I'm absolutely disgusted and sick and tired of seeing females do this?

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So many times on here I've seen it and I've been a victim of it as well.

Some men do it, but I see more females do it than anything.

Blaming the victim of being raped.

It's not the victims fault. Could things have been different leading up to the crime? Probably. But it's never the victims fault. The person who commits the crime is at fault for not being able to control themselves. It doesn't matter if she's wearing a shirt dress or skirt, or if she's black out drunk. YOU DONT TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HER!

We already have enough hate and so many problems with sexism in this world that we don't need to add more problems. I have been raped and the only thing that makes matters worse is when people say, "well what were you wearing?" Or "were you drunk?" Or "well you shouldn't have done that."

The victim shouldn't be blamed for having been assaulted, especially when the victim is in an unconscious state of being. Seriously, men and woman, why in your head would it ever be ok to blame the victim?

It should NEVER EVER be ok to blame anyone for something that happened to them, unless of course they do it to themselves, like self harm or something like that. (Probably a bad example but you get my point.)

So, this question stems from a post I saw today and one girl commented, I'm not going to copy the whole thing but her first statement was this, "that was very irresponsible and you make all other females look bad."

Then she went Into blaming the question poster and I said, "the only one making females look bad right now is you."

Girls, we need to stick together, we have to be strong with another or all the work that we've done and that all other female activists have done will go to shit.

I don't want my kids to grow up in a society like this.

I think it is very wrong to blame the victim. It doesn't make matters better.

DaRealEazyE · Accepted Answer

I agree with you but being a victim of false rape claims
I just think somethings need to stop when it comes claiming rape
Such as: claimin rape when you initiate a sexual situation and proceed to be unclear about your discomfort, claiming rape after a night of drunken reckless just because you're ashamed of the persob you slept whether it be bc of their attractiveness, race, age, etc, we are adults and when you choose to drink you are making a choice to impair your judgement, I've seen it one too many times where an African American male is being accused of rape after hooking up with a caucasian woman at club and then the next morning she screams rape and his lifes over, the last instance is one where your partner claims rape when you try to wake them up with a sexual act, we are a couple whats mine is yours and vise versa, if you're uncomfortable with something say it we can talk about like adults dont just leave and up and claim rape

Lee sorry if I upset you but you have to see it like this nowadays there's peoples lives being ruined by claims such as these

Kaazsz · Accepted Answer

I think statistically most women are raped by family members and shit like that. So the idea that what a woman dresses entices a man to rape her is absurd.

If a man rapes a woman in a sexy dress, that motherfucker was looking to rape someone, period. It doesn’t matter what she’s wearing. All women shouldn’t stop wearing sexy dresses just because there’s men out there sharking around looking for someone to rape.

No man who wasn’t ever a rapist or had rape desires, was ever triggered to rape a girl by what she was wearing.

Of course, women should be careful about walking alone at night and shit like that, and I hope they are careful cuz of course there are sick fucks out there.

I think it’s retarded that guys even bring up the fact that some women will lie about a rape. So what? The topic isn’t women who lied, the topic is what it is you read the shit. You’re just mad about something else and bringing it here as if it’s relevant.

elizamichale1 · Accepted Answer

Ohh honeyyy
You are absolutely right and i never understand even a fraction of it that why would women be blaming and bashing on something which is not even unfair for example how a girl dresses up is completely her choice and no one has the right to point otherwise but women would say she was attention seeking girl bla bla bla but still how could you blame her
To me such women do it coz they are not confident themselves to be open and when they see other girls doing it they start bashing in jealousy
I wish we could learn to live together feeling for each other and if we can't do good to others then at least shouldn't do bad either

Luvsmybabydoll · Accepted Answer

Where I am from a sixteen year old's rape charge was thrown out because she was wearing a thong!
Sexual conditioning is everywhere another form of control. But I do agree that women should stand up for eachother but it's not easy to do tgat reality
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dwiller943 · Accepted Answer

People are childish moronic bullies. There was no reason to blame you. People dress and act like modest prudes and STILL get raped. So clothing and behavior have NOTHING to do with it.

truthbeknown · Answer

Getting dragged down an alley violently, stuffed into a van with no windows by two guys as they brutally rip your clothes off and force themselves onto you while you kick and scream is what rape is. A girl all giggly that drank too much and partied too hard regretting who she fucked the night before is not rape and gets no sympathy from me. Most of the stories I read here always seem to start with "I was drunk..." Sorry, not sorry. Be responsible for your actions and behave like an adult. Don't play the weak and fragile wallflower that can't control herself and is no longer liable for her actions because she had too much to drink simply because she has a vagina.

JayParris · Answer

I was raped by a woman. I got passed-out drunk at a party and woke up with an unwanted chick riding my dick. Who's to blame? Both of us. I let myself get too drunk because I didn't know what was in the punch. She was drunk and saw that I had a hardon and couldn't help herself.

I learned my lesson and I don't get drunk any more. Not absolving her of blame, but I have to accept that I fucked up, too.

Redstang88 · Answer

I agree, but we are still need to watch out for ourselves. There is a big difference between that and victim blaming.

I’m sorry, but we are responsible for our actions when we’re drunk. A DUI won’t be dismissed because somebody took advantage of you and convinced you to drive.

littlelofty · Answer

littlelofty; Hello you are so right it is all ways there felt, Bullshit it the Sistine they days. I tho rt your articular was so good.. I hope you get over your herd times and can live a no mil life. Sum men do under stand if they have been throw the same thing?

JimmyInSpace · Answer

Agreed. But of course we need to educate girls on protecting themselves too. There are evil people, that is a fact, and there is no way to remove all evil from the world. So self defence is really important.

ravagesavage · Answer

Yeah well it happens. But anyways, it's not my business to step in. Not my place or my problem.

mT2359 · Answer

Women seek validation in the eyes of men of being holier than thou, by denigrating women who are rape victims.

esotericstory · Answer

In some instances the victim can be blamed for not taking care of their own security.

Glen68 · Answer

I had a friend get raped and her parents blame her because she was out late at night going for a walk to think about stuff

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Yes! The women are wonderful effect and it's sick how they always take advantage of white knights.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

You're right. A victim is never at fault of a crime; people who suggest otherwise are stupid.

Tyffen · Answer

I totally agree

Joker_ · Answer

I agree

Gedaria · Answer

True...

I'm absolutely disgusted and sick and tired of seeing females do this?

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