She probably likes you and is trying to make a move. It is a common behaviour to tease someone you like, to see how the other person will react and if it is possible to share some feelings
Thing was I was starting to really get annoyed
The thing is I realize when you come across certain women there’s a reason. When I say me and this girl almost have mirror lives it’s that much that we have in common we both like r&b music we both don’t drink smoke or party. I can tell she’s introverted like myself. She also knows the pain of losing a parent at a young age she lost her father when she was 16 I lost my mother when I was 17 and my father when I was 18 both due to health issues.
She’s basically on her own and is getting through university she said her mom is a alcoholic. I’m putting myself through university I’m not receiving any help from anyone.
It means she is curious and maybe interested, but just doesn't know how to deal with it.
So I liked her before this whole little situation went down but the way she kept teasing me about my age I really started to feel like that was a dealbreaker
As I said: she probably just don't know how to deal with how it makes her feel.
It is a (albeit flawed) defence mechanism; if you feel weird/uncomfortable/unsure you start to joke about it to make it lighter
So the reason I’m thinking about it as much is our lives are almost exact copies we shar so many interests, our values and beliefs are the same we have even been through the same family tragedy’s at a young age
Okay, so what are you saying?
I guess I’m trying to decide if I should just ignore or my feelings and act like they don’t exist
But why?
Cuz she teased you? That is one of the things that makes relationships strong. Just good old banter.
And sure if you feel offended you tell them, but I don't think she ment any harm with it..
If you like her you just do, but: communication is key, also before you have a relationship..
So the way I took it I’m a creepy old man
Then ask her how she ment it?
Communicate that it made you feel weird. If you can't do that, you are not ready for a relationship.
Is 29 a creepy old man
No it is not. Why would you think that?
The way she teased me and saying you’re like a decade older
But.. you technically are?
What is the issue?
You are making this a waaaaaay bigger problem than it should be.
Again, if you can't take this or talk it over with her, you are not ready for a relationship.
I know I’m a decade older but the way it played out made me feel like a creep and a dirty old man. Basically an image of a old guy with gray hair hitting on a young girl popped into my head
Yeah! But that is what YOU made of it.
You don't know how she ment it. But you MAKE it a problem.
Let me ask you this this was one situation that played out with her a day ago. So I like to evaluate situations before I tell the girl I like her but I feel like my actions and body language gave me away. So me and her closed one night it was just us two and when we closed she stood further away and I was thinking she was upset at me so I stood even further away and placed my AirPods in. I felt guilty that I upset her and it hurt me so bad that I wanted to quit. A few days later I go in and talk to my manager and everyone talks so me and her discuss what happened and she moved to a different area outside because of her shoes and she told me that she felt that would happen when she did that. She wasn’t mad at me and was anxious thinking I was mad at her.
This situation is so vaugue I can't understand what you are trying to say or ask..
All I see is that you are both insecure and need to work on that.
Communicate things properly or don't start anything in terms of a relationship.
So the whole time I was thinking she was mad at me she was spending the whole time thinking I was mad at her
... again, 2 insecure people, just guessing each others toughts instead of talking about it.
Work on that issue!!
How hard is it to say: hey? Did i do something to upset you?
And then take the answer and work with that.
But she told me she felt that was gonna happen when she moved away from me. But I feel it’s silently conveying interest like this back and forth between myself and her. What’s really interesting about this is when her myself and my manager was in the office he was like yes now you guys are besties we both are just silent and looking at each other the whole time. Because it’s not a besties thing
Do you read?
Have a talk with HER
Stop guessing on this app
Have a good conversation, if she says something you don't understand or is vaugue ask her to explain.
I don't give a crap about what she said or what happened cuz that is not going to change my advice.
You need to talk it out!!
So the larger picture is wanting her to become my girlfriend so should I ask her out. Because honestly I feel some of our coworkers already suspect like there’s feelings there
Why. Are. You. Still. Here.
You are not listening at all. You just keep spewing your story like it would make a difference.
Talk it over. Make sure you guys communicate. And ask her out.
If you are unable to properly communicate with her, you are NOT ready for a relationship.
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didn't i respond to you a while ago?
I’m not entirely sure
Did I mention how i feel like it’s weird and awkward now
if they are over 18 age is just a number
But what about my personal beliefs I always want people to see it in a good light and when people started teasing me about my age I felt like a dirty old man even though I don’t fit that description because I’m not in my 40s or 50s
if you try to please everyone, everyone will hate you.
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