I love children. I've always been the one to naturally gravitate towards the children and watch over them. It just seems when I do this, the women I'm trying to attract look at me funny, and not in a good way.
Do women find it attractive when men are great with children?
It really depends from person to person regardless of gender. If the person wants children themselves and to have a family, then they would find that trait attractive. If it's someone who wants to be childfree and dislikes children, then they prefer a partner that shows no interests in having children. Childfree people wants their partner to respect and treat other people well which includes children, but they just aren't interested in having some. From my experience childfree people often prefer not to have responsibility for any children themselves, but is totally fine with other people's children when they're well behaved.
So I would say it's very individual and that people are too different to generalize in this case. It's true majority of heterosexual women prefer tall men and men prefer feminine women. That's more common and therefor is easier to call it typically.
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Personally, I haven't seen it happen. I'm great with kids. I honestly wonder if most girls don't somehow just assume I'm some kind of sicko. That's what it seems like.
It's never been a thing that ever made any woman see me as worthwhile. None of the stuff that I've heard has ever been enough to make a woman want to date me. Great sense of humor, can make them laugh, good with kids, has a job, etc... never made any woman take notice.
I think if you're good looking, and make great money, then being ok with kids gives you that halo. If you're ugly, and don't earn a lot, but you are amazing with kids, that makes you a weirdo - which is really sad.
you are 21 and may look very young. women may not see you in a way of being mature and attrictive to protect her and her kids... may think you are a young kid yourself and like being a kid lol when you get older and have your career set, woman will love that quality in you.
i do find mature looking men with kids very attractive. i was in ikea, this father maybe in his 30s with 2 little girls.. he was busy with stuff the 2 little ones follwing him around... saw them again, he parked next to me. i told him he has 2 very wonderful girls.
my boyfriend is very good with my kids that makes me want kids with him becasue i can see that he is responbile to take care of kids. i have complemented how good a father he can be with our own if we have one
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They probably find it weird you rather pay attention to the children than to them? They would feel the same if it were anything else.
Someone who really likes you will find it great. You're also pretty young, so maybe it will also take a while before you find someone who can appreciate that quality and not think just about themselves.
I certainly find it attractive. I think there's a bit of a stigma with men who are good with children... Looking after children is supposed to be "women's work" and so a lot of people just think that any man who's good with children and gets along with children is either not a "real man" or he has some suspect motications.
Bloody nonsense if you ask me. I was raised by a single father and I know from experience that a man can be just as good with children as a woman.
My heart melts whenever I meet people like you. I think it's one of the traits I find the most attractive in a man. To give you an idea, I had crushes on guys I wasn't attracted to at all at first after having them seen around children. I guess it's because I looove children so much that I have that reaction :)
Absolutely. It shows you have patients and will be a great father someday. Not to mention I feel a man who loves children has a great soul. And if you can get down to their level it shows you haven't grown up too much to be a little childish. I love watching my so with our daughter. It melts my heart.
Well, I love children, but I know girls who don't like children at all. So it will depend on how much the girl likes babies and little kids.
Me, as I said, I love spending time with children. So if a man loves them too and I see he's good with them he will look more attractive for me.
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There is an disgustingly unfair stigma men suffer if they are good with kids. It’s considered feminine or worse.
I remember hearing a story of a man who rescued a lost 2 yr old girl (guy was a father himself) at a softball game in Florida. The girls dad wasn’t watching her and she walked away. But he later saw him with his daughter. He ran up to him and beat him up. The cops showed up an determined the guy really was a Good Samaritan after taking several witness statements. Instead of apologizing & thanking the Good Samaritan the POS father posted pics on the guy all over social media with his address accusing him of being a pedo. The poor guy had to move out of town.
Imagine if that entire scenario played out except the Good Samaritan was a woman?
However with that said most women like guys who are good with kids. If you are good with your nieces/newphews or younger cousins it reflects good father instincts.
@lnghrn_fan88 unfortunately there are some disgusting oxygen wasting walking POS child molesters out there and they are mostly male (female middle / HS teachers get a free pass). But the vast majority of men wouldn’t even think of doing something like that.
But yeah that was a true story. Even after the little girls father was told by police the guy was trying to do the right think he tore into him anyway.
I've yet to meet a girl who doesn't find it attractive and I'm speaking as a guy who generally doesn't like kids. There are a handful of children that i'm cool with and that includes my bestfriend's oldest daughter Summer who I used to play with before they moved down state </3 and another friend of mines child. Other than those two, kids need to stop looking at me, because I want nothing to do with them lol.
Men are the conquerors, the hunters and providers. Being a mom is not your most desirable trait. It's fine and noble that you want to care for your offspring, but don't let it shadow your first responsibility of being a real MAN. If you don't give her the vag-tingles it will dry up, you'll get none, and she's likely to cheat or bail. So it's good to be well rounded, but focus first on being a big strong beautiful man first.
If it's someone I fancy, it kinda makes me anxious because I don't like or want children. If it's someone I've no romantic interest in, I'm pretty indifferent about it.
I think its great when a guy is good with children, especially if he doesn't have children. If he has a children with another woman and didn't stay with her - it will be a negative but won't completely make me discard him as an option.
Totally!! It usually shows us that you have a sensitive side and seeing you being so caring with a child makes us trust that you will be that way with us.
It depends on the woman. Personally, I find it attractive because it shows how caring you are as a person and that you would make a good parent in the future. Some women want that while others don't.
Oh yes, definitely. There's nothing more attractive than that. (okay maybe there is but yopu get my point) At least in me it sparks very nice feelings towards the guys when they're nice to children.
I think some women like it because it shows they would be a good father, I personally don't want kids but I still find it attractive because it reveals a gentle, sensitive side of his character that men don't usually show :)
They have too its not a question but a biological necessity to have a partner who will help, be good, and not leave at the sight of children. Single mom life sucks.
well okay then I got a down vote. Not sure if I know why. When I say keep in mind of boundaries I'm talking about if you're being all up on someones kid. Like picking them up and flipping them upside down. They might find that annoying not attractive if they're just getting to know you. My friend is like that with her kids. It's the only reason I'd think a woman would look at you funny for it.
Depends on the girl/women if a guy is good with children even before they have some of their own then it just means they are gonna have a connection with their own kids at some point.
Maybe they think you are into kids? It's a different world these days. But I'm the same way. I only interact with their children to show them the depth of my commitment to each other
Yeah I don't know... I'm good with my friend's daughter I love her like she was my own daughter and I don't have kids, I think smirked... didn't know how to read it.
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