My girlfriend making herself throw up because she wants to be a model

[Tyler4342]

My girlfriend (she's 18 and I'm 19) wants to loss another 20 pounds (she's about 100) with diet pills. That just doesn't sound healthy to me. I am willing to the gym with her but the pill idea has to go. I once came home early cause I didn't feel and I caught her throwing up in the bathroom

I talk to her about it a few times and she thinks its not a big deal and she trying get into modeling. She won't eat a thing because she want to be a model. She loss 10 pounds in one week. I don't know what to do anymore. help

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sorry I didn't mean to make this anonymous. My username Tyler4342.

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my girlfriend went to the hosple for passing out randomly becasue she not eating enough. She still not its a big deal. She's now 90 pounds and I'm told her parents and friends about this. When I talk to her she chances the topic. What I should do?

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The agency she works with keeps telling her to loss weight (forget to tell you that part sorry). She tells me she fine she and I need to take it easy. I caught her throwing up (again) and this time I freak out. I'm worrying too much?

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i took my girlfriend to a group counseling for eating disorders (I told we were going the mall). It cause a bit of a fight but she went anyway. I caught her making throwing up herself 3 times. she's like stick. any ideas?

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my girlfriend does want help with her eating disorder. is there still hope that we can thorught this?

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my girlfriend gained 30 pounds and she quiting her job (we're suing agency she use to work with).

[Anonymous]

Yes she needs to get help, and it's great that she admits it. 90 pounds is like a little child, it's way too little.

I've had bulimia and a friend of mine nearly died of anorexia so I know what I'm talking about. my sickness never got as far as the hospital. After a while I found out at the dentist that my teeth were damaged. I pretended that it was from soda and sugar, but it was a lot of damage and I didn't drink any thing but water so I knew what was the cause. My friends caught my throwing up at school and told my parents. I hated them for doing it, but it only showed how good friends they were. My parents helped me stop. They made me realise that throwing up won't make me more beautiful, but only damage my body.

My friend however got to the point where she was sickly, sickly thin. Her parents put her in "rehab" and she refused to let people help her and try to break out, luckily they managed to help her and she's healthy again.

Your girlfriend needs to get a doctor's help, and it really helps that she wants to get help.

If she wants to become a model she shouldn't put herself in pain and starve herself to get there. There are companies for regular size models and it's more common now.

[Anonymous]

For starters, you need to tell someone about this (her parents, doctor, or whoever can help try and convince her what she's doing is wrong). If she doesn't stop now, she could end up in a vicious cycle of anorexia and/or bulemia. She may not think it's a big deal, but she's going to cause a lot of damage to her internal organs, her metabolism as well as psychological damage. Being a model isn't all that it's cracked up to be. They'll try and pressure her even more into making herself thinner, and if things don't work out for her, she may cause herself more damage. If she's really eager to lose weight (even though she probably doesn't need to), suggest going to the gym, or have her parents tell a doctor so her can put her on a type of exercise and food program.

[Opinion Owner]

You NEED to get her parents involved. if she's young enough, they could put her through a program to make it stop. try to encourage her to pursue other types of careers. on top of that, tell her how you feel about this and how upset it's making you. don't let her walk away. make her see how important this is. but GET HER PARETNS INVOLVED. other than that, I suggest going to a counseling center and asking people for advice or get something for an intervention if her parents aren't doing anything.

[Tyler4342]

Did get them involved but they seen not to care.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, then you need to find someone (maybe someone at school if your in college or high school, like a counsler) to talk to and tell them about it. If they don't get involved and her parents don't seem to be concerned, then I don't think that there is much more that you can do. If you cannot sway her decisions, then that's it. I guess in the end it's your decision on wether you want to keep dating her or not (which may lead to more problems) But that's up to you. Sorry I couldn't be more help

[Opinion Owner]

Of course there is still hope! But she has to stick to it and you can help her by being supportive. Like, keep her on track, talk to her counsler or the person that's helping her to see how you can help her get through this. Compliment her on her successes, and if she sways away from her goals, encourage her that she can do it.

[Opinion Owner]

Horray!! Good for her!!! :D

[leigh24]

well the bulemia is a big deal. it will definitely mess up her body and its a horrible and totally unhealthy way to lose weight. she is really damaging herself and her body. try complimenting her about how she looks. not all models are thin. it doesn't sound like she would even need diet pills. and certain ones aren't good for you anyways depending on what they have in them. and she's 100 lbs already.it is a big deal. is there more to it than just the modeling? almost every girl thinks she is fat no matter how much she weighs. do some research on google and let her know the short and long term effects this is going to have on her body and mind. she needs to know. good luck!

[whiteyforlife3]

if she's ready to accept the help, then you can make it through. 80 pounds is like. a 10 year old, and she should know that. no matter how much you tell her about how unhealthy it is, she will still look in the mirror and think she's fat, so you need professional help. she can come out of this, just be there for her.

[skawa1991]

DUDE. MY Girlfriend wants 2 b a model tooo. but my problem is that I'm afraid that we won't see each other and since she will be with all those conceited hunks she will leave me for 1 of them. Anyway

back to ur problem. Grab ur girl tie her to the table or sumting and make her eat because once she will become anorexic things will get a lot more serious. Bro don't let all that modeling brainwash her. So now she wanna be 80lB? dude that is very light. She will be very tiny, very skinny and bony and then she can get sick and you kno how most of anorexic models end up. I don't wanna scare you but save her and ur relationship b4 its 2 late. GOOD LUCK

[Anonymous]

She needs counseling. Unless a girl is extremely short, at the age of 18 she should NEVER weigh 80lbs, and besides, 100lbs is pretty damn skinny as it is. She's going to destroy her body. Talk to her family and her friends and try calling any local eating disorder clinic.

Unfortunately, because she's 18 what she does with her body is ultimately her decision. You can only try and push her to be healthy.

[Opinion Owner]

Don't let her avoid reality.

[martyfellow]

You need professional help with us. She might need to check herself into a facility for people with this disorder.

The first step is to go to either her doctor or her parents or other family members, who of course will tell her the same thing: go to the doctor!

[dannyboy187]

It depends on her stature, I mean if she is 5' 5" (for example) then she is asking for trouble. I work with a girl who is 5' 4" and is 105 pounds, she is pretty darn thin. This sounds like a classic case of anorexia, she needs professional help (therapy).

[Anonymous]

get her to a doctor immediately, or even a counseller. eating disorders are VERY HARMFULL, and as much as she denies it, throwing up and taking diet pills is a start of one.

i had a very bad eating disorder last year, and I still have it.

there are many, many many health problems with malnutrition. some include:

cannot get pregnant, heart failure, lower immunity, lost of periods, hair loss, sex libido lost, sleeping alot, lack of circulation.

i really hope everything goes well.

[Imyoursxoxo]

show her there are other healthier ways to do it: gym, eating better. if that doesn't work, take her to a counselor. she could have an eating disorder. she needs someone to help her. just support her as much as you can

[leigh24]

absolutely! just be supportive of her and help her get through it. I'm so happy for you guys!

[Anonymous]

you can never worry to much, it just shows that you care.

its a very serious thing and I'm teling you.get help ASAP.