How do you deal with a bossy girlfriend?

[spartan123]

My girlfriend tends to be bossy sometimes which I don't mind but sometimes she goes to far and I want to put my foot down. We both are strong characters and she likes to think she "wears the trousers" in the relationship. But I'm smart enough to let her be bossy over little things but when it comes to things that matter I take control and decide.

She knows I'm not a push over and I know she's not but we do compromise. In general woman do like to take control over men I think but I'm not one of those guys who accepts that.

What's the best way with dealing with a bossy girlfriend?

[toulouse]

@but when it comes to things that matter I take control and decide.

You mean things about _you_ or things about the relationship.

She shouldn't be making decisions for you, nor you for her. you sound like you 'allowing' her to be bossy, when it doesn't matter, id really you trying to be extra super bossy. both are immature.

if you are both trying to make decisions for the other person, as far as concerns the relationship, you're being irrational and disrespectful, and would benefit from some serious honest communication.

if you can't work things out together, you shouldn't be together. a romantic relationship, is relational. not dictatorial. sounds like you two have control issues.

[onemoreplease]

It sounds like it is part of her personality, and taking charge is just the way she's used to handling things. It could help if you tell her that you've noticed that sometimes she gets stressed out and you want to help her next time that happens- either by helping to figure out the situation or by helping her relax. Just like you have been willing to accommodate her to keep the relationship going, she should do the same for you. I'm speaking very generally here, but I think that women appreciate a guy who can clearly speak his mind and articulate what HE wants even more than a guy that they can "boss around."

[NoOneListens21]

if it's just the little things that you let her take control of and it doesn't bother you - then how is that really being bossy. If she's trying to move in and take control of everything then that's different I suppose. If you think she is being bossy then tell her how you feel because if she is bossy and likes to take control then she's not going to be to fond of taking order from you either. =/

[smallguy]

You both don't see it right. Two strong characters is not a good recipe for a future strong bond relationship there should be a lot more talk about what you think and what she thinks is important.

my late wife was very bossy because she was kind of tomboy however very flirty and physically strong and she had good curves bringing a lot of attention from men when she was young.

Is my experience, women are and will be more assertive in a relationship and whatever they may do or say it always subtle so yes they act,talk very differently to men.

[InquisitiveMale]

I can't make heads or tails of your situation. You contradict yourself at every turn.

Answering the title question while ignoring everything else you said... you deal with a bossy girlfriend by standing up for yourself and not allowing her to push you around. Simple really. Speak your mind and enforce your opinions.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I can be bossy at times, but I like the guy to override me and take control. Don't let her run wild and run over you, you still should be the man and put your foot down when needed. like let her get her way when it comes to certain things but I would say most women want a man who is the dominant one, not the one she can control

[Tamikaze]

You sound like you are doing way better than the average person would. In fact, I don't even know what you are asking about. You say you are not a pushover and you compromise and tend to give in only on small issues. If this is really about who is in control, well neither of you should be or it will just end up in a power struggle or resentment.

[Konnour]

You tell her to shut the f*** up and from now on to take YOUR orders, if she got a problem with that - let her go, you're better off without being bossed around by a girl!

...disclaimer for other readers - dealing this way is OK only if your girl actually tries to boss you around, never do this if your girlfriend acts normally.

[bijinbijinbijin]

you guys should be able to talk about your issues and if one of your issues is that she is bossy, then tell her. If you really can't get passed this issue then either live with it or break up.

[lee-cooper]

it would be helpful if you could provide an example

[amanj1990]

Always say okay to her to shut up, but never do it 😁 100% work, I been told by my grandad

[sixstring]

"Stop trying to boss me around, or it's over."

[bijinbijinbijin]

yeah I agree, it really is this simple.

[Yeahhbro]

just don't do what she tells you to, easy

[Anonymous]

leave them

[MrReal]

End it.