How to deal with mean, controlling, girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Hello,

I need some advice on how to handle my girlfriend. We've been together off and on for about 5 years now. But over the 5 years I've watched her slowly change into the person she is today.

We argue over the dumbest things daily. She constantly brings me down, upsetting me or making me angry. I haven't seen her crack a smile in weeks. And lately she's been doing everything she knows upsets me.

Just recently she started telling me things that I say are stupid. For example I said maybe she should find a new hobby, and in response she told me that was one of the stupid things I say.

There's a lot more but I don't feel like making you guys/girls listen to all my problems =P.

Any advice? Thanks.

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Oh, and I tried talking to her about it but every time I do, she just ignores and starts telling me the things I do wrong or whatever she doesn't like about me.

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Thanks everyone for the answers, I can't pick which is best!

[arier38]

Yeah, I have to agree with everyone else. It sucks to say it but the best thing for both of you is probably just to end it. She obviously doesn't want to try and make the relationship work and you have obviously been trying. If she is not willing to make changes then there is no hope. I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 years as well and I understand how you would feel about breaking up with her. But there is no easy way out of this one. You can't stay in this relationship if it is constantly hurting you. It will be very difficult at first but that is what friends are for. Just keep yourself really busy and don't think about it. Sorry, I know exactly what this would feel like. Good Luck

You deserve Better

[Anonymous]

Seriously? Why are you still with this girl?

Let me guess, you "really, really love her deeply" and this is probably your first serious girlfriend?

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but this relationship is over. She's not going to magically change all of a sudden. What's going to happen is the situation is going to get worse and worse until eventually she ends the relationship. Why her? Because it sounds like you don't have the stomach for it as you just let her walk all over you (she's very aware of this and doesn't respect you for it, feeding her foul comments).

It's time to free yourself and move on. There are so many better girls out there, don't be afraid.

[MessyTruth]

i agree with everyone else. you're still really young. you shouldn't have to be working on a relationship. you should be enjoying life. end it.

[Erikeee]

look, regardless of what ever because I'm sure she has her side of the story too...point is if your aren't happy, then break up.

[cjblondi08]

get your balls back!lol don't take that the wrong way :) dump her and move on

[The-Romanian]

I concur with the guy who commented first.

But, so you get a better understanding; You say she brings you down, nit picks,starts arguments, etc.

She has either completely lost interest in you. But, still wants you there for convenience. As you've proven that no matter how much grief she gives you, you'll put up with it and stay and/or come back.

I know some people will stay with the person they're with for the convenience factor, or emotional factor(even if they're the ones putting up with someones sh*t.) This will lead nowhere, and continue being the unbearable cycle it has become.

[jimi_s]

You know, imagine one sunny day, you are walking somewhere; you see an interesting looking rock and you pick it up to examine it closer without much thinking but because it is a hot day, the rock has been baking in the sun for a while and it is too hot to touch so, immediately, you drop it?

Well, that's what you should do to her, in my opinion.

In other words, I agree with everyone else.

[tt840537]

Get rid of her.

Tell her that this sh*t ain't cool and she needs to cool the f'k down in a serious tone in a nicer but firm tone and if it doesn't change, dump her. Like all the girls say, get your balls back.

[dtaijo174]

Dude cut and run. I'm sure she has her side of the story, but I can't imagine being with the person you are describing! You are painting an awful story!

[BerryCherry]

dump her, easy as that.

[scroggle]

break up with her?