Are some men afraid of dominant women?

[Anonymous]

What do you think about it? Do men look for more submissive and more "feminine" women to hide their insecurity?

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+1 y

Thanks for the answere. Some people get me wrong. Dominance can mean independence, not clingy, less emotional and emotional. A dominant woman does not distespect man

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And I also want to add that a woman can be dominant and feminine at the same time.

[Anonymous]

What exactly is a “dominant” woman. Is she a loudmouth bitch who openly bullies and disrespects other men and women? That’s not a dominant woman but a very insecure person who compensates by being aggressive.

Then there are forward women. They are not afraid to speak up about what they like or don’t like. But like gentlemen then they take in account peoples thoughts, personalities and feelings and have tact when they say and do things.

It’s hard to be a forward woman because it requires cognizance of what’s going on. Same for gentlemen. We got to balance the line between not being a douche vs not being a pushover. It’s a combination of tact, confidence and empathy.

But I don’t like bitchy women identifying as “dominate”. That’s just an excuse to be a douche bag because like assholes they are selfish and conceited.

[Asker]

Like your answer. Being dominant woman means for me to be emotianal strong, confident, know what you want and dont let yourself manipulated or influnenced by someone.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m fine with that. I just don’t like people who use that as an excuse to be a shithead. I’ve met people like that.

[David92506]

I've actually paid Dominant women to dominate me. It was a wonderful experience.

[ask4any]

It's only my opinion but I think your confusing dominate with independent. When asking men and most women about dominance, they are referring to an act of sex

[Anonymous]

Most men secretly love to be dominated by women.
Those men who are afraid of dominant women are bigots indoctrinated by the church, you'll easily recognize them: They usually start bullshitting about the so called "gender roles", blah blah "femininity", blah blah "emasculated", blah blah "real woman", blah blah "real man" etc.
They are obsessed with gender stereotypes (which are in fact - just a social construct created by religion).

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO

[Wowgirl30q]

Just weak ones

[englisc]

No, it doesn't really have to do with intimidation or fear. Whenever a guy doesn't like a certain trait in a woman, usually in order to make herself feel better about that she tells herself that it's just because he's insecure or fearful of her. That then makes her feel like "oh I'm just too good for him" rather than admitting that she has any negative qualities.

Old women do this for example. A woman in her 30s with a good career who sees the guys she wants go for girls in their 20s - she tells herself that it's because those guys are intimidated by her success and her intelligence, and that they only go for those younger girls because they're easier to manipulate and control. In reality it's because guys don't really care too much about career, that doesn't make a woman more attractive, they're just more attracted to younger better looking women.

It's the same with guys who can't get laid who seem to think that women don't like them because they're "too nice". If they can tell themselves that the reason women don't like them is a positive trait i. e. being nice, then they don't have to admit that it's because they don't have a backbone, or that they're boring.

So no, guys just don't tend to find dominant women attractive, that's all. Dominance is a masculine trait, men are attracted to femininity.

[Asker]

Oh ok thanks. But dominance can also mean independence and caring for yourself without the need of someone and knowing what you want. I think men love that kind of women more because I have been told that men dont like clingy and dependent women

[englisc]

Well dominance really means taking the lead. The dominant partner should also be protective over their partner. This is why dominance is a masculine trait. The female equivalent trait is really nurturing.

The men who say they want an independent woman, perhaps even a dominant woman, tend to be guys who are quite feminine. They don't like the idea of being protectors or providers, often because they're incapable anyway, so they expect their women to act more like men. I guess it depends on the type of guy you want. A masculine man won't be too interested in an "independent" woman, who tends to be a woman who obsesses over career and acts like a man.

[Asker]

Hmm then many women these days are manly? Having a job and caarer does not make you a man.

[englisc]

I wouldn't say manly exactly, but less feminine. No, having a job doesn't make you manly, it's more about the attitude and the priorities of the person. Women who are more career oriented tend to be less nurturing than say a stay at home mother whose focus is her family. Of course there's kind of a spectrum there, maybe a woman can work but still be focused on her family too. But the really career-focused women will for example because they're so focused on their careers quickly put their very young children into childcare to get back to work, because she's more focused on work than spending time raising her babies. That's what I think of when people talk about "independent women".

[Wowgirl30q]

Agree

[Wowgirl30q]

@englisc

[MrOracle]

I have no fear of dominant women - I know a couple and talk with them about things - I just have no romantic interest in them.

I'm a take-charge, lead-the-way, decision-maker kind of guy. I'm a small business owner, and most small business owners are, but it's who I have always been. I have supervised and managed people for 30 years.

I naturally attract submissive women, because they respond to my leadership traits. And I am not attracted to dominant women because it would be endless conflict and I don't want that in my life.

There are plenty of submissive men who are looking for a dominant woman to take charge, and that's great. I'm just not one of them.

I have nothing against them, it's just not for me.

[holograph]

I don't like dominance in literally anyone. I'm not afraid of dominant women. I simply find the idea of them wanting to tell me what to do highly unattractive. And I sure as heck don't want to tell them what to do, either. I just want to get by with someone by my side. I want a partner, not a boss and not a slave.

Why are people always making it seem like we are afraid of the things we don't like? It comes across as insecurity. Just accept that not everyone is attracted to dominance. You shouldn't feel the need to label those people as afraid.

[holograph]

Why is the most helpful girl answer basically saying that men are garbage if they aren't interested in being dominated by women?

What a bunch of balogna. Yeesh. That's some real deranged crap right there.

[Anonymous]

Not exactly. Many men are not attracted to dominant women, but not because they are afraid of them or because they are insecure, as you suggest. But you did elude to the real answer in your question when you mentioned more feminine women. I know this is an unpopular thing to point out these days but masculine men tend to be more dominant by nature and they simply find dominant women unfeminine and unattractive.

I know it has become fashionable of late to shame men who don't like dominant women by calling them weak or insecure, but it's simply not true. Just the opposite is true, in fact. The strongest, most secure and capable men are the ones who prefer more submissive women because they are more feminine. It's just nature.

Don't fret of you are a dominant woman though, as there are plenty of less masculine men out there who would be a better match for you.

[Opinion Owner]

Be aware as you read the comments here that NorthwestRider is a female with a male account.

[Asker]

How do you know that? Usually men use pink profiles

[Asker]

So it is kinda suprising

[Asker]

I also have watched videos which said alpha women should date alpha men. And i said some men not all

[Asker]

Can you also define what exactly a dominant man is?

[Opinion Owner]

I know it because she has said things in the past that made it clear she has a vagina, but when she has been called out on it she ignores it and continues to pretend she is a man. I am aware of several other female users with blue accounts here at GAG as well. I'm sure there are guys pretending to be girls, too.

I think MrOracle summed up my thoughts on this topic very well. It is generally not a matter of being afraid or intimidated or insecure. It's a matter of attraction and compatibility, or lack thereof.

Women do themselves no favors by continuing to push the myth that men do like dominant women because of some sort of weakness. It's just not true, and I would think women would rather know the truth about it, wouldn't they.

There are in fact men who like dominant women, but they are not typically the kind of men women tend to prefer or think of as masculine, strong, etc.

Masculine men are attracted to feminine women, and vice versa. It's human nature. We need to stop complicating this issue with politics and social biases.

[Opinion Owner]

"... the myth that men do *NOT like dominant women because of some sort of weakness"

[Opinion Owner]

You have watched videos which said alpha women should date alpha men? Let's think about that for a moment. Just from a logical standpoint, do you think it's reasonable to believe two dominant, alpha type personalities would get along well in a romantic relationship? Do you not see the issue with that? I mean it seems like common sense to me that it would be a recipe for conflict and disharmony but I guess some people don't realize that, or they like to make the claim anyway due to some sort of agenda.

I have a dominant personality and I usually get along well with others in a business or acquaintance scenario, but I would never get along with a dominant woman in a romantic relationship, and she wouldn't enjoy it any more than I would. There is always a leader in a relationship, whether we like to say so or not, and in a tight romantic relationship there is only room for one.

But all of that aside, I simply am not attracted to dominant women. I find them unfeminine and unattractive in terms of their personalities. And I have always found that it is more submissive women who are drawn to me as well. It's just nature, and common sense.

[Asker]

Thanks for the answere but men are kinda lead by sexual drives. I alsi have seen some men who complain about sexual blackmailing so that he does what she wants. Personally both should be equal in realtionship. I dont want someone who tell me what I should do and also dont want someone who do everything what I say aka obey me

[Opinion Owner]

Men are lead by sexual drives? What are you trying to say here, that a woman's personality doesn't play into what he is attracted to in a woman? You are wrong about that. Please stop perpetuating damaging and inaccurate gender stereotypes.

I agree that both partners in a relationship should be equals, but that is beside the point in the issue of human attraction. It's no secret that most women are attracted to the traits in a man that make him a leader and successful in life. Those are the same traits that make him an "alpha" (I actually hate that word... I prefer dominant). And men like that are attracted to feminine, more submissive women. This is a matter of personalities, not equality.

Two dominant personalities will usually not get along. That is pure human nature, and common sense.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure what you were trying to say with respect to sexual blackmail. Can you please explain that a little more?

I have known countless women who want their men to be the leaders in their relationships. That doesn't mean that they are not equals, it just means those women prefer to allow the man to be the dominant personality in the relationship, and they prefer to be more submissive. It is purely a matter of personality dynamics, not equality. Are you going to tell those women they are wrong for enjoying that? That they should not be comfortable with that dynamic? Why would you care about that if they are happy and their men treat them respectfully?

Something else that I have always found interesting. The majority of women are very turned by a man who is sexually dominant. I hope you won't disagree with that since it is a very well established fact and most women freely acknowledge it. But what I find interesting is that many of those same women expect their men to not behave in a dominant fashion outside the bedroom. They are attracted to dominant men, they want them to be dominant in the bedroom, but they expect them to suppress their dominant personalities everywhere else. Huh? Can you explain that to me?

[Opinion Owner]

I just saw your comment to another user where you said he would not find a submissive woman. That is so untrue. There are more women who are submissive by nature than dominant. Most are not comfortable saying that because they are encouraged by society today to try to be dominant, but most are submissive by nature. As a dominant guy I have had tons of submissive women interested in me. I don't say that to be arrogant or pat myself on the back, but it's a fact that is salient to this conversation.

Look, it sounds like you are a dominant women and that's great, but don't be judgmental of men who are not attracted to you, and don't have unrealistic expectation about your ability to attract dominant men and satisfy them. If you are indeed a dominant woman, you're going to find your options are more limited to less masculine guys. Those are just the facts of human nature.

You can't fight mother nature.

[Asker]

I dont portray the majority of women. So dont know why these women like their men only dominant in bedroom. I also dont have a problem with submissive women. It is their life, so dont care. I personally think it is arousing or sexy when he is dominant in bedroom but i personally does not like it if he tries to lead me everywhere else except in bedroom haha. . I would listen to him and consider his opinions but in the end i make the decisions for myself and he should do the same and decide for himself. But i respect your opinion

[Opinion Owner]

That's cool. That works for you and that's all that matters. What others do and prefer should also not matter to you. I guess the most important point in all of this is the need to dispel the myth about men being afraid of dominant women. It's simply not true, and perpetuating that myth is harmful to everyone involved.

[Opinion Owner]

Regarding your latest update, what you think regarding what is or isn't feminine is all fine and good, but at the end of the day it doesn't matter at all to men. We are attracted to what we are attracted to, and I know I speak for most of the men who women consider strong and attractive when I say that dominance in a woman is most definitely NOT feminine to us. And that's really all that matters.

[blutwolfe]

because I'm not trying to butt heads the whole relationship, I prefer a girl who would listen rather than try to be dominate. Like I don't need you running my like wtf I'm running my life just fine. That's a turn off, like get out of my life if you wanna play that crap.

[Asker]

She have to listen to you but you dont have to?

[blutwolfe]

well listen to what I have to say. Dominate women I run into listen for nothing and don't take anything into consideration, extremely reckless.

[TonyBologna25]

We’re not afraid of them. We’re just naturally unattracted to them as we biologically seek feminity in women. Self proclaimed dominant women are walking erectile dysfunction to me. It’s funny to me that these self proclaimed dominant women say that men who aren’t attracted to them are insecure for it. That’s got to be the biggest delusion I’ve ever heard lmao. Biologically men are attracted to feminity just as women are attracted to masculinity. It stems from innate biological reasoning, not insecurity. Feminity isn’t to be mistake as weak as well. It’s a ying-yang dynamic and both are equally important to society and relationships. If a multitude of men are unattracted to you, and your default is to say that they’re insecure because of that instead of looking in the mirror, that’s delusion. Women can hold masculine roles in society, and there’s nothing wrong with that. To each their own. I just don’t want to date one that does.

[Asker]

I think you get the wrong idea. I said some men and not all. Dominant women csn be sexy and respectful to their partner. By being dominant i mean women who are independent, emotianol strong, knowing what she wants and is not clingy

[ShadowofRegret]

I'm not, I actually find them quite attractive personally.

[Wowgirl30q]

But your a ninja

[Asker]

Cute

[ShadowofRegret]

I'll just put it this way, if I were to be a lion, I would want her to be a dragon, something about a woman who can take me down even after I had trained so long really seems appealing to me for some reason, I just lose interest in a woman if she does not challenge me in some way, I want someone who is better than me whom I can continually strive to surpass.😏

[dragonfruitA]

Maybe not afraid, but many men do prefer being dominant most of the time. But I've found many also like to be taken care of, too. Men and women should take care of each other equally.

[milkman63]

I like alpha women.. being shy it's hard for me to make the first move.. bossy to me is different.. it's never bothered me if a woman is smarter or makes more money then me I'm a Sagittarius so im very open minded.. and also an xxy male.. so I look at things differently when it comes to people

[LoU_Hades]

Yes... some are because dominant women don't like men who complain too much. Lot of guys are hopeless complainer and pessimists no matter how dominant they are by themselves.

[smølf]

When you say "some" then the answer to whatever the question is always yes.

Are some men paedophiles = yes
Are some men murderess = yes
Are some men tall = yes
Are some men rich = yes
Are some men poor = yes

So are some men afraid of dominant women=yes
Are some men NOT afraid of dominant women=yes

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Feminine girls who can be dominant in bed are a special kind! ^_^ not really into the "bosslady" type girls though, they take themselves too seriously from what I observe

[Aethereal]

I'm not afraid of them. It's just that submissive, feminine women are much more likely to be considerate, compromising, gentle and humble; personality traits I greatly value.

[officialhawk]

Every men is different but the men love Confident girls not dominant

[Anonymous]

Yes, some men are afraid of them because they are conservative, old-fashioned, patriarchal or religious freaks.
Personally, I prefer dominant girls, modern Amazons are my type of women.

[Browser101]

I prefer dominant strong women as I am a strong dominant man. I want a partner, not a servant. I want a woman who will contribute.

[updog45]

I think dominant women think they scare men, because their dominance clouds their mind. But women dont scare me at all, unless theyre literal serial killers

[backintown]

They are just more annoying than anything

[Asker]

Dominance does not mean being an annoying bitch. I have been actually told to be more independent, not clingy, confident.

[updog45]

Being independent and confident doesn't mean dominant. Usually dominant women are annoying bitches. Independent and confident women are great.

[Asker]

Dominant woman also means making decisions for yourself and a taking more responsibilities. But submissive people would "obey" their partner.

[updog45]

That sorta loops back to dominant woman thinking she is it, and everyone else is submissive, giving off the notion she is a bitch, which could be the case.

[Asker]

What do you mean exactly?

[Coryn-of-the-year]

I think dominant women make a lot of us uncomfortable, but I wouldn't say scared. Maybe that's just the testosterone talking, though.
Did you mean uncomfortable? Or really scared?

[NorthwestRider]

Only the triggered little boys are

I love dominant women, getting married to one hehe

[NorthwestRider]

The religious freaks get triggered by dominant women, because the freaks think that women should be property to men lol

[ohshee]

I don't think I like a dominant women I do like independent,, and confedent women