I need answers and he can`t or won`t give them to me.. will you help me figure out what is wrong with me?

[easyBrezzybaby96]

i am having some trouble right now with the way i feel. I mean I can go on for days about my boyfriend and how much I love him and just things like that and I am a don`t talk about it , be ABOUT IT PERSON! I can`t stand a mother fucker who lies but sadly 90% of my life I have wasted over a LIE. So I been With my man (he's 48) (I`M 26) for almost 2 years now and neither one of us has much luck in the past (a lot of heart ache & 1night stands) but I mean I have really put ALL of me on the line and haven`t tried to hide anything from him and I treat him like A KING (i try) i mean i am a pervert and i like sex so fuck yea im down for anything sexual at anytime.(omg) but he works 5 days a week from 3am to 3-4pm so we dont get much time together other then weekends & maybe 1 hour in the evenings but he has talked to other women and i seen on his browser today "naked tiny woman" i mean whats so wrong with me? Am I really an ALL TIME FREAK! his last relationship he got used and abused i would never hurt him in anyway you know? i can't imagine it, he takes care of me financially always has since before we started dating we used to meet up a cpl times a week. but man i cook clean and MAKE SURE HE IS SATISFIED! can you please tell me why i keep getting treated the way I do when I am down to my last possible heart before is shatters. i mean i want so bad to get married, but if he is already talking to them then what else is he doing you know>>>

[SueShe]

Looks like he has probably reached his midlife crisis and needs something else. That is why he is into pornographic content and looks for something that attracts his attention.

Now, this "tiny women" can lead to a number of really disturbing facts. What does HE mean by tiny? Are they smaller women in size or could it be something much more serious and he actually means underage women?

Another problem I see in your relation is that you seem to place sex above anything else and that could be one reason why he is distancing himself. If both don't communicate about your problems and issues, you will never be able to settle those issues.

I suggest you prepare a list of issues you see in your relation and bring concrete solutions next to each problem. Ask your boyfriend to do a similar list and also to bring a way to settle each problem. Do those lists independently from each other. Next you sit together and go over both lists and try to find a consensus for each problem that is acceptable to both of you. Good luck.

[caring__1]

This is the reason it's important to do our research before committing to a relationship. Will we appreciate all aspects of the relationship long-term, or will we end up frustrated when the newness wears off?

It's hard to have much energy remaining after working 12 hours a day, especially as we get older. Focus on quality rather than quantity. He may look to the Internet when he needs a stress reducer, as he won't feel any pressure from that. The more pressure he feels, the more he'll avoid whatever pressure he can.

It appears you have a clear understanding of how you feel, but I'm not sensing you're understanding what's going on in him. He'll only share depth if he can feel safe doing so. Make sure you never accuse, assume, blame, criticize, demand, lay guilt trips, rationalize, or tell him what he should or shouldn't do. All those will just put him on the defensive and lead him to pull further away from you.

[Anonymous]

Quite simply. Because you allow it! Now I don't know him, so right now I'm just ASSUMING you're being truthful. If you're not we CAN'T help you. But if you are then you need to decide what you're willing to accept and what you're NOT, and communicate that CLEARLY! Healthy relationships come with mutual respect! If you don't have that then what are you doing?

[Guy13]

You got me 🤷🏻‍♂️

[roy_ricky09]

Oh boy... He must not ruin his life marrying you. That's the honest opinion.

[Anonymous]

I don't know.