Do you think men are intimidated by strong women?

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I believe we don’t want you. Strength is a male characteristic. Not a female one and I don’t want to date a man.

OpenClose · Accepted Answer

Totally disagree with your reasoning.

I like strong women, but yes they can be intimidating. Because oftentimes, a woman expect a man to be X stronger than she is. So the stronger she is, the more she will probably be yet another thing in your life questioning if you are "man enough". We like to poke fun at this insecurity, but society still puts the magnifying glass on men's masculinity. Looking for any possible leak or flaw.

Meet the right strong woman, and she'll care LESS than other women about whether or not you are "man enough".

"Baby bonobo dude" I hear you say, "You're stating the obvious. People are different and like different things. This isn't news."

But let me put it this way. One complaint about women who earn a lot is that they have trouble finding good men. But when asked, it's often that even though they make $200k, they have trouble taking a man seriously if he makes "only" $100k. He doesn't seem like a "real man", and now a smaller subset of men are enough for her. Basically, she never let go of the traditionalist idea that a man needs to be "higher-status" than she is in this particular regard. That she needs to "marry up". The problem doesn't show up as much in men, because we're used to the idea that a woman would be making less than we do. A woman isn't "lower status" just because she's a hairdresser instead of an engineer.

On the other hand, I've dated a girl going into surgery. She didn't care that I would be making a quarter what she does. Because she could make so much money herself, this trait was unimportant to her, just that I was trying to be good and kind, and had aspirations of my own. That's what it would mean to be a truly independent woman. She doesn't need you to be stronger or richer than she is in order for you to have value to her.

It has been the same with my mother after her divorce. She is a project manager in the tech sector. Her income and finances are set, so money has been basically no concern in her dating. She dated a guy who was between jobs, and financially supported him until he got his feet back on the ground. Any time I talked to her about it, she had little issue with it. Because she simply liked the guy.

And if you think it's an age "dating market" thing, my dad has since remarried to a woman who used to be neighbors with football players and CEOs. My dad seemed to have an insecurity about this, often saying "What do I even have to offer?". I've discussed this with her before: "Himself". She was and still is madly in love with the guy. It is he himself who has value. He isn't a tool or a wallet to her.

It's this sort of thing that separates the girls from the women as far as I'm concerned. A girl needs a man as a service. A woman wants a man for himself, and his value doesn't come from mere function.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends what you mean by "strong".

If you mean dominant, most men are dominant by nature and we all know that a relationship between two dominant people will never succeed. No high value dominant man is going to be attracted to a dominant women. Does that mean he is intimidated by her? Of course not.

Do you mean a "strong and independent woman"? Well let's be honest, these women have a chip on their shoulders and give off a very unappealing vibe. They have "I don't need a man" stamped on their foreheads. Does anyone actually think any self-respecting man is going to be attracted to a woman like that? Nope. Does that mean they are intimidated? Nope.

The whole "men are intimidated by strong women" thing is nothing more than an excuse women who have unappealing personalities and/or who don't know how to treat a man well use to explain their failures with the opposite sex.

This is actually a really, really simple matter that many women choose to complicate in their heads. The simple fact is that a woman who is attractive and feminine and knows how to treat a man right is ALWAYS, ALWAYS a high value woman, regardless of whether she is "strong and successful" or not.

cryscrys1 · Accepted Answer

I think people here are assuming you mean strong by having a better career and making money…

But you mean you prefer a women to act as her biological composition god have her ~ Femininity! Her behavior is kind, loves children , family , husband , it’s ok if she makes money but overall she is caring! She doesn’t show manly anger and aura or attitude meaning acting intimidating or strong.

But in the US femininity is portrayed as being “girly” for a reason to destroy love family etc. why do you think women nowadays are frustrated and arrogant ! Because they have to fake their biological composure of feminine into a MAN to not get called girly.. bimbo.. childish you name it. Which is wrong.
So this is done on purpose from whoever is killing our earth.

I know what you mean as an European I was raised as that. And I love it. It is indeed the correct way.
BUT life has changed , times have changed. Man are already adjusted to masculinity women.

Unless you want to live in EASTERN Europe / BALKAN OR ASIA! Then fine
I think that’s why as a women form Balkan I only have Japanese or Chinese Asian girl-friend because I connect with them easily!!

But as for USA femininity is dead.
Maybe the infusion of so many cultures changed it who knows.. I can say at this point US is good for tourism lol and go back to
Some cute Thailand women or Like some cute Balkan women 🥺🥷

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Only weak men are intimidated by strong women. Confident and secure men are impressed by strong women and would want them as their partner.

coachTanthony · Answer

No. They are not attracted to masculine behavior there's a difference.

Anonymous · Answer

Define "strong" I don't know what you are talking about in terms of physical strength, men and boys class women. "US Soccer Women's team were defeated by a team of 15 year old high school boys from Texas. Pick any team of men's College soccer and they will probably defeat US Women's team. We can enjoy women's sports, but the rigor is not the same as men's competition.” Google. The woman's world championships team loses to teenage boys who have not finished puberty yet.

The world's faster woman runs as fast as you need to run to qualify for the running Olympics.

And in terms of mental strength, most women can't handle stressful jobs like working in the army. Many women reportedly throw their guns on the ground, run away, and cry. In the military, the push-up requirement for women is lowered compared to the male standard. Being in the army, you're not strong enough to lift your wounded soldier is terrible. And a lot of women work, make work jobs from the government. I don't think any guy is intimidated by a " strong" woman.

Maybe intimidated because he thinks the girl is how and he's nervous to talk to her. I know I am going to be called an insecure man or something.

WarrenH · Answer

Define a strong woman, give us your interpretation with characteristics.

I’m implying (from the image of a woman on a high floor in a tall, Manhattan skyscraper) that strong woman = financially independent AND intellectually independent.

If so, my answer is yes, men can be and in certain circumstances (e. g. boss, family member, potential lover) are intimidated by them.

If she’s financially independent, intellectually independent, and attractive, she can mate with whoever she wants basically at will.

Vanidal · Answer

Strong as in muscle built person?
Well, not also woman. I'll be careful if I mess around with strong man who can throw me easily 😂 maybe if I have a knife or gun.
Strong as in generally intimidating personality?
Depends on the details.
A person can be intimidating and an honorable person at the same time. A person I want them to be a leader or some sort. Another spectrum, a person can be intimidating and disrespectful. This person is someone who I don't want to be around with. Bitchy, assholic type.

MCheetah · Answer

Not being attracted to a woman or being turned-off by her uber-masculine attitude and demeanor isn't the same thing as being "intimidated" by her, especially if she's only 5'4". So no, men aren't "intimidated" by supposedly "strong women." We just don't want to date you or have anything to do with you. ... Unless, you're an ACTUAL strong woman of character and spirit. 99.9% of "strong women" aren't physically strong at all, like some kind of 'roided-out lady bodybuilder and Mary Sue.

dustybiker · Answer

Yes. They often won’t admit it though, as some think of it as a negative, which is a waste of passion.

It doesn’t have to be a bad thing, someone can be intimidated and use it as fuel for attraction.

Others clearly can’t handle it, but they don’t match well with strong woman. That can hurt their ego further.

(It’s clear your question is a bait and catch with an agenda. I’m assuming you personally fall into the latter category. So muting the question as I’m not interested in knee/jerk replies.)

libsaretards · Answer

Depends what you mean by a "strong" woman. If you mean an independent woman who can take care of herself but still acts like a woman, then no. That is actually attractive.

If you mean a feminist who hates all men and believes the patriarchy bullshit, then still no. Feminazis are annoying, not intimidating.

To me there is no such thing as an intimidating woman because I am not one to get intimidated by anyone, male or female. To me there are acceptable women and annoying women. MOST (roughly 65% of) women are annoying to me, but a good amount are acceptable as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah but key here is they don’t women who are stronger than they are. She can not give off more masculine energy than him. So a man not being attracted or interested in a woman because she’s ”too strong” means he’s ”weaker”/has less masculine energy than she does. It takes a very strong and masculine man to be with a ”strong woman” (I don’t agree with those terms as you can still be strong and feminine and so on but whatever). It’s the same but opposite for women - the man can not be weaker or five off more feminine energy or characteristics than her or she won’t be attracted/interested.

NottaNatty · Answer

I'm not sure what your definition of strong would be in this circumstance, but if you are referring to a woman being masculine and has the physique of a strong man or MMA fighter than I'd say it's not intimidating it's more of a turn off, it would be like a guy wanting to try on all your dresses, get manicures and be 85% feminine then you might be a little bit freaked out because it's kind of a polarity thing. But if you are referring to a woman who is mentaly strong who can get things done because they are confident and have many characteristics of leadership, than I would think guys would see this as a great thing (I know I do). the men that would find it "intimidating" probably know they cannot match that level of self mental stability and empowerment.

Anonymous · Answer

There are a lot of very wealthy career driven women that come to mind who still give off a lot of feminine energy.. still, I have had 'that feeling' before when I was dating some older women in college. I think the issue stems mainly from the male drive to be the provider. It hurts our egos. It's deeply ingrained into who we are to provide for our families to the point where if we feel we aren't needed to bring home the bacon, we begin to feel almost like the woman in the relationship. You either have to be SUPER secure in your masculinity or be making more money than them lmao

Anonymous · Answer

We are not “intimidated” by strong women.

But we are frustrated when women take advantage of their gender to be loud, rude and bullying and conveniently cry “sexism” when men push back. A loud mouth and pushy woman doesn’t have to worry about men showing hostility towards them vs. how a man who acted the same way.

Seriously imagine a male version of AOC. Everything else equal. Would he be as popular and/or tolerated by society? Would he get the same leeway to blurt out whatever crosses his mind? Doubt it.

jasco · Answer

Strong minded or strong as in physical strength? I am not intimidated by either. However being strong minded typically means stubborn and that can usually lead to arguing a lot. I say its more annoying when your trying to talk to her and tell her what your trying to do. Same goes for when your telling her something about how you feel and instead she's just arguing back with you instead of trying to listen. typically it also means that they are more likely to make a choice on their own rather than talk about it depending on what it is. Their less likely to do things for you sense they feel justified in the fact that they do the same amount work, ( this goes for both genders). Personally tho as long as she's willing to at least listen to me and compromise than I am all for her being a strong woman. But if she can't work with me than we just can't be together.

Jay3344 · Answer

For me “strong” women tend to be more socially agro. The negative aspect is Like they will step over boundaries more easily and have no thought about the consequences or will sometimes be hostile when confronted with those consequences. An example would be Karen’s in pop culture. I’m not intimidated as much as trying to avoid this kind of behavior. Strong woman that are more positive tend to be self starters and willing to work with others while being alpha - ish. They’re pretty cool. I just don’t like the entitled feeling of a lot of women with a lack of common sense. But the positive strong woman are great.

TonightYouu · Answer

This is the female equivalent of an overly emotional male

women can do it but they need to understand that ITS NOT ATTRACTIVE AT ALL😂

the problem is women never think they have to change or behave a certain way to get a man because “men are easy”

But a quality masculine man you will have to work for masculine men are attracted to really feminine women

masculine men want the girliest girl in girl town all of you girl bosses ShEO type women are kinda shooting yourselves in the foot

a strong woman can only be with a stronger man but a feminine woman can be with any man even yours

in closing Submissive Feminine women are the blueberry of poptarts ( they’re there but there isn’t a lot because they’re the ones everyone buys) Strong women are the brown sugar of poptarts ( they’re always there never needing to be restocked because nobody wants that bull shit)

Anonymous · Answer

This is a very European perspective... In many Native American cultures they are female-led, strength in a woman is attractive.

Personally, I have always been taught that a strong woman is an attractive thing for a man. If I can find a man who is stronger in spirit than I am, then he is a helluva man, and when I've been with one, it was magical. We were a power couple in our community. I've dated weak men, and they just drag me down.

In short, a man who is strong enough to date, and conquer/ win the heart of a strong woman can hold her up as a prize. My best friend is a strong woman, and I've heard people who barely know her husband convey respect and expectation of his strength because of HER strength... And it's a fair assessment.

Matthew2024 · Answer

Only weak men who are legit skin and bones, dont have jobs, a life, lives in his mommas basement, has no future, there gonna be scared shitless. A girl could make more money then me and bench twice mine. I'm not intimated by her, even though she's bigger then me in every way I'm not weak and I have no reason to be intimidated by her. I have a solid life and career, I have strong values and tbh I just don't care. I think weak women are unattractive, and I don't mean physically weak, it matters more about there work ethic and there values. Do you want to date someone that sits home all day eating chips, doesn't do anything, no job, no goals, no future?

Anonymous · Answer

No, men are not intimidated by strong women. Men are attracted to femininity, not masculinity.

Women tell themselves they "intimidate" men as an excuse to blame men for not finding their masculine energy attractive.

I think it's ironic how many women say that only weak men are not attracted to strong women, when it's actually just the opposite. Strong, successful men are attracted to, and can get feminine women. They don't have to settle for a masculine woman.

This goes to the core of human nature. Sorry ladies, but you cannot change human nature, as much as you would like to.

MementoMori_ · Answer

What I think is that women WANT TO THINK that men are intimidated by "strong women." But the fact that they are so obsessed with this fantasy indicates that they are in fact NOT strong, but so lacking in self-confidence that they need to fantasize that they have some kind of power so they don't feel so powerless.

Strong, confident people don't think about whether or not they "intimidate" other people, they just do their thing.

RedStiletto88 · Answer

Insecure weak men are intimidated by strong women.

Strong men who respect a woman for who she is and knows what she wants aren’t usually intimidated and make the best partners.

Insecure, possessive, immature men who think they have a right to control us are afraid of and intimidated by strong independent thinking women.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

No, some jist use it as an excuse to act like bitchy and say men are intimidated by it for not wanting it, kind of like that feminist Amanda who got her ass handed to her by Kevin Samuels.

It'd almost like she was deliberately deepening her voice to try and intimidate him or she just sounded like some chainsmoking grandma as someone else put it.

DermalPunch · Answer

How do you define strong? If you mean trying to go toe to the with him loke à man then no not really. If you mean calmly standing in your power and holding to your boundaries in a calm holistic way that isn't aimed at emasculation then no they are in are and admire that greatly.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

I think most people want, if not someone mildly similar, then someone who balances them. In the ways you are masculine, you will likely want someone feminine.

Phoenix98 · Answer

No they don’t intimidate me truthfully I general could care less about them.

That aside being genuinely strong and thinking your strong as two different things. Likewise you can appear strong yet actually be a weak individual.

Then there’s the matter of what strength is. Power? Money and career? Physically strength, mental strength? What strength is will vary depending on who you ask.

Subarugirl · Answer

Only weak men are intimidated by strong women. Strength is not exclusively a male trait.

If you have to be with someone weak in order to feel strong, you have a fragile ego and even more fragile masculinity.

How ever it's not like you are going to have to worry about that... no high value woman would want anything to do with you anyways so it's not an issue that you will have.

Moose304 · Answer

Some men are, then again some men are not. As for me I really don't care either way. When I spend time with a lady I want her to actually be a lady. If she can't do this I no longer want to be around her. To be fair I don't like being around males that are assholes. This is a VERY complex subject full of rabbit holes.

KittyBox · Answer

Avoided more like, if you see a woman that has muscular arms that look like they're about to pop out of her body, I'm not quite sure who could find that attractive, but I sure couldn't, now smooth looking skin is far more "feminine" to me as it's nice to look at.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you mean strong smelling?

Sometimes they were a lot of perfume that makes me think I have been warped back in time to the 1930s.

I don't like that.

It's not just the smell that is bad it also makes me feel obligated to rape Hitler so that he will be too busy showering to occupy the Rhinelands.

(credit belongs to Louis CK for the Hitler raping joke)

WeirdoFriendly · Answer

I'm not intimidated and I wouldn't say that I don't want a strong woman.

Yes, usually I like petite gals but nothing's keeping me from other gals that are more muscular or that are more sharp minded and head strong. I don't have any problem with it.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I disagree. I think behind a strong man there should be a strong women.

Are you telling me you'd prefer an unreliable, depressed, insecure, very jealous woman? Because that's what I see as a weak woman.

LazerBean · Answer

There the difference between a strong woman and a bullheaded woman. Strong people like other strong people. Nobody likes a bullheaded person.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

I think a lot of men don't want physically and emotionally strong women 😂 but aren't intimidated. For the idiots who can't read I didn't say "all" men.

Anonymous · Answer

I do not. People seem to get confused between "unattracted to" and "intimidated by". It's basically the same bullshit as people who don't know what "phobic" or "phobia" means. It means "afraid of" or "having fear of" not "doesn't like." Like I don't like BBQ chicken on pizza. But I'm not BBQ-chicken phobic. It's really not that fucking hard.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Do you mean women who are masculine and dominant or those who are mentally healthy, independent and stand up on their own type?

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Yes they are. My experience says they are. I’m not even independent in the sense that men describe as the annoying feminist... I just know who I am, I live my life and I won’t accept less than I deserve.

Levin · Answer

There's a difference between a strong woman with character and a manly woman or a woman who has manly characteristics. I don't want the latter.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

This is how most men see them : she's strong and independent on her own so I must be disposable so I can't really force her to do stuff and she's going to be high maintenance and all I wanted to do was to just fuck lol...

Minahh · Answer

Of course they are but just the misogynistic ones. For a man who sees his woman as his equal, strong woman is a treasure to him. She is not a threat to him, because he knows himself truly.

Avicenna · Answer

LOL, no. A weak woman isn't the kind of person that can deal with adversity and isn't the kind of person you can be sure of, either.

jshm2 · Answer

Nope. The opposite. Sadly most women think "strong" means "being a nasty bitch"

Anonymous · Answer

Growing up men were brought up to believe they are supposed to be that strong guy, the protector of women the nice guy they want, pay for dinner, open car doors.

We were lead to believe we were the strong ones and women weren't.

Saying that though I have no problem with strong women, if they want to be the big boss woman, earn more money than their partner, even physically strong is fine too.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Bitchy women say we’re intimidated by them. No. I’m not intimidated by gnats or mosquitoes, either. I am annoyed by them. I’m friends with a lot of female cops.

not_a_gamer_girl · Answer

If a man is intimidated by me, that means he’s weaker than me and I have no interest in him. I want a man who can match my energy.

Anonymous · Answer

Its hard to be intimidated by a smaller weaker woman, even if she is being bossy and commanding like a man. Its just annoying and unattractive and you only put up with it for her other attributes until you can't stand to her anymore.

Shamalien · Answer

HAHA no man is intimidated by a strong woman, that’s a term girls use to get over the truth that men simply aren’t attracted to them. A woman can be strong and feminine and that is very attractive

but strong and masculine is not

Sixgunsound · Answer

Do you mean strong like Ronda Rousey or do you mean strong as in force of will and character?

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

They're not intimidated at all. They're just turned off by them. You can be independent and driven without being unbearable and competitive. Nobody ever likes it when ego is a strong trait.

Cubus · Answer

They are not. They just dislike women that are arrogant and rude, which modern feminism promotes. Being arrogant and rude doesn't make you strong.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Men that feel theathen by women success or being determined character are just weak and insecure men.

Moreover, if your definition of a strong women is a b*&%$ then I don't believe men are intimidated by such women but rather turned off.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Intimidated? Not the majority of men, no. I think the Majority of men just don't like how do called strong women act towards them.

Berethor · Answer

I am okay with tomboys to an extent, but yea I don't want women who is stronger than myself.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I think we are, not because i want her weak but because one of the beautiful feminine traits in a woman is to rely on her man and make him feel that she needs him... etc

Paul09 · Answer

You have to be more specific with the word strong. String physically? Strong mentally? Both? I like both. But not bulging muscles strong. I'm not intimidated by it. I respect that more.

TroyDT · Answer

I think weak men might be. Unless she gives off masculine energy, in which case most guys would likely decline.

admles · Answer

Only weak men are. my ex was not a strong woman and it was a terrible relationship, whereas my fiancé is very strong and it’s amazing!

Torosblanca96 · Answer

I only want physically strong fat women older and taller than me, I like a woman who looks like a female sumo wrestler to throw me around in bed like a football

Dargil · Answer

I'm not intimidated by them... just not attracted to them

J2ohhhhh · Answer

Strong women be like: https://youtu. be/a8qbJraveSI

GrapeApe98 · Answer

Bro, you need to change that terrible mindset of yours, or else you better get used to being single forever.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I think the word "strong" is often misused in this case which is why people think a strong woman is intimidating.

Anonymous · Answer

Grow up.  If you love someone, you shouldn't be so shallow like that. It's not right.

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