If a girl asks how old you are, is it a sign of interest?

Question

I only ask this because I've experienced it a few times. Ill be around a girl, usually a new co worker/friend. It will be silent, then out of nowhere they will ask "so how old are you?". These girls have been a lot younger than me. When i tell them my age they say "oh" and sound disappointed. Were they seeing if i was within their dating age range?

Kuraj · Accepted Answer

If I was asking that it would definitelly be out of interest.
But if they are your coworkers, especially new ones maybe they are just asking your age to determine how to communicate with you, maybe you are one of their young peers who is in a similar situation as them, or you are an older dude with more life experience, their superior in a way.

That or they really suck at small talk, but that is still a weird question to ask.

mike87 · Accepted Answer

Well from experience the rule of 7 doesn't apply to most women they look for a man either of the same age or a few years older.. But then you have the extreme cases where 10+ is their dating age. So it could be they thought you were younger and that you were older could of been a put off. All depends on the women..

MissFabulous · Accepted Answer

I think it's a yes and a no. The example you gave sounds like a yes, so that's what I voted for. :) But i say no too because there's always a slight possibility it may have been for other reasons. They may have thought you were younger and wanted to hook you up with their friend but she's to young for you or they wanted to invite you to something but couldn't. How young are these girls, teenagers?

springocelot · Accepted Answer

I had this happen to me with a guy. I was in the grocery store. We passed by a couple times and he kept looking at me. When I stopped to grab some items, he asked me how old was I. Then, he muttered under his breath "too young." I heard so looked at him wide-eyed, then he said, "sorry, I thought you were 28."

So, yeah, it could be.

coolbreeze · Answer

Yes it's a sign of interest. I think they asked you to see if your close to their dating age.

Siri137 · Answer

Not necessarily. Maybe she's interested, but it would be helpful to look out for other signs, like if she also asks for your phone number and email address. Then brushes up against you, and says "Take me, take me now!" ;P Then, if she rips your shirt off, that could also be a sign that she has some interest, but even then you just might be misreading her signals. If she pushes you onto the floor and slides all over you... um... well... yeah, maybe, but it's still not certain.

Two years later she shows up on your doorstep with a baby in her arms and says it's yours. Yeah, okay, then I think you can safely assume she likes you. A bit. For sex only, and child maintenance though.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

It might and might not. I remember being a teenager and that's kind of a go to question up until you are in your mid-20s. The disappointment might indicate they had a potential interest until they found out you were "too old". But I don't know, I don't think that's a total deal breaker, at least not for a lot of the younger women I've met. Most of them just want to know you can relate, they want to feel safe, heard, have fun. Knowing you are older often just adds to their relaxation because they trust your experience and "wisdom" of advanced age. (lol). If you're interested, I think it's best to keep that sort of a mystery and build up some tension. By the time you decide to make a move or not, the answer will already be apparent.

On_the_other_hand · Answer

Yes but don't worry about it. For many they are checking your age to see if you will look good socially and for future plans but... the older I get the younger the girls I can date. Last two girls were half my age and they knew my age.

The first one I gave my number to and she blew up my phone all night. One of the first things she asked me was "How old are you?" I said "lol I'm probably old enough to be your father. It's ok if I'm too old for you." and then I told her I was 47. And then I think because I was so straight up, she didn't care and she asked me to go hiking the next day.

Girls that are into older guys want an "older" guy, not just a few years, but also not as extreme as the ones I've been with. Just be ok with the ones that aren't interested and wait for the ones that don't care and are interested.

Friendship_7 · Answer

I said yes to the dating range, but instead of telling them your age, ask them out. If she is interested in you then she will jump at the opportunity, This way she will get the chance to learn about you. She may or maynot like you, but sometimes people forget that the most important thing is how another person treats them. Not a persons age.

melanieeeB · Answer

I always ask this, for me it's cause I really want to know the age and be sure he isn't younger then me lol I look way younger and I already had guys hitting me up who where a few years younger so wanna make sure before I invest my time into someone way to young
Also age can in some cases tell me how mature the guy could he and give a little clue and shit

sjoes006 · Answer

Depends on the setting but it can be a sign you are acting inappropriately older or younger than you look.

I've met a few very young people who in both business and personal matters are wise beyond their years. I then ask their age as I'm impressed.

ilovelamp · Answer

In the same way that a lot of women have a problem with dating a man shorter than them, many of them have a problem dating a man younger than them.

Beyond that, is their personal preference for older males. a couple years difference might not be enough for that one.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s a sign of disinterest.

About 9 months I met a girl at a party, made out with her and got her number. We planned a date a week later.

I got dressed nice, got a haircut, good shave and had plans to take her to a wine bar. She came over and we were going to Uber downtown. She started texting on her phone feverishly. She then asked how old I was (she’s 27). She said she was “immature” and wanted to go somewhere else to meet her friends. She literally ditched after making plans and indirectly told me to my face I was too old.

Ironically I had talked to a 21 yr old a few months earlier. I called her that same night and she invited me over. We had drinks and ended up having sex. That was the BEST possible rebound I could have asked for. Especially with the age insult.

capturemyheartnow · Answer

No Mostly No. When you look older and she asks about your age , it means she wants to make sure that there is not a great age gap and mostly she will reject you because of age difference. But if the two of you are young and she asks you about your age it is mostly to make sure if you have attained legal age of 18 or not. In this case it could be a good sign.

Anonymous · Answer

Um not really. It could be either to be honest. She could be using you to make small talk to make it less awkward or to make someone else jealous. She could also be doing it to strike up a conversation with you, which might mean she is interested. It is a really general question.

Aairs · Answer

Probably. Younger girls are generally crazy about older guys, especially in office/hierarchical settings.

It isn't your age but tone of voice in reply that shuts them down (to their surprise, dince most girls were raised to believe they are adorable and irresistably sexy/just bang-on dateable, the best there is etc).

Are you good looking?

lernulo · Answer

Its a quest, girls are used to use the age as a limit to their boyfriends, so.. as every quest ( not psychological games those are different) if you pass, her consciouss mind accept the possibility if you dont, it will try to sabotage you.
On my opinion, next time a girl makes you that question answer with a joke about how it isn't a problem.
By example, " Im older that you, but dont worry I will care about you, my little".
Or something that gives you value in front of her prejudge.

Tephra · Answer

Yes its a sign of interest, caution and curiousity. Usually I ask people how old they are if Im interested in them but making sure they aren't too young or old for me :)

LoveLuvuluvmeluv · Answer

In my experience women always used to start this as police officer 👮 starting by simple questions and see how you reply then go deeply personal... age>work>status>family> then she write your 3D degree image and value if it's near to her Expectations and aspirations that you have as criteria for friendship, love, sex, or interest, or perhaps you may be one of those she keep on the list of substitutes or those she should not approach at all.

ricky363 · Answer

I'm late to the party, but better late than never.
For the most part, girls are very meticulous and will RARELY say things in a direct manner (they are not random, they plan how & when to say it; that is why when she's direct, it seems like she's "desperate." Either that or you got her mad thinking about you). The sooner we realize this, the sooner we can decipher those hott creatures. So yea I think if she ask, she's seeing if you meet her basic criteria.

BluesheepOwl · Answer

I only ask a guy how old he is if he looks super young or if he interests me and I want to make sure he's not jail bait. People with good genes can be 30 but look 16. Sometimes you just gotta ask and make sure.

Logorithim · Answer

I would assume they had some initial interest (no need to be disappointed otherwise) although I have never been asked my age in an intial convo like that.

madhatters4 · Answer

no not necessarily. perhaps they were into you. perhaps they were curious about a potential friendship. perhaps they are just asking your age because it is something you ask to get to know something

ManOnFire · Answer

That's usually the case, yeah. It's been the same for me too. I look a lot younger than 30, so a lot of people - including younger women - think I must be in their age range too.

Anna96 · Answer

It could be that they were asking because they wanted to flirt. However you can't be sure, how did they behave after asking your age?

KezHarris · Answer

I usually ask how old a guy is when im interested in him. However, i also ask people im friends with how old they are. So either im interested in them or just see them as a friend

lightbulb27 · Answer

I've never heard a woman say something negative to an age response. Maybe its how you are saying it.  I'd say yes...

HannahKLee · Answer

Some older woman are worried about dating younger ones. A lot of times the guys are the older ones. TBH she could be interested and curious.

miamigirl1970 · Answer

who knows why some folks ask questions like that. I just answer and go on- don't overthink, it destroys you as you get older.

felchiq · Answer

I usually ask how old people are because I'm just plain curious not because I'm interested in dating.

LittleSally · Answer

I voted 'yes' as in yes, she's interested in how old you are... But doesn't have to do anything with romantic interest.

Goldilocks24 · Answer

Don't put too much thought into it. It's most likely just her trying to see if you're too young or way older than she is.

TheFlak38 · Answer

I dont think she'd ask such a personal question for her health. It's definitely a sign of interest, unless the question comes up during a discussion about age, among a group of people.

PinkMichae · Answer

It can be but I think most people ask just to have something to talk about.

Browneye57 · Answer

It's a shit-test. You can google the term. This is hard-wired in women. And you better be able to address them satisfactorily or they'll never quit. :)

Mikayla3 · Answer

Yes, I feel like she would not care if she was not interested.

A_Bell · Answer

I'd say it's a no in the general case. Girls do that when we think you're too young or old.

Anonymous · Answer

I ask to get a gauge on who I'm talking to. I once joked with a coworker 10 my jr. I didn't get how confused he looked. The jokes were before his time. lol

ScorpioLollipop88 · Answer

sounds like she interested if she older than you than she probably unsure about getting Involved.

WiseTurtle · Answer

none of the above, she just just noticed something and that's it no hidden things i think lol

SarahsSummer · Answer

C) not neccesarily. They may just be curious based on how old you look or act.

palek · Answer

Ul"bless she works for organ donors organization, and is anxious to extract your organs...

Carley99 · Answer

No I ask guys that all the time I just ask it out of curiosity

BrighteyedAsh · Answer

Some might have been. No way of saying without knowing them.

Tony1974 · Answer

Yes. Girls usually want an older guy not an "old" guy. Many are shocked when I tell them my age... IF they ever ask. Most assume I'm in my mid to late 20's.. some guess 30-32.

zombiebabe · Answer

no she might just be asking... seems like you're overthinking

colourz · Answer

Not enough context to draw a conclusion. Maybe it's just small talk because the silence can be pretty awkward

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

In my opinion, yes, it is. Most girls don't give a shit about that sort of thing unless they're attracted to you in some way.

Tarvold · Answer

Not so much as a sign of interest, but fishing for a reason to turn you down?

Mislehoor · Answer

No... It doesnot mean anything... but if she asks u ur salary... then you should think about it.

Anonymous · Answer

Well it depends, if you at a job inteview then it's probably for the job, if you're at a party or something then maybe

Phoenix98 · Answer

It can be yeah but I wouldn't take that to heart that it's a romantic kind of interest.

li-ssa · Answer

it means that some people look older than their age. gotta be careful you dont flirt with a teen ha!

Wingedz · Answer

She ask" how old are you?" I panic and said " I'm gay"

Nelsoen · Answer

It really depends on the situation but I think in your case it doesn't mean she's interested

Anonymous · Answer

It could be a sign of interest because since you said that they sound disappointed when they ask and they probably want to date someone that's close to their age.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's just a way to tallk when you don't know what to said

Anonymous · Answer

No. You might look or say something young or old. Some peoole are also just rude and nosy

ThisAndThat · Answer

She better now ask how old I am, or how much I weigh either, you know, equality.

Kiran04 · Answer

Well if they sound disappointed, then yes. If they sound neutral, then no.

sp33d · Answer

Isn't it obvious? She's interested in how old you are.

JustCallMeLeon · Answer

Yes its a sign of interest. she's interested to know how old are you. Sigh...

Anonymous · Answer

I think it is. What about when they play with their hair?

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