Why might attractive, educated women sometimes get it in their head that they're not good enough for me?

[Anonymous]

Unattractive women will sometimes be really dismissive and rude, and a couple of them have even told me they were too good for me. I've even called me ugly, and nerd.

Attractive women treat me a lot differently. An attractive, smart woman, told her friends that she wasn't good enough for me. Another woman, who was really stunning and had guys nudging each other and whispering, acted really shy and awkward around me: she told me she wanted to be around me more, but would show signs of nervousness around me.

Why do you think it is that sometimes attractive women act so shy and awkward around me? I have cool hobbies that require years of practice and study, and people say I'm genuinely nice, but I'm not the tallest, strongest or most handsome guy out there. (Many guys assume the only time attractive women feel intimidated or shy is if a guy is rich, big and jacked, and super handsome).

[Anonymous]

I love that I came across your question! Because this is EXACTLY my situation atm!

I met a guy a few weeks ago. We went on a few dates and everything just seems so easy with him.

He isn’t my usual type and he sees himself as the biggest nerd and not attractive and doesn't have a lot of confidence in himself. But that is not how I see it. I see him as the most gorgeous person ever, very intelligent and cute. He told me how attractive and beautiful I am and that a girl like me would never like a nerd like him.

And me as an educated young lady tends to overthink a lot. I get in my head and think damn he is also educated, he is so gorgeous, he is talented and he has so much potential and opportunities waiting for him.
When I see him I get super nervous and I think he can tell.

My situation seems a lot like yours just from the female perspective. He is so nice and kind, he has hobbies that are really cool and fun, he has a job that requires lots of studying. And as an educated woman I feel like no matter how many wonderful compliments he gives me I will always OVERTHINK and say “oh but what if he is just saying that” / “oh he is probably lying to me” / “he knows what he wants in life - there must be lots of other women out there who likes him”

I just overthink all the little things and my mind thinks that I am not good enough. Even though he says the same things that you do “im not the tallest/strongest/ most handsome guy out there, why would you like me?” And I see him as the greatest guy out there yet he doesn't see it the way i do. He is genuinely nice as well and that’s when we women overthink and say well he is nice why doenst he have a girlfriend. He must just be talking to me to for a further ego boost.

moral of the story is we overthink the stupid little things and feel that we aren't good enough for this guy there must be another girl out there. And don’t get me wrong that doesn't mean we aren’t confident. I am so confident. I know that people like me and that I am pretty. I am just so happy that this guy seems to like me it seems too good to be true.

I hope this makes sense

[ashleexxcarr]

Maybe your just a genuinely nice guy, and they respect that but haven't met someone who genuinely care and can come off as shy. They could also be very insecure. Lots if women that others find pretty can be very anxious on the inside and looking to settle with someone who can look past all the looks and can help her share her heart with someone else again.