Why would a girl say you deserve better than her?

[Aaron3344]

Knowing that the guy is a really good guy and he really likes her.

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I used to talk to this girl a while ago. In the beginning everything was going good. We liked each other. We talked on the phone almost every other day and text everyday. Then she broke up with her boyfriend a month ago I think and everything’s just went downhill. We don’t text as much as we used to and haven’t talked on the phone since like end of December. Jan 2nd she told me she really likes me and we can have definitely have something in the future. But rn she had to pay attention to her men

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mental health and there's some things going on that she doesn't want me getting caught up in. So, I gave her space. She ended up texting me on facebook telling me why she hasn't been talking and then a few days after she texting me on Instagram telling me why she hasn't been talking and that she's been really depressed. She said she feels shitty that she stops talking to people when she's depressed. I told her i missed her and she said she missed me too. I don't know if she actually did.

[Anonymous]

1. She isn't interested and it's a kind way to let you down.
2. She may have problems with confidence and self esteem. She may actually believe that she doesn't deserve you and that you can do better. So in her mind, she thinks that if she dates you, you'll one day find that she's not that great, and you'll meet someone better and then leave her for someone else, so she just won't give you a chance in the first place. I'm not saying that you will, I'm just saying this is probably what is going through her mind.

[Aaron3344]

2nd one makes more sense. She does have problems with her confidence and self esteem

[Opinion Owner]

With your update, I think it's probably #2. She thinks her mental health problems make her not a great dating prospect, that perhaps you'll get fed up dealing with them and leave her later.

[Aaron3344]

I couldnt post the full update. Too much detail. Mind if I can tell you? SO you can better understand?

[Opinion Owner]

Sure

[lilaqua]

She just might think you deserve someone better than herself. I've actually been in this situation. Sometimes you feel like the other person is so much more put together, attractive, charismatic and emotionally balanced than you, you might feel like him dating you is a waste of time since he can and deserves someone a lot closer to his own rank.

[MissDyno]

Because she doesn't feel the same way you do and you deserve someone who likes you just as much as you like them

[InfoBot]

Even if this girl is indeed into you she is giving you a warning, whether she really intends it to be a serious warning or not, and you should heed that warning. She is telling you that she will be trouble and the likelihood is that she will. This kind of admission is a serious red flag because either it is an honest acknowledgement of her inability to be consistent or it is an early excuse for her future shitty behaviour. The chances of something good coming out of this in the long term are slim.

[Aaron3344]

But just give me a chance

[InfoBot]

You may well come to question whether you should have ever taken that chance. You might get a chance but if you do I would bet you any money that it will be one of the worst decisions you've ever made.

[Aaron3344]

I don't know man

[zemjek]

It depends I think it means that she thinks that rationally she should like you because of your behavior toward her and you are kind and understand her. But in reality she doesn't control what she likes she is maybe more into another type of guys and most of the time "bad guys"

[Aaron3344]

I don't know..

[Ericthebarberic]

Because she wants to get away from you without hurting your nieav feelings...
Straighten up

[Aaron3344]

Chicken SAuce?

[hasrett]

She's not into you and doesn't want to hurt you.

[Aaron3344]

She was into me lol. I didn't like put a lot of detail because then now one would answer the question.

[hasrett]

No details no proper answer.

[Aaron3344]

I can't even update the question. The details are too much