I think those women are just attracted to chaos and not peace. Mellow women are great; however, they can be a bit boring if they lack opinions or have nothing they're passionate/excited about. If the woman in pursuing is so mellow that she seems indifferent to my efforts, I just move on.
No, not at all unattractive. What's unattractive are loud, abrasive, masculine women who can't shut up. Those busybody Karens - i. e., likely the very women who are telling you that having a mellow personality is a bad thing.
Opinion
95Opinion
I came across a woman who described herself as an "Amazonian goddess." She said the most cringey, douchy things, like "I'm obviously super attractive."
I told her that I didn't think that she is attractive and that aggrandizing herself publicly is nauseating, obnoxious, conceited, and is just an overall tacky thing to do. Of course, she is an egocentric narcissist who cannot handle anyone disagreeing with her self-evaluation, so she used her "assertive" personality to insult me. It's bad enough that she had an overestimated perception of her physical attractiveness, but her inability to govern her annoying ego made her slimy to me. She tried to justify her repulsive persona by saying, "I'm on a mission to end false modesty." At that point, I was convinced that she had a superiority complex (not attractive). People who don't know when to shut up, and use being "silly, fun, outgoing and extraverted" as justification for saying such brazen things are foul and repugnant to me.
To me, the most attractive women are those who carry themselves with low-key grace. I don't mean women who never talk, but those who don't need to go around being the center of attention. I would love to meet a woman like that.
I can relate. People have told me that I am withdrawn and I don't make enough effort to socialize, but I don't enjoy conducting myself that way. Most women think that I have no personality, but I am who I am, and I'm not going to be something I'm not just to meet their approval.
Hang in there. You'll meet your mellow guy, eventually.
No, I love me a mellow person.
But there's a difference between "mellow" and lazy or conflict avoidant.
I'm a pretty mellow person most of the time, but I'm intense in my life, too. I'm easy going for everything I can be, but I'm ironwilled in the things I'm passionate about.
If you're garnering those types of reactions, I'm getting the vibe you're the type not to take initiative, not to have ambition, not to have strong boundaries.
Those are all things that are red flags for me in someone I'm gonna date.
It's hard to say. I like mellow personalities in people who are more than capable of standing up for themselves and their beliefs.
For me that is really what I would look for.
However, based on your question, you probably misunderstood your friend, I think by "surviving" she meant not being hurt or used by others, given that one can see being mellow as a more fragile personality. Its nothing to worry about. Just take care ;).
Not to me. It might be harder to attract attention in a world that not only condones obnoxious behavior, but glorifies it. Loud people are interesting on TV. Mostly because i can mute them or shut the tube off when i’ve had enough. I don’t want or need loud people in my life unless they’re even more introverted than i am. At least then i can fairly expect them to grow weary of my company at the same time i grow weary of them, or preferably sooner. Ell oh ell! Mellow is awesome.
Well i think as long as someone is responding from high vibrational Consciousness. Roughly 80% of communication is NONverbal. Anyone can be mellow to hyper and have high attactive and magnetic Qualities. When a mellow person responds from this level, she may move less noticeably, maybe saunter deliberately over with a mesmerizing look in her eye, play shyly w her hair, flutter her eyes, maybe move a mans drink over, and say “hi” with a mona lisa smile and flush cheeks.
Every women comes equipt w her own unique way to communicate her attractiveness. Whether or not we use it is another story.
I think I prefer someone more laid-back. That would make me feel safe. If she's too mellow, then maybe that would be kind of a turn off. Too mellow meaning that she never gets excited for anything or shows enthusiasm in anything we mutually enjoy.
It depends on what they mean by "mellow". If you're a pocket of sunshine, yes you're extremely attractive to men, because happy people look more attractive. But if they mean you're bland or lack a spine, they might be onto something. Men might say they want you, but they don't. Nobody wants a boring partner.
It's a little funny that all men here are coming with different definitions for mellow, without asking the Asker what kind of personality she has
How do you survive? The answer would be peacefully. Ask them how their men survive listening to their constantly running mouths, nagging, complaining and constantly competing with other women over a whole bunch of nothings.
It always surprises me that women like that have and manage to keep a man!
I can only offer my own opinion based on my own observations of friends/relatives past and present…
Most men who end up seriously involved with or married to the type of women you and I are discussing have/had very domineering mothers. Basically “mama’s boys” who viewed their mothers as the dominant force in the household, the leader of the pack, the decision maker etc. The fathers were either non existent or very submissive and non confrontational. Therefore most of these men seek these same qualities in their partners or spouses. They look for the authority, the instruction, the decisions made for them. I don’t want to say that she replaces the mother…but I kinda am haha. And for another topic another day…. the relationship and dynamic between the mother and daughter in law can often be extremely vicious.
I would much prefer a laid back person over one that is uptight every moment of the day. Someone that knows what they want but doesn’t need it yesterday!
I am told that I am more patient than most and would prefer the same in a partner.
I think it depends on the age range and maturity level of the guy. I’m at the point in my life I really don’t want unnecessary drama, toxic energy, what have you around me. Especially at home when I have to deal with it all day at work. So for me a mellow woman is a must.
No. My current friends with benefits is loud and crazy and honestly even though the sex is good Im getting sick of her theatrics. Another woman I have a MASSIVE crush on is super laid back and mellow, honestly its almost making me fall in love. So many women today are insane that its refreshing to meet a girl so chill.
Of course not. I actually prefer mellow women. They're hustle/drama free. Those girls are just so full of themselves believing all guys should be attracted to their style and may not handle rejection well which is why they can't accept it if guys get attracted to mellow women so they try to bring them down.
I have been told the same by many women. Tbh I think people think I am an easy target because of it. That's not particularly with men but also women. They think I am weak.. it's attractive to people who have dominating nature and want things their way. Typically narcissists.
Not at all! I would much rather a mellow woman then a woman who annoys me. I have no problem with someone whose high strung. When I am by myself or around people I am close to. I am kind of high strung but many times I am pretty mellow
Mellow is fine, no problem, as long as she becomes a ravenous beast when sexually aroused. :-) I don't know what mellow in bed would look like, but I picture apathy or lack of passion and desire.
I feel like having no enthusiasm in anything is kind've a dealbreaker for me. Mellow people seem to almost lack emotion, which is not really an attractive quality for women.
No theyre not. The 22 year old jacob guy for sure likes the "bad bitches" which twerk nonstop and will cheat on him the first chance they get with a hotter guy or someone with loads of cash.
Being reserved and strong is way more impressive than trying hard to be the center of attention.
If mellow means no options, not able to hold a single conversation. Then not attractive. If she is easy-going, likes to talk and can joke and have an intelligent conversation, then yes.
Nope, you don’t have to be loud and the center Of attention. If I’m worked up and angry and I would love to talk to a mellow woman or just on a typical day. I’m chill myself so it would be a great match for me.
Mellow is good. I find it an attractive quality. Don't understand what your girls are getting at.
Damn, where have you been all my life?
That would certainly be a break from all the over - dramatic , bath shit crazy drama queens that I know.
I would have to observe your behavior to get a good, clear idea as to what they mean (which I can't do on the internet and you can't without compromising your identity). Otherwise, I honestly can't give you an accurate answer.
I saw in dictionary and it says mellow means kind , so yeah why being kind is bad , almost all people like kind people, and i think those woman are a little jealous , cause they loose their feminity ,
A mellow and or empathetic woman is highly prized as peace, tranquility, calmness is a feminine trait.
Quite the opposite! That's usually a very *positive* trait!
Just stay the way you are... World needs mellow people.
Doesn’t effect attraction for me but I’m a very calm person myself even in drastically adverse conditions. So a woman that was on my same level would be amazing
A mellow woman can be very attractive, much better than a high maintenance babe.
judgmental or jealous?
Nothing wrong with being mellow, to be honest I dont see it as attractive or unattractive its just your personality who you are nothing wrong with it and it wouldn't bother me at all to go out with a mellow woman
I prefer a woman with a mellow personality, actually.
it really depends on the guy. i am mellow. some guys like me. others do not.
My own Missus is kind of ''mellow'' - I do appreciate it,
but...
a little more bite in life would make her even more attractive.
I prefer hyper women.
Unsure what that would have to do with survival though, I just think hyper people are fun.
The fact it is mainly women judging you should be your answer. I’ve been around enough drama queens and psycobitches to last me a while.
It is very attractive, no guy wants a fucking harpy haha. Mellow women are much less drama, so much better
You need to define your terms so we know what we are reacting to.
Nope, I’m a pretty mellow person myself and prefer it.
mellow? no thats the most attractive as long as they aren't boring. no man eats shit all day at a hard job to come home to a quarelsom cunt.
Depends if she's mellow enough to know what she wants, if so yes, if not no; If I get no response I'll look somewhere else.
Mellow is AWESOME…. and would be my preference by far.
Mellow is very attractive. I don't like all the drama that some girls bring with them.
I love a mellow woman. I like a chick in which we can hang out and just enjoy each other company and not have to say much.
Mellow is a plus in my book i like a women who is very kind, nice and relaxed im a mellow person too so a mello women is great for me.
Mellow HOW?
I've dated mellow women who for the life of me I couldn't keep myself attracted to because they had no passion whatsoever.
Do you ever ask these women what the hell they mean by that? lol I see this as a huge positive. How do THEY survive NOT being that way? lol
Girl get help. Work on your self esteem question is ridiculous
Opposite. I've been looking for a mellow girl for a long time but to no avail.
Absolutely not. I prefer chill women i can get along with. No need for all that high drama energy vibes.
Pg Slot สล็อต เว็บตรง เว็บสล็อตออนไลน์ แตกง่ายจ่ายจริง แจกหนัก แตกหนัง กับ เว็บ pg-slot. game ของเรา ที่กำลังมาแรง แซงเว็บเกมอันดับต้น ๆ ไปหมดแล้ว สมัครสมาชิกได้แล้ววันนี้
No I would say actually a mellow woman would be more preferable because that just means she sensitive and she's a little bit shy or she doesn't want to say a lot or start drama so she keeps to herself
Oh stop being so "mellow-dramatic", about being melo
No, the opposite. It is good to have someone who doesn't fly off the handle.
No such thing. Especially in western civilization.
Mellow as in calm? I think that's beautiful instead of a annoying prick.
I would only love to date or marry a mellow woman when i plan to settle down in life
Mellow means less drama and down to earth woman very sexy and fun loving
No your more down to earth naturally and that's good
To be perfectly honest I am not into quote " Hippy Chicks " and drug users
I don't think so yet I have to meet you to talk with you and understand
No not at all. Life is a rat race. I would find the centered and peaceful person a refreshing relief.
You can also add your opinion below!
Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
Most Helpful Opinions