Why does this girl stares at me from a distance but ignore me at a close range?

[Anonymous]

[enirikiu]

Being honest, there are two possibilities I can think of. She might be really interested in you, or she might think you're a weird person (of course, I don't know you, so I wouldn't jump to that conclusion right away).

The first one is a possibility because that's exactly what I do, anyways. I have this crush on a guy in my graduating class right now. I always stare at him from a distance, but I look away if he ever looks in my direction, and when he gets close, I pretend like I don't know he's there.

Explaining on the first point more, I would do this because I want to look at him, but I don't want him to notice when I'm too close. So I don't take a risk with that.

Just a possibility, but nothing too sure in your situation. If you had some more details about her other behaviors or actions, I think we could figure it out.

[Asker]

hmm more details? okay, it has been almost 2 years I've been called handsome, cute or whatsoever again and again. She looks like a nerd and is probably good in studies. I frequently see her friends pointing towards me and ignoring the HELL OUT when i catch i them doing so. She seems chirpy while with her friends but goes numb when sees me around
. I once saw her running away on seeing me but she continued to turn her head and stare at me while walking ahead of me (she was all alone at that time). Will that be enough?

[enirikiu]

Pretty good amount of details. I'm going to describe the most favorable scenario. Assuming that you are handsome/good-looking in most people's eyes (including hers), I would say that she may feel like she is standing next to a pretty cute boy when she is near you. And assuming she is nerdy, she may feel like she does not fit while too near to you (physically). She may feel nervous. Your description of her behavior is most reminiscent of someone who has a crush. (On you.)

Also it is kind of similar to my behavior with my crush. I would definitely walk ahead of my crush. This is because when I walk behind my crush, I feel nervous that he might turn around and look at me, or see my face.

Walking in front of a guy, to stare at his face (but not directly, or he will notice), most girls will normally look a his face a little and dart their glance away. Or, they could do a sweeping glance and pretend that they are looking at something behind him or off to the side.

[Asker]

thank you. but what about when she goes quite and numb around me?

[enirikiu]

That would most likely be because she is nervous. Most girls who are kind of shy would definitely go quiet and almost freeze around their crush.

This is normally because when girls are around their crush, they don't want to say or do anything to make a fool out of themselves. Because if girls mess up around their crush, it's like their whole world has toppled over. Sometimes, girls can say or do embarrassing things at the worst times, so they tend to want to do what they can to prevent it.

[Asker]

okay.. can't thank enough..

[enirikiu]

Yup! No problem!