Should I pretend that she doesn't exist?

[Anonymous]

There is this girl in class, I find her really attractive. She knows that I have been looking at her but I dont think she feel the same way. We have never spoken. And I think it best that I ignore her existence.

[sheikalana]

If you know you're out of her league or if you're sure you don't have any changes with her just move on.

[Asker]

Yes, I do plan on doing that. I just wanted a place to vent.

[NamerOfStars]

Why? Why not talk to her? You're in your thirties; you've moved past the point of teenage shyness.

[Asker]

Says whom no matter the age people can still be shy. Women is my greatest insecurity.

[NamerOfStars]

Who. And true, but what I meant was that by this point in life, you've got enough self-regard to not be limited to appealing to tradition.

[Asker]

I understand what you are saying but you have to understand that I haven't been able to get over that part. Because in my early 30's dont mean that I dont have some things to figure out.

[On_the_other_hand]

Whats the downside of going for it?

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

[Asker]

I understand what you are saying but. I'm pretty sure she has no interest especially after reading her body language last night.

[On_the_other_hand]

Dude. There was a smoking hot girl that I realized later was into me. I thought she was too young so I didn't let myself go there. Three young girls later I looked back and face palm HARD!

I will always respect a guy more who gets flat out rejected over a guy who is too weak (sorry) to find out for sure.

[Asker]

I hear what you are saying but today i class we were facing each other, which was unusual and she wouldn't even look in my direction a clear sign that she wants nothing to do with me. So, weak or not I'm gong to spare me the embarrassment and leave her alone.

[In_Trance]

What class are you in during covid @ 30-35 years of age?

[Asker]

EMT class

[In_Trance]

So every other school is cancelled except for this? Interesting

[Asker]

Hmm, no comment on my original question.

[In_Trance]

I think your original question is absurd. If you find her attractive, why would you pretend she doesn't exist? I see no logic in that

[Asker]

My original point was if that is what she would like.

[In_Trance]

You never have a way of knowing without talking to her. Again, I fail to see the logic in pretending she doesn't exist

[Asker]

I was just thinking that it would make her feel more comfortable.

[In_Trance]

You dont know that. You dont know she's uncomfortable

[Asker]

Hmmm, well last night in class told a different story. For the past 2 weeks I have looked at from time to time. Not staring I know that would be creepy. But this time she wouldn't even look in my direction and I could read her body language. She seemed agitated or uncomfortable. So, I can just assume that the possiblity of me looking at her is causing this. I know it may sound stupid but my mind has a tendency to dwell on the small things.

[In_Trance]

This is ridiculous. You're creating scenarios in your head that don't exist! You have no idea why she would or wouldn't look.
On second thought, the more you tell me here, you were right. I was wrong. You should pretend she doesn't exist. In this frame of mind you don't stand a chance. Smh

[Asker]

Good point, and yes I'm aware that my mind is spiraling for no apparent reason. Dont have to be an asshole about it.

[In_Trance]

You asked, I answered. You don't have to like my truthful answer. I didn't ask you to. I confirmed what you originally proposed, told you you were correct and now you're offended? Smh... you're something special.

[Asker]

Who said I was offended. Trust me I have iron skin. But your last comment was a little condescending. I dont think I'm special at all. I wonder how come I'm alive compared to the last person that died. It should have been me instead.

[scott04sa22]

Let her go... She's probably seeing someone else.