How do you friendzone a girl without her hating you?

[maxdoesss]

There've been too many times where I try to be nice to a girl but she ends up hating me after I don't show interest or politely turn her down. How do you just be nice?

[bobalife]

Lol I kind of had a similar question here a while back and this is what people responded with:


How do you reject guys in a friendly way?



I’ve also been told that I should stop laughing too much, over friendly, and being too bubbly as it confuses guys 😶 But I said that’s hard because that’s my personality and I love laughing lolz. Sometimes, I try to be aware and lessen it. Though if you’re not interested in someone and they are just a friend, try to not overdo your friendliness through text/call/in-person and have more of a set boundary. I set my boundaries with just platonic friends vs guys I’m interested in. Don’t try to make things sound flirty because it’s going to confuse and mislead girls that you just want as friends. Maybe suggest other guys to her and vice versa to hint the friendship vibe. If she somehow confess and you reject her politely, but she “hates” you for it... then, she’s not a real friend sadly. But it’s good to be respectful and sensitive of other feelings. If any girls made advance move on you that you weren’t interested in, then just be honest and friendly stating “I’m looking to make more friends” so they get the picture you literally just want friends. Hopefully this helps! :)

[ririissleepy]

Well if you were actually flirting with her and leading her on without actual interest.. no chance man.

But there are plenty of ways to befriend girls without them reading to much into it or feeling hurt. I have mostly male friends and none of them have ever made me upset in that way.

[maxdoesss]

How do I just be nice without them reading into it?

[ririissleepy]

I'd say drawing the line from the beginning. Make sure they know you are not looking for sth other than friendship. Dont engage in date-like activities. Treat them a bit more like you would a male friend. For more obvious signs call them dude or buddy or just friend. Maybe in the beginning dont do stuff just as the two of you but with a group of friends.

[ririissleepy]

It could just be that you have a very flirtatious way of talking to women without even realizing. Which can just lead to misunderstanding. I dont know you so I can't speak on that. But it could be a possibility

[coachTanthony]

If you are up front and honest in the beginning then this should never happen. It only happens when you wait so long or are wishy washy in your intent.

Most guys know if a girl likes them... and if the man don't like them back sometimes they wait because they are enjoying that feeling of someone liking them in that way which is a bad idea to begin with. Go get validation somewhere else. in my opinion.

[PetrovaFire92]

True.

[maxdoesss]

There's no intent other than being polite and friendly

[PetrovaFire92]

@maxdoesss Did she think you were flirting with her or something like that?, Just tell her you don't like her simple as that.. you make it complicate.. more complicated than it has to be.. 😒

[maxdoesss]

How would I know? Why would I tell someone I'm speaking to normally that I don't like her?

[bluetoblack99]

You treat her the same way you would want to be treated.

This what you say:

”Hey so and so I think you are a really cool girl and I enjoy talking to you. But I want to be honest out of respect. I don’t feel the same way you do about me. I know that’s not fun to hear. But I’ve been in the reverse position before so I know how it feels. So I’m trying to treat you how I wish to be treated.”

Leave it at. There is no telling how she will react. She obviously won’t be happy. But at least she will be thankful to know where she stands. After she calms down to her initial emotional reaction she will feel better because you were honest. If she “hates” you for respectfully telling the truth then that’s a problem with her.

Women play dumb to exploit guys all the time with the friendzone. 9 out of 10 women who have done this to me in the past pulled this bs (and try to justify it). So if we want them to change then we can’t do the same back to them.

Let’s not start being hypocrites and acting like them. Yes the attention feels good but that’s a human being who wants to be loved. She had no control over feeling attracted to you anymore than you had control over not feeling attracted to her. Just be respectfully honest.

[bluetoblack99]

Of course some girl downvotes me because she prefers wishy washy bs for her own ends.

[gypsy_rose]

Mention that you're still in love with your ex. if you do this very early on with a girl, she will understand that you probably aren't trying to get with her.
Besides that, it's the best turn off. If she was interested, she won't be anymore if you tell her that...
Then you can still be friends, no harm done.

[maxdoesss]

I think I'll just mention I have a girlfriend

[spartan55]

Yeah, dishonesty is always a good thing...

[maxdoesss]

Saves me the trouble of having to deal with an unwarranted passive aggressive attitude

[spartan55]

I suppose.

[Browneye57]

You can't. You've insulted her entire being. Spurn a woman and they go absolutely fucking nuts. They think they are ENTITLED to you, their feelings, that they are a goddess to be worshiped. FAIL
Also why sometimes playing hard to get for that truly remarkable bimbo just makes her try that much harder. It's nearly comical, if it wasn't so sad and self-centered. Solipsism on full unabashed display. They DESERVE to have you desire them. After all, they've been told by everyone around them for their entire life how they DESERVE to be HHHAAAPPPPYYY. And they actually believe it.

[TruthBringer]

Are you a woman? Because it's female behavior to "friendzone" a dude who they know likes them. Which is the political correct way to string someone along for free attention/validation + ego boost and perhaps also as a back-up plan.
Don't like that happening to you? Why are you stringing someone along? At some point the person will get frustrated and gry with you. So much for a "friendship" that is. Just reject her as gently as possible and move on with your life. That's best for the both of you. Deprive her from entertaining the thought of having you and let her find someone else.

[SnowyOwl]

I get the same issue with guys. Like can I just be nice to you, and dont fall for me please? haha. Wish I could help. I guess you gotta make it clear from the start though... Maybe, and this is what I think I do, just tell them that you're not looking for a relationship, or hook up, or anything. Then they can't be mad, cuz you're just not interested. Of course you shouldn't lie, so if its not the case I don't know how to help you, hahahaha. For me its the case, because I am not looking for anything more than friendship.. I got my mind and heart set on someone. And an elaborate plan, that no one shall find out about until execution is completed, mwahahaha.
Good luck :D

[dandiecandie]

If I'm being honest with i always wonder why a guy would want to friend me when he could be more than friends. I have male friends and all of them hit on me from time to time. It's not a clean friendship when you see the girl as a friend and something more potentially. Girl and guy friends relationships are tricky because initially and eventually you might end up having feelings for them in a romantic way unless you've got a partner already which could prevent both of you from ever taking your relationship further. Or maybe a huge age gap. Either than that I dont believe in girl and guy friendships becsuse I have so many guy friends and I know exactly what they think.

[Kiss_Me]

Just taker her out but ensure she knows you date casually. She will figure out that Date does NOT equal Relationship. She will become someone you occasionally take to dinner or Haunted House, etc or she will not.
This is an excellent way to expand your dating pool. It also helps girls to say yes to dates because it helps convince them you are not playing the Teenie Bopper / High School game of Date = New Boyfriend / Relationship. This is a stupid game that keeps soooo many people from asking or accepting dates.

[GlitterFairy16]

Be totally honest with her. Tell her you really like her but only as a friend and that you think having some time apart might help.

I myself was friend zoned by someone i REALLY liked some years back and it hurt so bad when he had to get his friends to tell me he wasn't interested instead of just telling me himself to my face and why he didn't want to be with me and then carried on hurting me by pretending nothing happened and that everything was normal and kept leading me on still. If you do that she won't even want to be your friendzone as she will probably end up hating you.

[Billie_]

Instead of outwardly rejecting this type of woman, talk about other girls. How attractive you find them. How sexy they are. She will soon get the message that you don’t look at her this way. Or instead of having a big talk of “look, ___, I’m sorry but i just want to be friends” just be casual and jokey about it

[kaylaS91]

Just tell her she's a great friend but that you're not interested in making things romantic.

I mean... it's pretty simple. If she decides to hate you and act petty because she got turned down, that's just how people show they're not too mature and you're better off without.

[d1g1t4lg1rl]

Do it without making it obvious because if you make it obvious she might feel stupid so just do things casually like mention other girls you're talking to or simply call her dude or say you feel really comfortable around her and say she's like your sister or you're so happy you're friends

[Jenom]

Being honest is being nice. I don't want to lead a chick on. I'd tell her we're better off as friends and that I'd rather have her in my life as a friend than not at all. If she ends up hating because of this then it reflects the kind of person she is. I understand it's difficult to maintain a friendship with someone you like, but if she can't just leave it (even without friendship) without the hate then she's not a nice person.

[ch2raf]

First of all there is no such thing as politely turn her down because women automatically receive that as kind of an insult to their feminism if you will
The best thing you can do if you really care to end thing well for her so that you dont worry about it is to start messing up lol
And trust me she would be out in no time

[hahahmm]

When you care about her “feelings” you’re giving her the power to manipulate/control you. Half of the time people who show a lot of emotion are faking it to control you. The othet half of the time they don’t even know why theu feel that way & maybe tomorrow they’ll feel differently. There’s zero upside to letting that random chaos run your life.

[Anonymous]

welcome to the world of double standards! Women scream about double standards-except the ones they like. Women are used to being the choosers and do not have to deal with rejection much. Therefore their egos take a much bigger hit than does guys (who have to deal with rejection all the time). Thus (in her logic) its ok to hate you for rejecting her but those123 guys she rejected last year should think she's a great person-a friend...

[slatyb]

You can’t control someone’s reaction. All you can do is be polite and vague —“Thanks Sarah, but I don’t think it would work” Never give them a specific reason unless it’s some neutral point of fundamental. incompatibility. if they press you for a reason, don’t explain. Just say “I’m sorry, I just don’t think we would be happy together.”

[RawIronhide]

I'm not sure you can bro. Rejection sucks for everyone but girls don't handle it as well most of the time. Just do your best to state you're intentions right off the bat, if they get mad that's on them, if they don't then, yay you got a new friend.

[djmzes]

Simple

[RolandCuthbert]

The same way a woman friendzones a man without him hating her.

Such a thing does not exist. Deal with the consequences of their emotions. It is funny how many guys at GaG won't admit this happens all the time.

[pleasestopthis]

If she hates you, nevermind. Some people aren't mature enough to take a rejection even if you do it nicely.

[triff]

Learn to treat girls with respect They are not sex toys they are human beings and deserve to be treated as such Hope she wasn't drunk If she was it could become complicated

[jestergent]

Just don't care. Let her hate you. You could do the reverse. She friend zoned you. Should you care? Does she.

[PetrovaFire92]

That's not possible.. she's gonna hate you. Sorry bro.

[EclecticEmapath1111]

Are you gay or have a relationship with another girl?

[maxdoesss]

No just trying to be friendly

[maxdoesss]

I'm not trying to flirt either

[EclecticEmapath1111]

Ok, then I'd just be very clear from the start of the initial introduction between you and the new female acquaintances you meet that you are NOT interested in dating atm.

[maxdoesss]

I just don't understand why I'd have to bring it up in the first place

[EclecticEmapath1111]

Women are not mind readers... But, then again neither are men. It will be very clear to whoever you befriends that you are off limits as a romantic interest and they will be less likely to try to be more than friends with you and they won't hate you either. I have guy friends who were up front with me like that and I appreciated their candor and respected their boundaries. Nobody is going to know what you are asking for or saying no to unless you put it out there. If you don't feel that you want to do that, then it means that you are not really caring about these girl's feelings at all and are actually enjoying having you ego stroked by their attention and with zero intentions of being real friends or anything more.

[Anonymous]

I find if if I keep telling a guy he's so big, its so good, its the biggest I've ever had, dont stop, keep fucking me, I'm your dirty girl and moaning that a guy cums super duper quick. He not have a bifmg dick or be any good.

[betchimightbe]

Girl WHAT?

[Addicted2u]

LMAO! Tha fuck

[gypsy_rose]

Oh my... I don't even know why this is so funny. 😂

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Try to be nice about it but be clear. If they hate you afterwards that is on them

[Anonymous]

It's pretty tough dude. Especially because friendzoning a girl is pretty much saying "you're too ugly to bang."

[JosyJosy]

Being considerate in how you say it, and even then you can't guarantee how someone will take rejection, but being nice and polite increases your luck

[Anonymous]

With guys I just do it, like, nothing specific other than I don’t do anything to close to them and of course never fuck or kiss them. Hugs are okay but quick ones, no lingering

[Addicted2u]

The only times this happens is after you’ve either A) taken her virginity, and or you’ve B) already used her in some way. So my advice is to stop leading girls on.

[Silver158]

I agree, solid advice for everyone.

[maxdoesss]

Not true

[PetrovaFire92]

@addicted2u Exactly!, He probably let her on something to make her think that he liked her. Then he probably turned around and said he didn't like her after he got what he wanted. 🙄 In typical guy fashion.

[maxdoesss]

Nope. Just being polite and friendly

[PetrovaFire92]

@maxdoesss There is probably more to the story than you're telling us... 🙄

[Silver158]

@PetrovaFire92 Plenty of women do this too. Don't put it all on guys

[PetrovaFire92]

@Silver158 girls don't use guys for sex and then say let's be friends... If a girl doesn't like you they'll tell you. With honesty straightforward. whereas a guy would just play with the girl's feelings and say let's be friends after she gets used for sex or to make another girl jealous or something.. then he regard her like trash.

[Addicted2u]

@PetrovaFire92 yes. And let me be clear, the OP says these girls are “hating” him and that it’s happened multiple times. Maybe OP is exaggerating about their reaction? Maybe OP is clueless about his affect on women and doesn’t realize he’s leading girls on? I doubt multiple girls would overreact and “hate” someone who simply turned them down.

[ManHater]

Well about 10 girls hate me already

[Silver158]

@PetrovaFire92 yes they do... Do you even live in the real world?

[J2ohhhhh]

Just ghost her. This is 2020, you don't need to overthink.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

ghosting is for socially unintelligent people.

[Massageman]

This is one job that will have to be delegated to Tom Cruise and the IMF.

[AwanAlphaMale]

You're ability to get women angers me and it's not fair.

Can you feel my thought attacks?

[maxdoesss]

*your

[AwanAlphaMale]

Shut up normie
Do you not feel my attacks? wtf

[snowboarder720]

So much for being an alpha male...

[Iron_Man]

If she’s going to hate you there’s no reason to be friends

[cloud9vortex1234]

She shouldn't hate you. If she does then that's her problem.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

There's no such thing as being "just friends" between men and women.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

So far there are 3 simps that will never get their dicks sucked, I'm sorry for your skewed view of reality. Either that or they're gay, who really knows.

[In_Trance]

You dont. If you don't want to be with her what's it matter whether she likes you or not?

[Tstrbrainer]

That's cool, it's usually women who put guys in friend zone, it's good to give them a taste of their own medicine 😂😂😂

[Footballplayz]

Okay say that you love her like a sister boom friend zoned. They know you love them a great deal but they also know that it's not romantic

[Anonymous]

Just leave her alone. Would you be just friends with a girl who you are super attracted to? I don't thinks so.

[PetrovaFire92]

I agree with your opinion. I don't think a guy would be friends with a girl he's super attracted to either. He would kept chasing the girl if he was super attracted to her there's no way he could have been friends.. an just that.

[Darcia]

Be blunt and tell her up front

[Mskro5y0vd]

Dont be friends with her

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Don't be too nice then I guess.

[pocketman]

Most women just want friendships.

[Addicted2u]

Yep! I smell BS!

[StickStickity13]

You'll hurt her feelings no matter what.