I was too clingy in the past so how can I forgive myself?

[Anonymous]

Not clingy, really, but it was more like I gave too much of my attention to people (girls) who didn't earn it. I know my "sins" now and I vow to fix myself and become more secure, but now I'm having trouble forgiving myself for all the mistakes I made in the past. Is there anything I can tell myself that'll allow me to take it easy on myself? I know if I can just say somethings along the lines of "screw it, I had to make those mistakes to get where I am" and really believe it then I can move on to better myself. It's my only roadblock. Is there something someone out there that can tell me that those mistakes were necessary and that I shouldn't feel embarrassed or be too hard on myself for giving something to people who didn't deserve them who are now having their cake and eating it too?

[ShesMygirl]

The past is gone. Nothing you can ever do will change it. "I don't care what you've done...I only care about what you do next."

Look...do you like who you are right now? All those things you did are why you are you...right now.

Don't over think it. Quit beating yourself up over something that is beyond your ability to change...unless you been sneakin around my garage :)

Mistakes are how we learn. The price of wisdom is often pain.

Dude...we are our own worst critics. So you made some bad choices. So you gave too much. In a hundred years is it gonna to matter?

Well...would you rather beat the hell out of yourself...or live life?

If you give mistakes power...then they will have power over you. We get to decide who we are bro. Who are you choosing to be?

[rockmom]

its good you see your mistake but you're kinda obsessing about it. is that how you are with gilrs? its ok, everyone has quirks, as long as they don't interfere with every day life, they aren't disorders. and as you get older, you'll obsess a lot less over mistakes youve made and you will see how youve learned from them and changed your behavior. you'll appreciate that you are who you are because of all of your experiences.

[rockmom]

And when you get to the other side, don't look down on people who make the mistakes you did.