What are the signs a female is using you as a emotional tampon?

[Anonymous]

But is using the I’m your friend as a disguise.

[dantetheexplorer]

If she is using you as an emotional dumpsite but every time you bring up your own worries and concerns she changes the subject to herself, then you know that this is one toxic relationship you do not need in your life.

Friendship is about reciprocity.
If there's no reciprocity, it's just an acquaintance, and a bad one at that.

[Asker]

Thanks for this. This pretty much confirm what I already knew. She is using me. There is no reciprocity. I could ask her to hang out and she’ll say she is busy but doesn’t offer a alternative time. When I tell her a story about myself she’ll flip it to make it about her.

[dantetheexplorer]

Mate, people who always find some way to make the topic of conversation about themselves even when you're talking about yourself are people you should generally avoid. Yes, most people enjoy talking about themselves, but if they don't care about you in the least, it's time to cut your losses and whamooz out of there.

I think you'll make the right decision!

[Anonymous]

Female friends tend to dump emotional problems on each other. If you can’t dump back it’s not an even friendship.

Also if she’s really your friend, and doesn’t want to fuck you, shed help you get laid with some other girl. If she’s not doing that... she’s not your friend.

[Asker]

Yea I agree. When I try to dump my problems back on her she’ll make it about her.

[311WasAnInsideJam]

#1: Do you frequently wear a fedora?

#2: Do you have a beard on your neck?

#3: Do women owe you sex because you were polite to them?

If you answered yes to 1 or more of these questions, then yes. You're being used because "nice guys finish last" and because she's "only into Chads" 😂😂😂

[Throaway1234]

What a dishonest, disingenuous answer. "Owed sex" is a straw man and cop out. What he's talking about are one sided "friendships" where women suck up all your emotional energy to dump on you, but never return the favor. They see you as and will sometimes literally refer to you as a male girlfriend or "gay bestie" when you're not gay and when she knows you're into her. Women frequently capitalize on weak willed men who they know they can exploit, and then when the man actually grows a pair and walks off, that's when she panics and blows up your phone for the first time because that free meal ticket is slipping away. Seems women need to be reminded they are not "owed attention"

[Anonymous]

Try talking about you. If she’s not into it, ditch her.

[Asker]

I don’t have many opportunities to do that. We mostly talk about her issues with men. If I tell her a story about myself she’ll flip it to make about her

[Opinion Owner]

She sounds boring. If there’s no reason you enjoy spending time with her, stop.

[Asker]

What’s crazy is we don’t spend time together. We haven’t seen each other in 9 months. I ask her to meet up and she always says she is busy. Nobody is that busy, she just doesn’t want to hang out. She doesn’t even come up with a alternative date to hang out if she can’t.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re answering your own question. Why even bother with her?

[Asker]

I honestly don’t know. Maybe I like toxic people in my life. I think it’s because I’m introverted and I don’t have many friends so I settle for anything.

[Jaysonava]

He's young and naive I think.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like you’re getting zero. I get you want some female attention, but hers seems without value. Branch out.

[Throaway1234]

Ghost her. Seriously. Not another word. I wouldn't advise blocking her right away. Let her text you 5-6 times and watch then panic ensue, have some fan, THEN block her. But don't speak to her ever again. She's a selfish user of the worst kind and deserves the pain of ghosting. And she will regret it, not because she cares about you, but the loss of dopamine will starve the beast until she finds a new host to parasite off of.

[olderirishguy]

When her name is Anne-Marie n she's from Dublin n drops you as soon as you're no use to her after 10yrs of the closesr friendship that could possibly exist between two human beings. Bitch.

[Rogzi]

If you haven't fucked, then I've got bad news for you home boy...

[Asker]

I thought you don’t tuck your female friends?

[Rogzi]

Oh. Shit man. You kinda screwed yourself on this one. Where the hell did you get that idea?

[Asker]

I don’t know I just thought you don’t do that.

[Rogzi]

Well, now you at least know what the problem is.

[Asker]

So if I ain’t fucking I’m wasting my time?

[Rogzi]

If you're invested so emotionally that your feel like you might be a "tampon" and you're not smashing, you're being played.

[Asker]

I agree

[Jaysonava]

First sign

She is a female

Second sign

You are a guy

[Anonymous]

she's only available when she needs you, but isn't when you need her or want her

[Asker]

So if she is mainly coming to me about her problems but when I reach out 99% of time she says she is not feeling good or depressed, pretty much she is using me? Also she never initiates any meets up or accept mine

[Opinion Owner]

pretty much. she's just using you

[Asker]

Yea man it’s sad that I allow this. I should cut her out my life and move on but it is hard to me.

[Opinion Owner]

oh, trust me. you have NO IDEA how hard it is

[Ultimate_Gohan]

She's only contacting when she needs u

[Asker]

Yea pretty much what she does. If I reach out she seems uninterested. She’ll say I’m sad or don’t feel good but when she text me she expects me to go out my way. Plus she never wants to hang out.

[stormbreaker06]

she calls you a friend.

[Anonymous]

You are stuck up her ass.