Girls, Her boyfriend made her delete me?

[Anonymous]

Long story short So me and a girl met 3 years ago at college, it was clear we was both attracted to each other (always looking and other signs etc) . We never spoke, i could see it annoyed her if she saw me with other girls which made me feel bad. I was nervous to talk to her. But then I used to force my self to speak with her even though I was shy. One time when I introduced my self I lost my words and felt embarrassed and went red. So every week I would sit with her at lunch, and eat and talk. It was clear to me she was attracted, also she would speak about me to her friends a lot. But she was also shy. After weeks I found out she had a boyfriend but didn’t tell me. She started acting kinda hot and cold. So I stopped wanting to associate with her. One time I stopped eating lunch her which upset her. I disappeared for months. When I returned she seemed weird like constantly staring at the walls and looking upset but then staring if I’m joking with my friends.
I got told she was in a controlling relationship , and she couldn’t get out of it. The last day off college I sat with her and said I’d it didn’t work out with boyfriend I wanted to date her, but she wouldn’t add my social media. Because her boyfriend questions every guy and makes her delete them all. Months away we moved on to uni. I decided to try adding her anyway on Facebook and Instagram. She had me pending for a year. The once she accepted then blocked and unblocked me. I re followed her she left me pending for a while and then added me. But then months later I heard she was having a hard time splitting with him, he started stalking my Instagram, then a few days later she deleted me. Why did he make her delete me?

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All I did was like one of her photos , and she started stalking my Instagram, then days later he had her delete me. Why did he stalk my Instagram and make her do that. Also she’s at university , so am I. But we don’t study together. I study different topics. I am in the boxing and weight training she is not in my gym or society’s

[mindNsoul]

I would stop this if I was you. This sounds like child play. Leave her alone till she decides to fix her situation one day if she ever decides to. Don't gt yourself cought in between or facing a crazy ass boyfriend. people get killed for things less Han that. Plus you are way too invested if she calls you tomorrow to be her white night you'll jump to it and then it is highly she will throw you away. Obviously for all these yesrs she kept you nearby but not quite. That's just a red flag. It is up to you how you continue this. But I'd find myself a girlfriend and experience love instead of being someone's shadow in the hopes that one day they will chose me as a backup plan.

[Asker]

Yeah , that is true. I’m not hanging around. But also I’m not necessarily looking either. But it grabs my attention. Because after years she had me pending. Obviously because her boyfriend is controlling, then she accepted me (probably because at the time she split up with him it’s kind of a finger up to the boyfriend) but she’s just can’t quite finish him. Possibly because she’s still insecure about finances and being a student still. But, she split up with him , he started stalking my Instagram just because I liked her photo, then a few days later she removed me. Not sure what he said or done

[mindNsoul]

Young man all this is unnecessary and irrelevant to your decision. Stop being interested to know what she does, when and why. I leave people pending for years because I only accept family requests. Again it doesn't honestly matter.

[SandandWaves]

like you said, he is a bad jealous type. she does want to talk with ya though, just got to find another way

[Asker]

Yeah how can you tell she want to talk? Yeah , he stalked my social media when I liked one of her pictures. She didn’t want to be with him and added me ages ago. But he's been controlling who she has on social media and pictures she uploads (which is none) but she wanted to split with him so decided to upload one.

[SandandWaves]

if she likes ya, she will find a way

[Asker]

Yeah , i just don’t get why he was stalking my social media then had her delete me. I had to privatise my account

[SandandWaves]

you will never understand him, cause you're not that kind of guy...
if she truly can't get away from him right now, trust me she is trying, think about this though...
Is she protecting you? is she "letting him" tell her to delete ya, because no matter what, I would tell him no!

[SandandWaves]

Is she really worth your time?

[Asker]

True , and yeah she keeps splitting up with him and blocking him. She didn’t add me until she split with him one time ages ago.

And how do you mean protecting me? And what do you mean tell him no?

I think when she split with him months ago and added me, he may have asked to her to delete me then. Maybe she refused and said no. And he let it go, but then after she split again. And saw me like her photo , made accusations and become jealous etc. She deleted her Facebook again too.

I don’t get why she kept me pending for months, a while ago she added me then blocked and unblocked me. then added again few months later when she Split with him. Also in college , I could tell she liked me and had feelings for me

[SandandWaves]

sounds very complicated. if i wanted to associate with someone, then i would, and not let my boyfriend who is controlling, stop me. sorry you're going through this

[Asker]

Do you think she wants to associate with me?

[SandandWaves]

I just don't know, sounds so complicated..