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Last year a few studies were published that linked taking selfies and posting them to a social network like Facebook to certain narcissistic traits. And this led some to believe that if you post a lot of selfies, you must be a narcissist.
However, the answer to the question of why people post selfies — what motivates us to post selfies? — is more complicated and nuanced — as it usually is.
One of the studies in question was conducted by Eric Weiser (2015) who examined a sample of 1,204 people who were surveyed about their selfie posting behavior, and then took a 40-item narcissistic personality test. This study helpfully teased out which narcissistic behaviors are driving selfie posting behaviors. The researcher found that the Leadership/Authority (related to psychological resilience and social potency) and Grandiose Exhibitionism traits were linked to selfie posting, while Entitlement/Exploitativeness was not.
To be clear, the researchers don’t know whether selfie behavior drives narcissism or narcissism drives posting more selfies, since this was only a survey and could only tease out correlations.
But the problem with this kind of research is that it is testing for only specific personality type — narcissistic. Isn’t it also likely that selfie posting behavior is more complex than simply saying, “Well, if you’re narcissistic, you’re more likely to post selfies?”
Why Do People Post Selfies?
Sung et al. (2016) thought so too, so the researchers designed a study to examine the motivations people have for posting pictures of oneself. The scientists surveyed 315 participants, administering a questionnaire and a narcissism inventory.
They found that, in the people they surveyed, there were four primary motivations for people to post selfies to a social network like Facebook or Instagram:
Findings of this study revealed four motivations for posting selfies: attention seeking, communication, archiving, and entertainment. Of particular interest to the psychological mechanism of selfies is the motivation of “attention seeking.” [Social networking sites] serve as platforms for individuals to seek self-concept validation and affirmation through the approval of others (Bazarova & Choi, 2014). […]
[For communication,] selfies, as they are highly personal in content, make it easy and convenient for individuals to build and maintain relationships within their social networks, both directly through comments on the selfies or indirectly through others’ reactions to the selfies. […]
The emergence of the “archiving” motivation suggests that individuals take selfies and post them on SNSs to document special events and occasions in their lives. […]
As the last motivation, findings related to the “entertainment” motivation suggest that individuals take and post selfies for fun and to escape boredom.
So indeed, the reasons people post selfies are many, and only one of them is directly related to narcissism or narcissistic tendencies. People seem to do it for many different reasons, so taking a selfie doesn’t make you a narcissist — or even make it more likely that you could be one.
However, the researchers did confirm the findings of the other researchers from 2015 — namely that people who score more highly on a narcissism trait scale post more frequently to social media sites like Facebook. This seems like common sense, though. Why wouldn’t someone who was more narcissistic post more frequently to a site that rewarded people for such behaviors?
Putting this into perspective, we have to remember that narcissists still make up a tiny portion of the population — even those who are on social media.
She likes the attention she is receiving , in a way it is kind of disrespectful considering she is in a relationship with you and seeking attention from others , if you say something to her about it she is just going to turn it around that you are insecure etc.. So if it bothers you , you need to put your foot down to her and tell her how you feel , if she loves you and wants to keep the relationship going she will stop. If she Doesn’t then that’s something. You have to really think about and ask yourself if you want to stay committed to someone like that. Someone that doesn’t respect you because I know damn well other guys are secretly messaging her and complimenting her , and she is loving that attention , it’s disrespectful. , So just be like why are you posting all these selfies of yourself? If she can’t give you a reasonable answer then tell her you feel it’s disrespectful seeking attention from others , say if you were a model and getting paid for it that would be 1 thing but you aren’t. So seeking attention from others just tells me you don’t really respect and value this relationship , how would you feel if I was doing this shit? If she says it wouldn’t bother her then say well it bothers me and I don’t think I can be with someone. That doesn’t value a relationship and is selfish , because you are only thinking of yourself
It could be for any reason.
Are these just normal selfies? If so it could just be because she's new to social media or got a new phone or maybe she became more confident in her appearance due to skincare and loves all the pictures... When I opened my Instagram I was really having too much fun with uploading a lot of pictures 😂, so she could just be going through some phase when she's really enjoying or having fun with it.
If she is showing her body a lot or uploading pictures in many trendy outfits and poses, then I think that things are a little more serious than just uploading pics for fun. I'd think she is craving attention and it is most likely due to any kind of insecurity, and that insecurity might stem from seeing other girls uploading same type of pictures, so she felt a bit of 'peer pressure's to do the same. Even outside of social media many girls get influenced by their friends when it comes to clothing or hairstyle, I remember when this girl in our school dyed her hair and every other girl in her friend circle followed up!!
I used to do this to feel a sense of validation on my appearance. We all know that getting likes on our posts can be genuinely addictive due to the happy hormones produced. She may be doing it to get the same validation a lot of people look for with lower self esteem. Or she could be having fun. Because she is bored. But there are so many better ways to have fun... but anywho this isn’t a personal attack but I think it’s due to the need for validation on her beauty
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Because she is an influencer making some cash right? If not then she is advertising for someone better... get a clue dude.
She’s fishing for compliments to boost her fragile ego. Unfortunately a lot of women can’t get enough attention even when they’re in a relationship. So, if she feels like you haven’t been paying much attention to her she may try to get it from other guys. If that is the case, you have to question her loyalty to you and if there’s an increased risk of her cheating in the near future. Ask yourself, do you really want to continue a relationship with some who treats you like you can’t give her enough attention?
I think it's what she knows and her personality, she likes sharing but this could be also a very slight ego, which is not bad but needs to be kept in check which after a while will naturally happen on its Own. Ego aka you can't build yourself based only on opinions and responses from other people. It's nice to feel good but there needs to be a safe balance. Id actally give you a challenge. Tell her you want to turn off your phone's for a couple of hours so it's just you and her with no pictures or updates or even just leave the phones at home while you go on a walk. It might be a struggle for her but it's good for her to see how her connection to her phone impacts her
I don't like selfies because they feel vain and forced to me. I prefer candid shots of me doing something interesting, or funny selfies where I'm pointing at something in the scenery or having fun playing to the camera.
To me, it's a show. I want to brighten someone's day with something I found funny or interesting.
But to post just lots of plain old selfies? I don't get it.
Did you ask her about it? Maybe she's trying to go for a certain goal?
Narcissism… She bases her self worth on other peoples opinions. She probably also has trouble making decisions (is a total flake) because she’s so tied up in how it will affect other people around her and how they will perceive her. Where do you want to eat? I don’t know… What do you want to drink? I don’t know…
Because that's what people do on Facebook? Because maybe it helps her feel better about her life? Maybe some of the pictures she's doing something interesting to her friends? I'm sure she's like every other girl out there, a bit unsure about her life, and likes that people validate her existence with likes. It could also be she's hooked on posting, but unless you talk to her without sounding whiney, you'll never understand.
Girls are always advertising themselves until the day they find someone who is good enough to make them want to settle down:
Facebook made a study of this and noticed a pattern. Women that are married and are building a family will post less selfies.
In my opinion. If someone posts a high number of selfies online somewhere. There are typically seeking attention from others. However the type of attention there after may very.
By high number I mean more then 5 a day or in at one time.
Sure some people mind wanna know how your doing or what your upto. But posting photos just to post them. Is pretty much an outcall for attention.
Just ask her why. Also I really don't see what the big deal is. They're just pictures.
it's a trend unfortunately. cos even the shy girls seem to be able to do duck face selfies all day. it's bizarre seeing ladies that have low self esteem , confidence and body issues etc taking selfies and attracting attention. vanity is an all time high. Maybe I'm only not doing it cos I am fugly?
There is a thing called selfie addiction.. It's been linked to NPD which is a psychological disorder. She might be undiagnosed NPD.. The attention gives them a high.
Attention seeker dump her know. She is probably looking for other guys validation, she will never be satisfied with you. This is a major red flag
ADMIRATION is what she seeks. Apparently you are not satistfying her need for lotts of attention. Thats the problem with a lovely woman. They crave tons of admiration and attention. Kiss this lady bye bye and find one who thinks knows her poop smells like poop.
Because she can do what she wants? I don’t understand lol
It's called vanity my friend. Ironically, it's a very ugly thing. Most women are concerned about their looks, and that's fine, but for some it can become an actual disease.
Because she Shalliw and thinks the world cares about what she's doing. When in reality nobody including tour inner circle doesn't really care that much.
Some people especially it seems young women have a fascination with it - I would not ascribe anything ulterior to it - Like a jock posting their biceps, an edgy person posting their tattoos etc
Id venture the guess that she, like 99.99% of all women, has this driving need for exuberant amounts of attention.
Not the foggiest, no idea why anyone posts selfies or even takes them. If (and it is a big if) I want to be in a photo, it would only be as part of a group and probably taken by someone not on the photo.
Because she can!!🤔😂
Plus most people these days post selfies all the time...
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