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I think those women are just attracted to chaos and not peace. Mellow women are great; however, they can be a bit boring if they lack opinions or have nothing they're passionate/excited about. If the woman in pursuing is so mellow that she seems indifferent to my efforts, I just move on.
No, not at all unattractive. What's unattractive are loud, abrasive, masculine women who can't shut up. Those busybody Karens - i. e., likely the very women who are telling you that having a mellow personality is a bad thing.
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I came across a woman who described herself as an "Amazonian goddess." She said the most cringey, douchy things, like "I'm obviously super attractive."
I told her that I didn't think that she is attractive and that aggrandizing herself publicly is nauseating, obnoxious, conceited, and is just an overall tacky thing to do. Of course, she is an egocentric narcissist who cannot handle anyone disagreeing with her self-evaluation, so she used her "assertive" personality to insult me. It's bad enough that she had an overestimated perception of her physical attractiveness, but her inability to govern her annoying ego made her slimy to me. She tried to justify her repulsive persona by saying, "I'm on a mission to end false modesty." At that point, I was convinced that she had a superiority complex (not attractive). People who don't know when to shut up, and use being "silly, fun, outgoing and extraverted" as justification for saying such brazen things are foul and repugnant to me.
To me, the most attractive women are those who carry themselves with low-key grace. I don't mean women who never talk, but those who don't need to go around being the center of attention. I would love to meet a woman like that.
I can relate. People have told me that I am withdrawn and I don't make enough effort to socialize, but I don't enjoy conducting myself that way. Most women think that I have no personality, but I am who I am, and I'm not going to be something I'm not just to meet their approval.
Hang in there. You'll meet your mellow guy, eventually.
No, I love me a mellow person.
But there's a difference between "mellow" and lazy or conflict avoidant.
I'm a pretty mellow person most of the time, but I'm intense in my life, too. I'm easy going for everything I can be, but I'm ironwilled in the things I'm passionate about.
If you're garnering those types of reactions, I'm getting the vibe you're the type not to take initiative, not to have ambition, not to have strong boundaries.
Those are all things that are red flags for me in someone I'm gonna date.
It's hard to say. I like mellow personalities in people who are more than capable of standing up for themselves and their beliefs.
For me that is really what I would look for.
However, based on your question, you probably misunderstood your friend, I think by "surviving" she meant not being hurt or used by others, given that one can see being mellow as a more fragile personality. Its nothing to worry about. Just take care ;).
Well i think as long as someone is responding from high vibrational Consciousness. Roughly 80% of communication is NONverbal. Anyone can be mellow to hyper and have high attactive and magnetic Qualities. When a mellow person responds from this level, she may move less noticeably, maybe saunter deliberately over with a mesmerizing look in her eye, play shyly w her hair, flutter her eyes, maybe move a mans drink over, and say “hi” with a mona lisa smile and flush cheeks.
Every women comes equipt w her own unique way to communicate her attractiveness. Whether or not we use it is another story.
I think I prefer someone more laid-back. That would make me feel safe. If she's too mellow, then maybe that would be kind of a turn off. Too mellow meaning that she never gets excited for anything or shows enthusiasm in anything we mutually enjoy.
Not to me. It might be harder to attract attention in a world that not only condones obnoxious behavior, but glorifies it. Loud people are interesting on TV. Mostly because i can mute them or shut the tube off when i’ve had enough. I don’t want or need loud people in my life unless they’re even more introverted than i am. At least then i can fairly expect them to grow weary of my company at the same time i grow weary of them, or preferably sooner. Ell oh ell! Mellow is awesome.
It depends on what they mean by "mellow". If you're a pocket of sunshine, yes you're extremely attractive to men, because happy people look more attractive. But if they mean you're bland or lack a spine, they might be onto something. Men might say they want you, but they don't. Nobody wants a boring partner.
How do you survive? The answer would be peacefully. Ask them how their men survive listening to their constantly running mouths, nagging, complaining and constantly competing with other women over a whole bunch of nothings.
I think it depends on the age range and maturity level of the guy. I’m at the point in my life I really don’t want unnecessary drama, toxic energy, what have you around me. Especially at home when I have to deal with it all day at work. So for me a mellow woman is a must.
No. My current friends with benefits is loud and crazy and honestly even though the sex is good Im getting sick of her theatrics. Another woman I have a MASSIVE crush on is super laid back and mellow, honestly its almost making me fall in love. So many women today are insane that its refreshing to meet a girl so chill.
Of course not. I actually prefer mellow women. They're hustle/drama free. Those girls are just so full of themselves believing all guys should be attracted to their style and may not handle rejection well which is why they can't accept it if guys get attracted to mellow women so they try to bring them down.
I would much prefer a laid back person over one that is uptight every moment of the day. Someone that knows what they want but doesn’t need it yesterday!
I am told that I am more patient than most and would prefer the same in a partner.
I have been told the same by many women. Tbh I think people think I am an easy target because of it. That's not particularly with men but also women. They think I am weak.. it's attractive to people who have dominating nature and want things their way. Typically narcissists.
Not at all! I would much rather a mellow woman then a woman who annoys me. I have no problem with someone whose high strung. When I am by myself or around people I am close to. I am kind of high strung but many times I am pretty mellow
Mellow is fine, no problem, as long as she becomes a ravenous beast when sexually aroused. :-) I don't know what mellow in bed would look like, but I picture apathy or lack of passion and desire.
No theyre not. The 22 year old jacob guy for sure likes the "bad bitches" which twerk nonstop and will cheat on him the first chance they get with a hotter guy or someone with loads of cash.
Being reserved and strong is way more impressive than trying hard to be the center of attention.
If mellow means no options, not able to hold a single conversation. Then not attractive. If she is easy-going, likes to talk and can joke and have an intelligent conversation, then yes.
Nope, you don’t have to be loud and the center Of attention. If I’m worked up and angry and I would love to talk to a mellow woman or just on a typical day. I’m chill myself so it would be a great match for me.
I feel like having no enthusiasm in anything is kind've a dealbreaker for me. Mellow people seem to almost lack emotion, which is not really an attractive quality for women.
Mellow is good. I find it an attractive quality. Don't understand what your girls are getting at.
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