Are cold people attractive?

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DevilsAdvocator · Accepted Answer

Cold MEN certainly are, especially in the eyes of women, with women proven to be increasingly less aroused by a man the more emotionally "responsive" they are. For women though, in the eyes of men, it;s the other way round.

Researchers from the University of Rochester, the University of Illinois and the Interdisciplinary Center (IDC) Herzliya investigated how heterosexual women and men differ in their sexual reactions with receptive strangers, examining sexual interest and the participants’ feelings on the possibility of long-term dating with their new “partners,” and how those connected to their perceptions of "responsiveness" (defined as a characteristic “that may signal to potential partners that one understands, values and supports important aspects of their self-concept and is willing to invest resources in the relationship”).

The researchers found that men perceived responsive females to be “more feminine and more attractive.” On the other hand, while women didn’t perceive responsive men to be any less masculine, they still found males to be less sexually desirable the more responsive they were. Even when they repeated the study, removing the elements of live social interaction (smiling, physical attractiveness) in order to isolate the impact which "responsiveness" had, they got the same results- men found warmer, more responsive and attentive women to be more desirable as potential partners, while women found warmer, more responsive and attentive men to be less desirable.

The third and final study sought to test specifically whether the mechanism by which “responsiveness” motivated individuals to pursue relationships was, in fact, sexual arousal; replicating the second study and adding a specific measure of sexual attraction. They found that, when men found women to be responsive, it led to a heightened sexual arousal, which in turn led to greater desire for a relationship. And yet again, the opposite was true in the case of women- when women found men to be responsive, it led to a lessened sexual arousal among women, and less desire for a relationship. And when a man was colder and less emotionally responsive towards them, it increased womens' sexual arousal, and increased their desire for a relationship with that man.

SuperTroll · Accepted Answer

I like very opposite types for girls -- the ones who kind of brighten up entire rooms when they enter with a very warm and positive type of energy, and maybe a hearty laugh. I do like ones that can think very rationally and calmly during difficult situations, but I've not found that incompatible with such "warmth" in easier situations.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Their not cold, their just quiet and misunderstood. Being cold and unfeeling is not attractive. Being logical, being loyal and true to yourself and respecting other people is. Something is psychologically wrong if your cold. Even unemotionally expressive people have feelings, it's just personal.

sarahburberryy · Accepted Answer

i mean let's face it , people who "seem" cold are inaccessible in an attractive way, they arouse your curiosity , you start to think about them and wonder what's hidden behind that veil of mystery. Afterwards, unconsciously, they become the metropolis of your thoughts.

Felinegirl · Accepted Answer

Some attractive people are cold, but coldness doesn't make you more attractive. If you look like a model it may make you mysterious, but anyone else who acts cold and distant will just get ignored. While if they were warm, they might have found love.

Iwant2kno · Accepted Answer

Yes! But it’s a challenge to get to the core of their real self, personality and feelings. But it’s always an amazing journey.

IlyaTheImpaler · Answer

Cold people are only attractive when they are attractive 😂, even so, when they are next to a person with the same looks but more friendly, they stand zero chance. Imagine a porn actress who dresses in granny outfit vs a porn actress who dresses in regular outfit

abc3643 · Answer

Certainly for Mister Freeze! Even he needs a girlfriend too...

NicolaD · Answer

I hope I am (even a little) and to me my husband is and will always be

KittyKat90210 · Answer

I guess, but it's never crossed my mind. I think if someone is cold all the time it would be a bit much, like put on a sweater already or stop wearing light clothing!

Miss_Savanna_Dry · Answer

No, since I'm usually the cold one I need a guy who is more warm and open. A guy that is cold + me = a disaster

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think this is a clear explanation. Terms are overused too much. Not everyone who appears 'cold' is actually cold. Personally i find a certain 'coldness' an extreme turn on in women.

Fwcheerios · Answer

It’s mysterious and sexy. ONLY if that person is attractive

JohnAlaska43 · Answer

Being truelly cold is unattractive. These people are hard to talk to or are hard toneven hang out with. They block romance or any intimate chance.

A_Bell · Answer

They should put on a jacket. Nothing attractive about shivering.

IndyGuy · Answer

Attractive? No. Can I feel for them and what they might be going through? Yes.

Киттйлинк · Answer

Oh yeah! I’m cold alllll the time lol 🥶! I’m so attractive 🤗😂🥰!!

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

Being cold doesn't make someone attractive or unattractive, but it does make them unapproachable

InTimoreDei · Answer

Not all cold people are attractive and not all attractive people are cold.

Thatsamazing · Answer

... No, *attractive* people are attractive. If a girl isn't attractive in the first place, you don't really notice at all whether she's "cold" or not.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

I find most of the ladies I meet incredibly cold They seem to be in a state of despair.

Tomsta · Answer

Cold people are just misunderstood. There is a reasom why they are cold... It take a while for it to be shown but there is a reason

KatnCat · Answer

Yeah but only in the beginning  If they’re cold even after knowing them for a while it becomes boring

samanderson1812 · Answer

Yes they are. Every person has different personality and nature.

up_64 · Answer

Being one myself. I find other cold people rather fun.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

It will depend on who you ask. To me, no they are not. They are not even fun.

Anonymous · Answer

Cold people don't have a heat source. Being attracted to cold bodies is necrophilia

name_is_eric · Answer

So pretty much Finnish women? I'm going to say yeah.

LuWe22 · Answer

No. I prefer warm and cuddly men. Show feelings, Show Love, Show kindness

Anonymous · Answer

I personally feel really attracted to guys who seem very cold and distant.

Secret6620 · Answer

This is not something I find attractive 👍

Grobmate · Answer

Nope. Cold = bitter = damaged.

Apope16 · Answer

Even if they are hot... not my thing.

Gothicwolffox · Answer

I don't know, I'm mostly cold when in reality

Whatwhat1233 · Answer

No, but they'te cool

curiousrobert · Answer

Cold in what sense?

hotdog666 · Answer

No. Scorpios are assholes too. I can’t stand em

Gedaria · Answer

They can be depends on the girl...

outside_Toronto · Answer

Depends how you quantify "attractive"

Stan_Control_ · Answer

From a distance, yeah.

WhoDatGuy · Answer

Cold is unappealing, the opposite of attraction

blondfrog · Answer

Cold is an internal thing not external.

Tom12013 · Answer

To hard say... Not so black and white.

JimRSmith · Answer

Nope, not at all.

MoneyBeets · Answer

Only if they are hot looking

aa180 · Answer

Only to a girl.

call_me_scar · Answer

Nope

crazy8000 · Answer

Nope

Cage4 · Answer

For me yeah

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Nope.

yourfavperson · Answer

no!!!

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