How to handle your girlfriend when she gets snappy?

[dtaijo174]

I’m definitely an Alpha male kind of guy. I don’t take sh*t from people, but at the same time take jokes for what they are. When people disrespect me, I let them know it’s not OK usually in a stern, but controlled & polite way. My new girlfriend is interesting… she has a bit of a temper and I don’t like it. Something will go wrong and she’ll get snappy. I’m not sure what the best way to handle it is. I always took my role as the protector to a girl and not to get too aggressive with them. In my past, I usually tried to be super nice and discuss small problems. However, this doesn’t work with my new (6months) girlfriend & she gets my blood pumping.

Many times it has gotten to the point where I’ve raised (booming yell is more like it) my voice at her. She shuts right up like magic every time! Not only that, but she usually apologizes and moves on very quickly. It’s like she’s looking for me to put her in her place…

If I try to discuss things in nice way, she gets even more riled up. She’ll bring it up later and the cycle will continue until I get angry. The only other thing that seems to work is if I completely ignore her when she starts snapping… I’m not passive aggressive and that’s not my style.

What to do?

[999freakshow]

Me and my boyfriend (of 8 months) are like that. I have no idea if I'm crossing the line untill he just explodes and lets it all out in screams and then I just shut up and apologize and later take it out on him with another subject and this goes on and on. Luckily we realized this and are currently trying to balance everything out. You should tell her what pisses you off and what you don't like without yelling just warn her. These types of relationships are better in my opinion, more passion when you're both fighters. But you are the man in the relationship you need to stand your ground in a controlled, polite yet warning way so she can get what's going on in your head and what's waiting for her if she doesn't controll herself. P.s. you have to be very tolerant of her moods. I know we women have all sorts of crazy moods that change within seconds, which is why you should pay attention to that so you can respond the right way.

[nevergivinguponu]

You want an equal partner but not a combative one. She sounds like she gives you a run for your money. Good, it's about time you met soomeone whose going to mix it up with you. :0 But there has to be a balance. My man and I are like you two. We are working on how and when to let an argument go so it doesn't keep revisiting us. No, she doesn't want you to put her in her place. She wants to be able to speak her mind and voice her opinion but she does need to know when that line is crossed. You could let her know nicely that she is crossing the line and you are getting upset. You don't want to raise your voice but you are feeling pushed. It's a good think that you are looking for insight on this. It does sound like she gets you to feel a whole host of emotions you are not familiar with or used to. Now if you could both channel that to good it could be a very passionate never boring relationship.

[marshmallowqn321]

Put her in her place and warn her that if this continues... you're not sure how long you can take this. That will make her question whether her actions are worth losing you. I'm totally like this girl and have dated guys like you before haha

[yengesi]

The type of respect you're talking about is something you earn, not an innate right you're born with. People who feel they need to "put others in their place" have rarely earned the respect they think they deserve.

For most people, I'd say your best option is to learn some humility and have an adult discussion with her. However the fact that she's dating someone with your attitude makes me suspect that she's into game playing and probably wouldn't hold up her end of an adult discussion either. So, the two of you are probably doomed to suffer through a classic gorilla/bimbo relationship until it implodes and she leaves in a big dramatic scene with you throwing things at each other and yelling things you should regret. Given that, the only advice I've got for you is just enjoy it while it lasts and don't worry too much because you won't have to put up with it for long anyway.

[Jonny_]

If it's about your own views or your own opinions, you stick up for yourself... she'll admire it more than if you wuss out on your own views. But if it's ever about what she wants to do, or her views, it's better to take more of a backseat. If you aren't happy with what she wants to do, I'd suggest my two cents, if she doesn't see your side of it, back down. Definitely don't question her opinion, she'll see it as arrogant. If you want to have a go at something she likes, say that you don't like it and this is why you don't like it. Don't tell her she's wrong. That just gets you in all sorts of trouble. It takes some time to get the balance right... Girls I've been with think I'm a nice guy, but at the same time they know I'm not a complete walk over.

[Yeahhbro]

Easy just let leave her talking by herself. Go somewhere else, do somethign else when she is being a pain, don't bite into her spoiled behavior. She is obvioulsy being abrat and its just crying for attention and control. Just ignore her and go and do somthing that you like instead. When she is calm act like nothign happened.Obviously if she is calm and wants to talk do it, but if she doesn't she can go and pull her own hair by herself.

[Anonymous]

lol your girlfriend sounds like me. I am pretty snappy, and have a little temper. I need someone that can put me in my place when I need to be put in my place! I was actually talking to a new guy recently, and every time we'd argue, he'd say man we argue like a married couple (we would just pick at little things nothing serious) and he'd laugh it off, so I didn't think it really bothered him, because he never got angry with me, and he too has a temper, but never towards ME. If he didn't laugh it off, he would just ignore me, and tell me later that I pissed him off. Well he ended up breaking things off, saying we argued to much. I didn't understand this, and asked him to work it out, but he refused. I didn't realize the arguing was bothering him so much, because he never expressed or told me it was. The arguing was over little things, that could have been avoided, he always laughed, so I didn't think it was a big deal. Put her in her place, she may change her ways. G'Luck!

[Anonymous]

you actually sound like a douche who tries too hard, not a real alpha male

but anyway you should try to relax her "snappy attitude" as you see it come on. girls will always have tempers or be crying or emotional about something, your job is to calm her down. there's ways to do that without screaming at her or taking sh*t from her like a bitch.

[Anonymous]

If you're not happy with the way things are going, end it. No point in being in something you don't want to be in.

[Anonymous]

EW. You sound like a complete douche. Alpha-male? what alpha-male? Stop trying so hard, and don't yell at your girl. She has feelings too, and you should respect that. I'm so glad there are better guys in the world then you.

[Anonymous]

you shold be really straight up with her and just say take it leave it.

just be very straightforard

[Chelseax3]

beat her.

[JustDance]

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