protecting you from the inevitable heartbreak she will cause you. And believe me, that heartbreak would be so much worse than it is right now.

[kobaro]

wow! euhm may I ask you where you live (I mean country)? not because of stalking.. it just feels so damn right what say...

[Opinion Owner]

I'm from the United States, but I'm fairly certain that I'm not the girl in your story, simply because the guy in mine is currently dating my best friend (I set them up).

Anonymity is easier than using my actual profile because people would call me a "friend zoning bitch" and spam my other questions.

[aicarg]

I've had to say this to a guy before that kept trying to persuade me that we'd be good for something more than a relationship. I was so annoyed with him badgering me that I gave in for one date and at the end of it I told him again that, "I'm sorry I really do find you more of a friend rather than someone I live intimately". I simply didn't share an emotional connection with him, didn't share the same values which were core values, didn't feel that he had the ability to treat me in a way that I felt secure and would be able to fall for him.

[arrenopos_zeus]

I am curious to know what values were incompatible with yours? Or what did you expect in return. But ok I agree that persuing you it is fucking annoying and creepy.

[Twinkles88]

You are not ugly. She really likes you just not in the way you want her to like you. She is just not sexually attracted to you. This is not her fault or yours. If you are actually in love with her however you need to stop seeing her. Even as a friend.

[BasicFlake]

As @rgb008 said, it means she's just not into you. She's not interested. Saying that she wants you as a friend might be the genuine truth or it might be her offer of a compromise because she feels bad about not liking you in a romantic way.

[Nahid1234]

Not my type means they aren't willing to have a relationship with you 😊

[btbc92]

if she says that, the 9 out of 10 times it's your personality, your views and the things that you're into. you gotta remember something, this is less to do about your looks and more to do about what you're about as a person. she doesn't see you as somebody she can have a future with. let alone somebody that she needs in her life as a mate. and some people are just better off as friends if they're good people. plus you already sees that you're not compatible with her.

[estoydorado1]

I've met guys that I was really attracted to appearance and personality wise but we had different interest, priorities and ideologies so we just weren't compatible. That's what I mean when I tell a guy he isn't my type, if I'm not attracted to him, it might sound mean but if he approached me and asked me why I turned him down I'll be honest. I don't elaborate unless asked.

[Anonymous]

Everybody has a type that they always seem to go for. I find people attractive all the time but never go for them because they aren't the type of guy I see myself with personally. It can have something to do with your appearance, dress, personality really anything but not always in a negative way.

[sophieegm]

It means that even if she considers you a good looking person, she just doesn't feel that way about you and can't make herself. You can't control who you like, unfortunately.

[wittymilf]

It means that your good looking, but not attractive to her. Good looking doesn't make a person attractive that is a misconception.

[rgb008]

They're not interested but they're tying to say no in a nice way.

[kobaro]

she has literally says no to me, but she keeps chatting and talking.. that's the weird part of the story haha

[midnightcavern01]

It means you're a great friend but she can't see you anymore than that.

[KaithlynneZoë93]

I say you're not my type if the guy doesn't have some/ all of the qualities I've written down of what I want in a guy.

[Dorax]

maybe she just likes you as a friend, she likes talking to you and all but she just doesn't like you in a romantic way

[Anonymous]

It means "im not a dick but you're a bit ugly. But its alright."

[Prof_Don]

From girls, this usually means, "I like you as a person and as a friend, but i'm not attracted to you"

[PessimisticSerpent]

Not into you. For whatever reason, she's trying to let you down gently

[xXIamMeXx]

Well, usually when I say "not my type" it could be one of two things. It could be his personality, or its just a feeling that's difficult to explain. It just feels like I could never see myself dating that person. That may be the case here.

[jaydo12355]

For me, when I say that, it's because I might just not want to date them, because I want to keep them as a friend, or because I like someone else, or even sometimes, AI just don't want to hurt their feelings, hope I could help?

[Anonymous]

She probably doesn't feel a connect/spark. She doesn't find you attractive in a romantic sense.

[PrincessPie]

Doesn't find you attractive in that way :)

[Blonde401]

She's just not into you. It means what it says.

[Anonymous]

No matter what everyone says, it most means they don't find you attractive

[Anonymous]

It means she doesn't like you. Don't overthink it

[Anonymous]

u r friendzoned bro 😂😂😂

[kobaro]

hahahaha I know 😂

[Cosytoasty]

It means you're ugly, insert coin and try again.

[Bleepasaurus_RexEwww]

It means "ewww I don't want to fuck you"

[arrenopos_zeus]

hahahaha thats kinda cute

[OhWhoKnows]

She is not attracted to you. Move on.

[Anonymous]

you are ugly or you have the wrong ethnicity

[kobaro]

well that was a really short and powerful question hahaha

[wittymilf]

Looks and ethnicity also play very little in attraction. Hot guys of the right ethnicity can also be unattractive.

[Opinion Owner]

I get what your saying but I strongly disagree. It might be different at your age, but for young adults your physical attributes are head and shoulders the most important part in being attractive.

[JDavid25]

@wittymilf I agree with spnsfi.. Ethnicity plays a big role in how people choose.. Lol..

[wittymilf]

Oh.. I see, I was young once, I was attracted to any guy who made me feel alive.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I know what you mean, someone who's a good guy and fun to be around is important for attractiveness.

[BillieJean1070]

Don't bother me.