Are quiet, cold women attractive to you? If so, what makes them more attractive?

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BitterSweetApplePie · Accepted Answer

I've tested both.
I used to be very cold, quiet, and aloof and most people chose to avoid me. Especially guys.
Now I'm more open, warm, and bubbly and guys always want to talk to me, even if I'm in a relationship.

Blocking myself off in a deliberate way to everyone resulted in them having negative opinions of me and didn't attract guys. I couldn't get a date when I was like that, but as soon as I became a more open person I found a boyfriend almost immediately and I don't regret it. Guys don't like to be snubbed and ignored and honestly it doesn't seem like guys even like girls that play hard to get all of the time, maybe just a little bit but when that's what your entire personality consists of then you just come off as a bitch even if it's not done intentionally.

If a woman is attractive physically, then she's just that, but if her personality isn't present then he's probably not going to pursue.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

theyre come off more mysterious for starters. Ambitious bc she seems like she doesn't care about anyone but herself. In essence, she seems confident. Charismatic bc of the little words she says but still come off witty and you just want to hear more of her voice.

depeche2015 · Accepted Answer

i like don't like cold women but i do like quiet, nice girls. my brother has made me a little insecure by saying how quiet, introverted women are bitches and that no one likes them.

Obfuscate · Accepted Answer

it depends on how you define cold... quiet is not a big deal really... i am very quiet... cold has a wide variety of connotations, some of which would bother me... i know that some people think i am cold and other think i am very caring... i don't need to hear sweet nothings every second of the day to know i am cared about, but some sort of verbal expression (even if rare) is appreciated... i think there are a wide variety of ways to express fondness, compassion, and love... as long as i know that i matter, than they are potentially someone that i could be with...

Guardian412 · Accepted Answer

The mystery and the resistance. They're a challenge for men. That is making them attractive. They're not playing hard to get. They're actually hard to get.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I used to be very quiet and 2 of the hottest guys at school liked me. Dozens of guys liked me and i was only average looking and got terrible grades in school - this was back in my high school days. Now I'm very outgoing and loud.

BigGuy8 · Answer

I think a lot of guys find these cold, quiet women may be "closet freaks" who turn out to secretly be a dominatrix like the librarian in the movie Tom Cats. We always find ourselves fantasizing about the woman you see every day who seems totally normal but behind closed doors is completely different. I think that fantasy spills over into the curiosities of what a quiet woman is hiding. Seemingly quiet, timid women could easily push you on your back and ride you into sunrise, or tease you in public. You just never know. The quiet can still be flirty and coy, and they keep you wondering what will come next if you take the bait. Sometimes it turns out she really is just quiet. Sometimes you find out you've found someone with a secret only certain people get let in on.

Voyager_k · Answer

It's a major attraction for me.
Mysterious girls are sexy!
Sexy in personality.
I find them very very attractive as I'm in the same league.

They are never over enthusiastic about anything.
Perfect excitement for everything.
They are the ones who understand me.
They can do any work calmly.

Miristheiss · Answer

"Cold"? I depends on what that means.

If she gives off a reserved demeanor..."cold" I'm fine with that so long as she isn't cold with me one on one, as long as she opens up to me and shares her heart and shows me the warmth in her heart that the rest of the world may not see than of course she'd be attractive. If she were cold to me as well and I always felt as if she doesn't care for me and won't share her heart with me than no, I'd not be attracted to that.

OfDeath · Answer

Lol wtf no! Have you ever tried actually living with someone like that?
Well I have. If you get into an argument with someone like that or just disagree with one of their ideas, they just go all silent on you for days and they don't give a crap either.
What's worse is they don't even tell you why they're pissed off or even try to compromise on anything.
The person I'm talking about would do things like throw away all the coffee cups in the house and then 3 weeks later when she finally decided to talk, it's because I left one cup in the sink unwashed lol

So no, women like that are psychos.

TripleAce · Answer

Not at all
I've been with both and quiet and cold is probably the worst combo
You can have in a women

Cold means she basically doesn't give a shit and quiet means she doesn't have the tenacity to fix situations or make moves that matter

Blah. Sooooo blah
P. s they also think we can like read their minds. So when shit goes bad they blame us but don't have the balls to mention it

Soooo annoying lol

Sauron2099 · Answer

Quiet and cold in general or just with strangers? If the former then yes and very much so, since those women tend to rely more on the logical aspect of thinking rather than emotional, which is something I personally can't wait to find in a woman, I've got something to accomplish and I need as much depraved and intelligent woman as possible. As for the latter, no.

guilly18butnot · Answer

Quite yes. Cold, no way.

A person who plays cool is a person full of insecurities, particularly women. One thing is playing hard to catch and another thing is playing the role of a feelingless bitch. No thank you. Even if she's the most gorgeous woman on Earth.

winterfox10 · Answer

Cold? No. Cold women are not attractive to me at all. Quiet women are, but there is a big big difference between cold and mysterious. Mysterious is playing things close to the vest, and not giving up many details about yourself very quickly, cold is not letting people even want to get closer to you.

redreddyred · Answer

I’m attracted to freezing sub-zero degree women. It makes sex hard because as soon as I stick my cock in her pussy, I start getting frozen. Then my dick freezes and snaps off as I try to pull out of her. She laughs at my pain and then freezes me with her powers. I then become a statue for her to look at. So hot...

kiran07 · Answer

Bitch me please.
1. cold woman will be attratctd in frst moment with them if dy r beautyfl or if u lyk her.
2. cold woman is very very hard to go on long relationship.
3. i have xprnce cz i had sm1 lyk dt.
4. oly for romance it l make dm attractive dts fr sure. rest tooo much headache for boys

VeryCrazyGuy · Answer

Quiet colder persons are like that because the past made them like that.
I find them the most interesting girls because they never stop surprizing you
I like those funny girls... but i would always take the quiet one if i have to chose
Strong essences are always kept in small bottles somewhere behind

Kawabanga1 · Answer

mysterious? lol all these guys commenting are lying to themselves.
its easy, idont like attention or girls that feed off attention and quiet, colder girls dont exactly need that much attention and they are just chill and cool to hang out with without having to work too hard , thats it really

LivingDeath · Answer

In my opinion it doesn't make them any different to any other person I've met. If they can still talk about stuff and generally have a good time, even if it's in a different way, then they would be a great girl in my eyes.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

hasn't worked for me.. im quiet and always cold.. I blame poor blood circulation for that.

MrNameless · Answer

hell no. Its one thing if she's quiet, but if she's cold/unapproachable, then its not gonna work with me. I'm not putting extra work for a woman that can't be friendly

weaponsdude · Answer

Let's see... quite is ok... cold? Negative ghost rider. Unfortunately, you don't find out just how cold someone is until after they have your heart to do with as they please. Cold bitches are usually better in bed too. So they are good for something.

englisc · Answer

I'm not sure, it depends on what you mean by that. If she's just introverted and not very expressive then that's fine, but if she's really closed off emotionally then no it's not attractive.

amp3d · Answer

If a cold person is found attractive, it most certainly has to be physical attraction. There is no reason why a cold, quiet person would he found attractive by any other means.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really, I'll assume they aren't interested and then not even bother investing time...

And then this is how shy guys meet bad girls...

We will find a girl who is open, friendly and seems to like us...

But then they end up manipulating us for attention, money, friendship, etc.

aaaae2e · Answer

not really... men see this as they are being rejected. You might have lost a lot of opportunities with good people. Guys like to chase so they might take it as a challenge for them? I don't know.

Cellestial · Answer

Absolutely attractive since I'm quite myself and wouldn't want to look boring or uninteresting if I'm with a wild extrovert one.

Thomasjoy · Answer

I'm a very talkative and arrogant person I like to trouble my girlfriend all the time so I don't think I would find a quiet girl attractive... I mean I would find her attractive but wouldn't want a relationship

james_mark · Answer

Cold and silent treatment means NO  Don't have time to communicate with a creature who lacks communication skills and afraid of confrontation.

Anonymous · Answer

I mean, who likes cold people? Quiet and even a bit shy can be attractive to some people though. Depending on what you mean by quiet. If you're silent all the time who's going to get to know you and therefore get attracter to you?

JulieXO · Answer

I think outgoing and talkative women who are not afraid to show their emotions are more attractive. Everybody has a different taste though.

reixun · Answer

I only like them when they respect me, I hate the quiet type that avoid my eye contact and don’t respond to me. it comes off as rude and makes me want to withdraw.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, they love my personality and how I am not shy and don't care what people think of me , I am just happy and outgoing

Nahid1234 · Answer

When a girl is Quiet, she is either shy, has nothing to say nor not interested in the guy. (Sorry but this app does have dating questions so I thought it was referring to dating / flirting)

TheNikster · Answer

What do you mean "Cold"? I mean, I like quiet women, they usually are the shy and nice ones! I mean, I'm shy myself..

BarbieLola · Answer

This is me expect I’m not quite all the time - guys don’t like my personality

SweetHomicidalQueen · Answer

Nah I need me someone who’s warm and affectionate. I don’t mind them being quiet.

Bear41 · Answer

No on the cold part, quite thinkers are awesome. I like a woman that can actually think things out, than runs off with the first thing that comes to mind.

1derfulguy · Answer

No. I once tried to hit on one of those (because she was hot, and obviously hard to get). But she was cold as a mofo. It irritates me when people can't just reject you outright.

bellybuttonlint · Answer

Quiet is great... but not cold. If I can't communicate with her then I don't want her.

ObliviousJester · Answer

Quiet is okays, but I wouldn't want someone who is emotionally closed off

Nivinxus · Answer

No not really, if anything, they are just harder to get along with.

ChronicThinker · Answer

I don't get how being quiet and unemotional is apparently sexy, personally.

MarcoAurelio · Answer

Yes! Maybe the different look or the mystery in their eyes... I don't know, it have a special feeling x)

ThoughtfulGuy75 · Answer

Quiet is fine, cold... nope! I'm an affectionate guy, I couldn't be with a cold woman.

Thia18 · Answer

... I hope quiet id somewhat attractive or I’m doomed 😆

UW1983 · Answer

More reasons to explore enjoy the exploration process

ryancg · Answer

It can sort of have the allure of mystery at first, but after a while, it gets fairly old. Long-term, I want a woman who is warm and friendly and actually wants to talk.

TallGuy96 · Answer

Quiet? Yes. Cold as you mean she never expresses her emotions towards me or show affection? Big no. But if you mean cold by cold facial expressions then yes it's a turn on.

bubble_tea · Answer

Most models are quiet and look cold in ads, so yes to attractive.

Mexicoman101 · Answer

Not really, but it doesn't go that much against them.

slatyb · Answer

Not really. Shy is fine but not cold and unsympathetic.

Jihhan · Answer

Quiet is fine, cold is not. But overall just be yourself and you will attract those that complement you.

Kiran04 · Answer

Quiet, yes, cold HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLZ NO! I'd take a cold day in hell over a cold woman.

whydoyouask · Answer

No. I like women that actually have a soul and are not trying to be a cynical, self entitled, shallow... Human being. :P

PurplePirate · Answer

The mystery surrounding them. Mysterious women are attractive

miirazee · Answer

I find men that type are quiet sexy and mysterious myself

ohayoo · Answer

i feel like they mind their own business and are more mature, however i dont care.

kitty71 · Answer

What do you mean by coid? Like she has no feelings, or she barely talks?

sahas20 · Answer

No one is attracted to cold people. They're just cold. People are attracted to warm people.

Rohan-Thanekar · Answer

Her silence looks like a mystery,, and that is more attractive

OmgItsJoe123 · Answer

Cold? My ex-crush was cold and, hell, she was annoying as hell. Silent? I am silent myself so I don't bother.

Omar5881 · Answer

Quiet and cold? DaFauq I'm gonna do with her take a pic and imagine a convo fuck no that's not attractive

That2kKid21 · Answer

Cold women? No. Quiet is fine... Not particularly more attractive though, or less. It depends on the girl though... You can't just categorize types of girls. Everyone is different.

jamespetro34 · Answer

Not quiet and cold but those blue eyes with red hair gorgeous

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