Guys: I Miss You?

[half-pint]

Are the words I Miss You stated to a man equivalent to the words I Love You stated to a woman?

I've noticed when I say I Love You to my guy, I get yeah, OK, I love you too

But

When I say I Miss You I get, you OK baby? you need anything? Want me to pick you up for dinner? You wanna go have a drink?

Answers could be educational so hit me ;)

[CuriousEddie]

Why do you think they are equivalent? The response you get isn't the same.

I love you is a statement about a feeling.

I miss you is more of an indication of a need. The guy is trying to fill that need... and he responds by offering to spend time with you over dinner or a drink. Isn't that logical?

Perhaps if he was far away and couldn't be there, he might say "Oh, I miss you, too"... but if he was 15 minutes away and you tell him you miss him, wouldn't the best thing he could do would be to arrange some time with you?

[half-pint]

I guess I mean equivalent in the sense of what we want to hear. Women want to hear I love you and since I get a different response when I tell him I miss him I thought maybe that's what a man wants to hear...thats basically the question. No it's not logical because men and women are programmed differently. There are key words in life that have two totally different meanings to men and women, used in the same exact statement or question.

[CuriousEddie]

Hearing I miss you is nice because it implies that you are needed... and perhaps there's some primal things in guys to be a provider.

But, well, we like to be loved, too!

[half-pint]

Its gona be hard to pick best answer on this one, you guys are all answering very informatively, thank you! My guy travels a lot and I worry about him so much and I guess I miss him more than most girls miss their guy because of his traveling career. Maybe I'm confusing miss with concern.

[CuriousEddie]

If he is gone and you miss him, tell him that. Telling him that you miss him, you love him, that you were thinking of him, that he is always in your heart -- whatever you tell him, will mean something to him because it is what you are thinking and feeling.

There is no special thing for you to tell him in this situation except what you feel.... and most guys understand that there are different little meanings to all of these possible things... and will be glad to hear them all...

[anynymoooooose]

I don't understand the way you asked the question, but I miss you is a specific sentiment. I love you is nice, but it's almost a greeting after a while. I miss you is less common, and it means that you want him at that moment, which is nice. :)

[half-pint]

Ok, so if I miss him all the time just as much as I love him all the time...should I just tell him I miss him when I want to see him really badly? because I miss him on days when I don't need to see him

[anynymoooooose]

Well no don't use it so much, or else it might loose it's meaning. I honestly don't like saying I love you and all that so much because they get bland. Find other ways to say it if you can, but don't say it all the time anyhow or else you might seem clingy.

[anynymoooooose]

But yeah, I miss you can mean more for the most part anyhow. Like I said, I love you is easy to say and almost expected after a while, but I miss you doesn't usually have to be said, and it expresses vulnerability as well which I like to know sometimes, because if I really like her god knows what she does and when I see her affects me too. It's kind of a way of opening up.

[half-pint]

Thank you so much!!!

[anynymoooooose]

Lol sure, no problem :)

[Thiezz]

I guess 'I love you' is rather passive. You can love something/someone but not think about it for days/weeks/insert_long_period_of_time_here. When you say 'I miss you' it means you've actually been thinking about him :p

[half-pint]

So when is it too much though, I mean, when does it come off as needy?

[foolycooly1001]

They are not equivalent. It makes sense he would ask you out if you said you missed him. He might even worry you are feeling bad. if you have some secret meaning, just say it

[half-pint]

No secret meaning...some days I miss him more than others so I'm compelled on those days to tell him I miss him as opposed to telling him I love him, ofcourse I feel both everyday...just noticed lately that when I say I miss you he responds with urgency.

[foolycooly1001]

Maybe it's the way you're saying it

[half-pint]

I say it as I say I love you, most of the time, the initiator says it with an expectation of response so in the same tone as I love you but instead I miss you...it just seems that I miss you means more to him than I love you so just as a woman "needs" to hear I love you as validation I'm wondering if he, may not be all guys, but if my guy "needs" or "likes" to hear I miss you

[foolycooly1001]

Missing someone means you wish he were there. I love you is just a feeling. it's natural he would hear I miss you as a call to action.

[half-pint]

So am I placing him in obligation when I say this? And maybe not say it too much? I miss him all the time just as much as I love him all the time. which is why I'm askn this, you are being VERY helpful, thank you!

[foolycooly1001]

Not an obligation, but it means you wish he were there.

[dreamishobby]

see both 'i love you' and 'miss you' are used differently...while proposing someone, there are no words like 'i love u'...but after a while we start overdoing it...when ever we want to say 'bye' we say 'love ya'...so it's importance get degraded...when one says 'i miss u' the other person doesn't get any clear idea of d feelings and he starts to find out d meaning by himself...& that's why it is more interesting!