Why dont women care when men get hurt?

[Anonymous]

I know that's generalizing, but it still seems true to me! There are so many questions about kicking a guy in the nuts on here, and I know they were asked by a troll, but I find some of the answers girls give just shocking! Here's a prank video where the dude and a girl play a prank on the girls girlfriend, and she just knees him right in the nuts:

Can someone explain to me why kneeing a guy in the crotch like that is any better than punching a woman in the stomach? And why it shocks you so little that you can laugh about it? Its just as dangerous and more painful than a really hard punch in the stomach.
Imagine the roles were reversed. How fucked up that would be. So WHY DO YOU LAUGH?
Would you laugh if you saw your male friend get floored like that, in obvious pain? Would you sincerely feel bad, or just say you do?

It's a sincere question. It makes me feel like shit that girls think its ok to hurt men and laugh at their reaction. And that it seems to be so normal that we dont even realize it. I'm sick of constantly seeing that on tv and movies too.

[Starlight79]

1. Like the chosen-answer said - anyone who is genuinely laughing at you when you are hurt is not nice/doesn't care about you and that goes for any gender, especially (or mostly) when it's in person in a REAL-life situation.
2. There are CENTURIES of female abuse, subtle and pervasive misogyny, rape and violence towards women. The entire world (or to simplify for now; at least here in the US) is VERY VERY VERY male and penis driven. I know you may not think this, or realize it, and that's ok. But I promise you, whether it's homeless (or seeming nice) guys assaulting us, dudes sending us dick-pics, general "dick-focused" action movies and male-perspectives in ads being blasted out to us all the time, or violent and hateful comments being shouted at feminists, or even your male friends dominating conversations, it's a very male-dominant world. There is a lot of pain that women have suffered. It doesn't mean it should be a GOAL to hurt men in REAL LIFE, but when it comes to expressing a smidge of that well-earned (and often un-asked for) rage in a safe way, then you can get "hitting him in the ball jokes". It's a light way for a woman, maybe, to feel like she has some sense of power. Again, not saying it's in REAL LIFE kicking a guy. I'm talking about the simulation of it, like you show here, etc. Still, it's not nice and it's poor humor, and dumb, etc. But the reason it's not the same as a woman getting punched in the stomach is because that happens. Women get abused violently already by men, so commonly, that this is about turning the tables. It's SWITCHING THE NARRATIVE. Not saying it's the most heightened form of self expression, but you have to understand, and I hope, if you are sincerely asking this question that you will, that this is about very deep issues of gender equality. To me it 's a way that women can take back a sense of power that has been so commonly and often violently taken from them.
(Again, the simulation of it, not literally doing this to guys. I wouldn't ever want any guy I cared about to go through that in real life).
3. We have been surrounded by the foolish humor of "guys getting hit in the nuts" since the dawn of media. And quite often this is 99% male-created content because dudes seem to think it's hilarious. There are so many movies that rely on this stupid joke of a guy getting hit in the nuts. It's so ubiquitous that a lot of people don't take offense to it/don't take it seriously/don't realize it could offend anyone.

[Asker]

What I dont understand is why we always talk about women being just as strong as men, but never about men being just as vulnerable as women. I think this is why many men have a problem with feminism. It takes away their identity. If we can't take pride in being stronger than women, then why are we being laughed at when we're hurt and expected to take it? And why can you still say: A man has to be able to change tires, be good with computers and be technically gifted, but when you say: "A woman should be able to cook" you're a sexist pig?
I think a lot of women actually want men to embody the source of their worries, so they can take meaning in their suffering, feel like they are justified and maybe even take it out on us. But that's how a vicious circle starts. The anger about the way things are keeps us in place.
My point is: As long as men can't be as vulnerable as women, women can't be as strong as men. And I am sick of bearing the guilt for that

[Asker]

Also, I think the protection feminism offers women attracts a lot of insecure and angry girls, and women who have a deep hatred for men that they want to act out under the cloak of it, and this is why the feminist community has such a bad reputation nowadays. Too much representation by extremist freelancers.

[MagganM]

Well, I will say that as a woman I have never laughed at any man getting sacked, and I don't find it amusing at all. The girl in the video posted above is obviously an attention whore who enjoys finding ways to fuck around with people. I am not even sure why these types of "pranks" are considered to be funny. Why would you want to make your girlfriend/best friend (respectively) feel like this? Even if it is fake, that is just disgusting behaviour.

That said, if her boyfriend was in on it (and clearly he was) then he deserved it, I'm sorry. You do not do something like that to a person and not expect them to react in a negative (or violent) way. I threw a cup of hot coffee at my husband's head when I caught him cheating. I'm telling you right now that had he been close enough for me to strike him with my hand or foot I wouldn't have stopped hitting him.

Not that it's particularly related to the question, but it's probably prudent to point out that his girlfriend (or ex by now) did ask him to back off and he was stupid enough to approach her after she told him to get away from her. She gave him fair enough warning by thumping his chest and pushing him, clearly she was fully prepared to take physical action. And again, I'm not saying that it's okay to kick a man in the testicles, but when you don't listen I'm not sure what you're expecting to happen.

I have watched videos of men kicking each other in the balls and then laughing about it. In fact, isn't there some deluded game out there where guys tap each other in the balls or something? I'm not sure, but the point I'm trying to make here is that it seems (to me) that men go out of their way to put themselves in the position to be hit in the balls. So maybe women should laugh at them--not for getting kicked in the balls, specifically, but at their sheer stupidity.

This is not my opinion of all men, I have known many extraordinary and amazing men that would never deserve to be injured this way, and I do not make a point of finding any amusement in this sort of situation, even when the premise is funny.

[Asker]

The girls are a lesbian couple. The guy is the best friend.

[Asker]

And you wouldn't dream of defending such a physical action if the roles were reversed. If it was a man punching a woman in the stomach.

[Asker]

Especially with the reasoning " I dont know what you're expecting if you're not listening"

[Asker]

Also, if my girlfriend were to play a prank like this on me, would she "deserve" to be punched in the stomach so hard she falls to the ground?

[MagganM]

if you are asking her to back off and she continues into you personal space are you entitled to physically remove her from your personal spaces? yes.

I didn't watch the whole video, clearly had some facts wrong. I apologize. I still feel that some men deserve to get hit, and I feel the same about women.

[Asker]

I am asking if I can punch her in the stomach so hard she collapses, like she did with his balls. Not if I can "physically remove her from my personal space". Can you please answer that honestly with a yes or no.

[Asker]

And dont get me wrong. I absolutely have no desire to do that and I sure as hell wouldn't. I am trying to make you realise that kneeing a guy in the balls that hard is *literally* like me punching a girl in the stomach. And I want to know why women can't see that and dont care, or even find it funny, when something that would have them calling the police happens to a man.

[troychapman]

women should laugh at someone in pain stupidity or not laughing at someones pain is disgusting

[Twinkle_Little_Star]

Quite honestly, if a girl doesn't care if you get hurt... she's just not that into you. This is the same for any other human being on the planet... male or female.
If a girl is into you (i am into my boyfriend... i adore him) she's going to hate you being in any situation that might end in you getting hurt. Its going to make her anxious and she's going to want to "protect" you.
This obviously doesn't count for epicly stubbed toes and great, flailing falls... sometimes those are just funny. (Lets be honest, in those situations... you rarely get REALLY hurt. Come on)
This is really not a gender issue... this is just human beings interacting.

[Asker]

You need to watch the video. The girls are a lesbian couple. She knees her best friend so hard in the balls he collapses. The other girl just stifles a laugh. Afterwards none of them care, say he deserved it and even laughed. His feelings are clearly hurt. I can assure you no man would punch a girl in the stomach so hard she collapses for the same reason. No other man would laugh about it. And they would be sorry afterwards.

[Twinkle_Little_Star]

They really do not care. And they dont care much for him either. Its just the truth. It has nothing to do with his gender.

[Asker]

Its her best friend!

[Asker]

And come on, if this was a guy punching a woman in the stomach, they would be fucking shocked! The comments below the video wouldn't be as approving of it.

[Asker]

And no man would laugh if he saw a girl collapsing in pain due to assault

[Twinkle_Little_Star]

You're trying to find a complicated answer to a question that doesn't have one. They. Dont. Care. I'm sorry but thats the truth.
You and I both know that if they DID care... this wouldn't have happened

[Asker]

Hm you're right I guess :-/ but why do they say he's their best friend then? And why do people in general care more when a girl gets hurt, even if she gets hurt less than the man? Why do people make fun of an assault?

[Asker]

When a man is the victim

[Twinkle_Little_Star]

asking why people think assault is funny is a totally different question. People can say that a chicken McNugget is their best friend... if they cared... they wouldn't be doing this crap... seriously.
I mean think about it... filming and posting this on youtube doesn't scream "mature, adult and professional" to me... does it? You can't use mature values to explain immature actions.

[Asker]

Well I'm happy you see it that way... Still, I have a feeling that some girls think that different rules apply for men, because were bigger. That they simply dont realise that what they did is not ok... You should see some other threads on this topic on here. Most girls on here are reasonable like you, but a huge number of girls isn't ashamed to say that they would kick a guy in the nuts just because theyre pissed off and that it's fun to do. Girls tend to overestimate guys toughness...

[Twinkle_Little_Star]

Sounds like you answered your own question.

[Asker]

BUT WHY? XD nah I'm done freaking out. Thanks ^^

[Twinkle_Little_Star]

lol go ask a man who beats his wife and thinks its funny. Im sure you could get a similar answer

[Asker]

Yeah well the difference is when a man beats a woman we take it seriosly.

[olderwiser]

Many women seem completely ignorant that a single kick to the testicles can be enough to make a man infertile. Maybe many do not consider this when lashing out.

Guys and girls can both be Aholes, they can both have double standards.

We do live in a society of double standards - but they do seem to differ from country to country, so making generalizations about all women or all men is overly reductive.

If the video is real, is is not a "prank" - it is a form of passive aggressive abuse towards the subject that has no basis in comedy or debasing the establishment.
what is a worrying trend in society over the last 15/20 years is that the feminist movement was supposed to be about equalizing the sexes - to say that one was not better than the other and that both had equal rights.
This has been perverted by a section that uses built up hostility towards the other sex to justify reactions - such as violence - that they then decry as being "wrong"(because it is).
Violence towards men has been slowly normalized by parts of society due in part to mens historical violence towards women. The ignorant and stupid of this world tend to think that a tit-for-tat response is the correct one while it is simply exactly the same abhorrent behaviour being enacted by both of the sexes.

In an earlier post by a women it was noted that the subject in the video had warned the male approaching her, and this somehow mediated her actions. If the gender role was reversed and a man warned a women but still ended up hitting her - he would be in jail.
Equality means equality - not double standards.

[Asker]

Well I can understand why someone would lash out, lose control etc. but even after she knew it was a prank she still said he deserved it, showed no remorse, and the other girl laughed. Thats what really bothers me.

[Bananaman177]

I feel this way as well. Most women have no care or concern at all for men and see us as nothing but animals, I guess. Or objects. We're just dogs for them to "train" by being selectively nice or mean to us. They just use affection to manipulate us and they punish us according to how much we do what they want. That they call, "love."

That's really how I feel.

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[Anonymous]

Women don't consider the majority of men to even be human. It's amusing to them to see men suffer. All that bulldrek about women being nurturing and whatnot, it's all lies. Women are more sadistic than men could ever dream of, they just have to be sneaky about how they let it out because if they try to physically hurt a man, they'll get their ass handed to them. But if they cause him to suffer by other means (setting faggotass white knights on him, for example), they still get to enjoy his suffering and there are no consequences to him.

Learning about female nature is a real eye opener.

And now that I know all the things that have been hidden from me about them, I don't feel bad for ANYTHING I do to one, nor do I have any empathy for anything bad that befalls a woman. I'm likely to laugh at whatever it is, especially if it's something she brought on herself.

[Asker]

Maybe they feel the same way about us, and thats why

[Opinion Owner]

No. It's their nature.

You really should have typed this question into Google (or your favorite search engine, I should say). You might be surprised... nah, shocked would be a better word... at the results you get.

[Asker]

Yeah I've seen that shit that's why I'm here -.- I'm pretty sure it has something to do with perception and the social construct we live in... I dont believe that women simply ARE evil... They just really dont realise when they are...

[Opinion Owner]

Evil... hm, maybe not. Evil requires knowing 'right' from 'wrong', and doing wrong anyway.

Women don't operate like that. Whatever makes them feel good is 'right', and whatever makes them feel bad is 'wrong'. They're not evil or immoral, they are AMORAL. There's a big difference.

Men suffering is amusing to them; it gives them good feelings. Therefore, it's 'right' to them.

[Asker]

I had a similar thoughts about humans in general... the difference is we (as men) were conditioned to feel bad when hurting women, socially inadequate... truth is probably, they dont care because they dont have too... just because you can do something to us, doesn't mean you can do it to them. It's not threatening to them, so they dont care. I guess you can write it off to people being egocentric as fuck... not really a much brighter thought :-/

[Opinion Owner]

This is why the stupid and ignorant are happier than intelligent people that actually think about things. If your thought processes are as deep as a mud puddle, you never get into subjects like this. It's all bullfuck like what the Kasdassians are up to this week, or who's on the cover of which magazine, or who's fucking who now.

[RoryG131]

It is the same reason "men can not be raped" logic that so many use. We are men and it is part of being a man that we can not be hurt by silly girls. So if it is done by "the weaker sex" nobody thinks it is serious because men are stronger then women and he is just over reacting. I had this happen my kid ran to hug and headbutted my nuts which caused me to scream and fall over. My wife laughed because she thought i was exaggerating In reality i was in excruciating pain. Simply put. Women bitch about labor and pregnancy being painful but then ask to go through it again. The only men that asked to be hit in the balls a second time are the morons from the "Jackass: movies.

[Asker]

See, I would have laughed at that too :D (not without making sure you're ok of course).
Thats completely different than an act of violence.

[RoryG131]

Yes but the reaction is the same. You laugh when we are hurt if a man did that to a woman we would be classified and Male chauvinistic pigs. Even if it was an accident. Its the double standard.

[Asker]

Yeah, sucks :-/ I guess most people will never make an own attempt at empathy but will be as shitty as society lets them be

[Anonymous]

If you've admitted that you know you're generalizing here that women don't care when a guy gets hurt, then believe me when I say, if a guy or any of my friends was hurt by someone else, my instinct would be to help them or go after the person who tried to harm them. While you're pointing fingers here, you also need to point out that MANY a guy has laughed at a guy in pain or who gets kneed in the balls, or who lands on his balls in an accident. If you're going to have a fair analysis, it's only fair to point out that guys who KNOW what that pain feels like still laugh as much as some of the women who do it to guys and think it's funny.

[bananapeel20]

some women are just cold hearted creatures. I'd only knee someone there in self defense. Other than that kneeing a man is a no no.

[Asker]

Thanks :) that's not as self-evident an answer as i'd want it to be... Can I bother you to answer three more questions?

1. Did you always have that oppinion, or did it come with maturity?
2. How would you feel if you saw one of your friends get hurt like that intently and against their will? Would you only KNOW its a "no no" or also genuinely feel bad for him and be angry at the aggressor?
3. What country are you from? I feel like this is a cultural thing.

I think intent and consenst make a distinct difference in whether to feel amused or shocked in a situation like this... sry for (possibly?) bad English

[rasimataz]

Much like the suburban white male society has raised them with a in healthy balance of over consideration this makes it irelivent of others point of view or moral obligation to do what they tell others they take a stance with or for such as the felling of the "overly superior sex"

[Anonymous]

The only time I ever hit a woman was when my ex girlfriend thought it would be funny to knee me in the nuts In a club. In pain and blinded by race I slapped her so hard that she fell down. Stupid bitch tried to press charges at 2pm the next day but I had already gone to casualty with my bruised testicles and taken the club cctv footage to the police station. She got bound over by law for the assault.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know why women think it's funny but there needs to be laws that classes it as more serious.

[madhatters4]

there are people who don't care when people get hurt. to suggest that women or even most women don't care when a person is hurt is simply not true.

[Asker]

Well its definetely true people care more when its a woman getting hurt. Even if she gets hurt way less than the man.

[madhatters4]

it may be true. i don't know the research on it and i don't presume anything to be fact without any research to support that. and if it were true it still doesn't suggest that women don't care when men get hurt

[Asker]

Its just personal experience. And I dont think it's necessarily malevolent.

[Unit1]

You found random and stupid YouTube attention whore videos online and posted it while claiming, that women are sadists when men get hurt?

Don't give THOSE YOUTUBERS any of your power and attention. You just did.

[SamSTh]

Cause theirs something really funny about a dude getting hit in the nads.

[Asker]

Well yeah if its an accident. When it's an act of violence, how is it any funnier than punching someone in the gut so hard they collapse?

[HikerDude]

Because most women, like most men, lack empathy. They don't care about you or anyone else, save maybe a few close associates.

[Asker]

I never got to know anyone with real values... people just accept whatever society tells them is normal. Whatever differs from this norm is either "good" or "evil", depending on whether or not you can profit from it without violating the social norm

[keni101]

They should if im shot or stabbed and she's laughing she's getting shot or stabbed 2 we can both laugh about it then

[Daniel3035]

Because they get off on it they love it. That is a woman.

[Asker]

I dont believe that and dont want to :-/

[Daniel3035]

That's exactly because you don't want to. You don't know what women are really like until you see them. You think they're like girls in tv cartoons or movies pfft I wish. You may look at a girl and go there's no way she'll ever do anything to hurt me she loves me to much she will trust me you'd be surprised.

[Rancher1]

Since the dawn of time a man's roll is to provide for and protect women and children of their band and family. Women are the nurturers, but only if they feel safe or compelled to do so by that nature. Hope that helps.

[Anonymous]

Some boys like to be hurt. I like those boys. I'm a sadist.

[Asker]

There's nothing wrong with that in my eyes, as long as the guys agree to you hurting them. Going around kicking guys in the nuts without their permission for sexual pleasure is like grabbing random girls' boobs. Dont you see that difference?

[Opinion Owner]

think most women use it as a self defense technique TBH, and it also doesn't happen all that much.

[Asker]

Lots of girls do it when they decided that he "deserved it" and that's what I find fucked up. You can do it for self defense reasons or when he agreed to it, and that should be it.

[Smegskull]

because evolutionarily men are expendable and that is ingrained in our DNA.

[Asker]

You mean to behave as if were less worth?

[Smegskull]

it's not a matter of worth, evolution doesn't care about your definitions of value. If it was about worth, men being expendable would impart the males who survive with value anyway.

[Smegskull]

the top layer of your skin is expendable, does that mean it is of less worth?

[Asker]

But then why behave like this?

[Asker]

Why laugh and not care?

[Calix]

They generally care. They just don't care about ugly guys and worthless guys getting hurt

[Asker]

When is a guy worthless?

[Seppelson]

why can't I read the questions about kicking in the balls? I have never seen them

[rjroy3]

They can laugh and care at the same time.

[Asker]

But they dont. Watch the video. They pretend like nothing bad happened and even laugh about it, say he deserved it.

[rjroy3]

Yea, those girls are assholes

[Anonymous]

There is no equality when it comes to feelings... we are stronger and we are MALES

[cth96190]

Because, fundamentally, women hate us.

[SamSTh]

haha Amazing