Why do girls play hard to get?

[Anonymous]

please tell me why women play THE I WANNA SEE YOU BOW TO ME CARD.ok so let me explain the story of my life.why do girls seem to be all flirty like, things are going great and then decide to ignore you, like she may say or suggest oh we should hangout soon whether through text, facebook, phone call what ever,and I will respond with yea lets hangout , but when it comes down to it she suddenly wants to act like she all of a sudden is soo busy or wants to ignore my phone calls, text etc. and I'm thinking to myself, this was your idea too you know, or what is your deal all of a sudden?.it's all most like she wants me to pursue her for a while, which I'm down for the whole chase thing but then it will drag on and on and on. and I'm like ok this is getting really annoying.i guess what I'm asking here is why the behavior?.and when should I say enough is enough without looking desperate or not trying hard enough?

[Blondie-411]

Girls play hard to get, because we are told guys like a challenge if we are to forward guys get bored or think we are easy and move on. But there is a limit on playing hard to get. If you do it for to long then guys like yourself will say screw it and move on which is the best option, because no one wants to chase someone forever. If you have already done the chasing and she doesn't pursue you she obviously doesn't feel the same and she just wants the attention. If the girl really likes you she won't play hard to get for long at a risk of losing you. Give it 2 weeks if she still doesn't pursue you move on she isn't worth it or not interested. Hope I helped good luck don't give up you'll find that right girl!

[-jess-]

i think at one time in every girls life she plays hard to get

but depending on the girl

their are different meanings behind it

one girl just might be testing your devotion to her

whereas another might just like all of the attention

if a date is blown off

just set another one

depending on how "in to her" you are

you have to go from there

if you've tried several times and it continually falls through with no plausible reason

it might just be time to move along

-jess-

[Asker]

Thanx girls that helps alot!

[ALWAYSclassy]

I play hard to get because I want to make sure the guy really likes me before I invest feelings into him. If you look at me as just another thing to do, I'm gonna know that by the amount of effort you put into me. It's not like I want to see a guy bow to me for the sake of it, but I don't want to come off too strong or desperate.

[Anonymous]

From a girl who has done both, these are my reasons. When a guy asks me out to hang out, I will do one of two things. The first, if I genuinely like him, I will try and pursue that activity in one way or another, like casually bring it up or I'm waiting for you to be a man, set up the activity and invite me to come along. Two, if I'm not interested in the guy but I want to be polite, I will say something like "Oh that could be fun" but never pursue it. I rarely do that last one though because it does lead guys on. I only do it depending on how uncomfortable the situation is and who is around me. If there's a guy I like around me I'm not going to turn guys down for fear that the one I like views me as a rejector.

[vintagelove10]

girls play hard to get because it plays with you, and makes you want more. for most guys anyways. but if we don't play with you and make it a challenge, you get bored, and you end up not wanting anything to do with us anymore. its kind of our way of getting you to like us.