What are the signs of a controlling girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I'm asking a serious q so please help me understand what are the signs?

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or wife or a woman in a relationship..in general :)

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What if a man did/say something she didn't like? what would a normal woman do vs. a controlling woman do?

[MsBlack_Beauty]

Jealousy

Watch out for partners who are insecure or jealous. Jealousy can lead to domestic violence, the most dangerous aspect of a relationship with someone with a controlling personality. Make sure you only enter into relationships with people who respect your need for independence and who trust your fidelity. Run the other direction at the first sign of unjustified or irrational jealousy.

Easily Angered

Look for a short temper and the inability to see things from other people's perspectives. Many controlling people use anger and conflict to manipulate others into doing what they want. If you are not comfortable engaging in conflict, you probably will find yourself giving in to the opinions and desires of a controlling person with a temper.

Forceful

Are opinions expressed in such as way that they can be discussed or is everything presented in a black or white format to the point that you feel you have to agree? Watch out for forceful people who insist that their way is the only way. You might admire a person for being confident and assertive, but watch out for a personality that goes beyond positive to forceful and uncompromising.

Manipulative

Some controlling people are subtler than others. Beware of people who use guilt or weakness in an effort to manipulate you into doing what they want you to do. These people may not intimidate you the way the forceful or angry people might, but they can cajole you into a submissive position through their manipulative techniques just as easily. You will recognize them by the way they play the role of the victim, making you think you are wronging them if you don't do the things they request.

Demanding

Controlling people deal with insecurity by making demands on you and telling you how bad you are if you don't meet those demands. If you realize your partner is making unreasonable demands as a method of manipulation and control, tell him the deal is off. You'll be happier with a person who understands mutual respect and cooperation.

[tyt_2012]

Best answer imo, well structured

[ArtistBboy]

Agreed. I think this answer is what your looking for QA

[Undoubtable]

I couldn't possibly add anything to this.

[jesshkah]

telling him what to do, what to wear, what to eat, when to do things, how to do things, asking where he is all the time, demanding to know every aspect of his life, taking over his hobbies and friends and everything in his life.. etc. etc.

[tyt_2012]

Calling all the time asking where he is

Not allowing him to speak/look at other girls

Keeping tabs on him

Controlling his life, what he can/can`t do

[martyfellow]

If she is always making remarks about your looking at other women, talking to them, etc., that's the most obvious sign. If she doesn't let you go anywhere without her wtihout complaining, that's another classic sign.

[Asker]

What if you did/say something she didn't like? what would a normal woman do vs. a controlling woman do?