Why are women always attracted to taken men?

[CasaNorba]

I asked a question the other day about a girl in high school who I accidently broke the heart of one night after hitting on her friend on MySpace (the social network that was big before FB, Twitter and Instagram)

so now I that I went back even deeper I remember that I was always an invisible loser back in high school. however when I broke that girl's heart I became some sort of underground celebrity. when I went back to school the following day all of the girl's bff used to look at me like the girls above.

• some use to go as far as smiling and giggling.
• I remember there were at least 2 who used to look give me a drooling look as if they wanted to fuck me or something.

of course it never ended in high school. I always noticed that whenever I would go to a party or any social venues with my ex women used to stare at me from all direction. compared to how invisible I looked when I was alone and single. even when it came to dancing, if I was sitting minding my own business or dancing on my own no women would pay mind to me. but the minute I asked a girl to come dance with me and she gave the green light I would become the center of attention.

till then I have male friends and relatives who complained about having the same experiences as me. so I always wondered, why are women attracted to men who are already taken but ignore free and single men?

[jennifer_bloom]

I had a similar thing. The five years I was single I only had two guys chase me and they did it for academic reasons and not because they liked me. When I got a guy, I had 5 guys chase me in one month. I think it has to do with your level of confidence and perceived attractiveness. When I leave the house believing I’m attractive and desirable and I am alone in a public place - I get hit on. When I leave the house believing I’m ugly - guys ignore me. During the years where I was prettiest on the outside, I had the least romantic interest from guys cause I was full of self hatred inside. When I was less beautiful but more confident I got hit on every week and sometimes day.

[desidoll]

While I agree with this, I actually see it happens to both genders. However, I feel like men and women have different motives on why they want to “steal” taken people. For women, they see taken men as someone who is responsible, mature and loving. They assume if this guy has a girlfriend or wife, means he surely possess some good qualities that make those women commit to them.
As for the men, I have notice a large number of them doing it just for ego-boost, to “colonise” the other men’s territory gives them power when they don’t really have anything to do with the other men’s gfs/wives. The intention is to make the other men look like a loser for not being able to make their partner stay loyal. I know a lot of men who even bragged about how they get to bang some other men’s gfs/wives without guilt.

[CasaNorba]

obviously I do not disagree with you about why men doing it. but I think you are justifying women's motives too damn much.

[desidoll]

Why do you think more women are trapped with married men compare to the other way around?

[CasaNorba]

first off nobody holds women at gunpoint to get married, so there is no way someone can be "trapped" in marriage.

second of all what does that have to do with what we are talking about?

[desidoll]

My point is, women get involved with taken/married men because they see a future in him since him having a wife and being a dad to his children is one of the criteria that many women are looking for. Meanwhile, men get involved with someone’s wife 🤷🏻‍♀️ We all know why.

[CasaNorba]

once again you're advocating a double standard. you talk like women dont get involve with married men for the same reason that you're trying to blame men for. have you not heard of the term "Home Wrecker?"

till then even if it was true you still can't justify getting involved with a marry man just because you think him being married means he's absolute marriage material. if you can't respect the fact that he's already taken then you lack morals and self values

[desidoll]

I didn’t justify, nor agree with it. I was just stating part of the reasons since your question is “why”
I am sure it is always case to case kind of thing where there could be some exceptions.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women want resources that are desired by other women. This is how the Giga-Chads get to fuck every hot girl around.

There is interesting research on this topic. When a man is with a girl of high sexual market value (high status) other women want to see if they can exceed that girls SMV and try to compete for the man and his resources. Conversely, if a guy gets shot down (rejected) by a girl of average SMV, other girls of similar or higher SMV will see the guy as repulsive. ... he would drag down their SMV which is not acceptable. This is why men get so nervous about asking a girl out, there are very real consequences to being rejected.

[CasaNorba]

I guess that is what makes an incel and incel after all

[KrakenAttackin]

@CasaNorba. Exactly right. If he is not being sought after by other women than his SMV is below hers, which makes him repulsive to her. In the internet age this has been amplified as modern women relish in publicly humiliating men who they see as low SMV for asking them out. Now the whole FB/Snapchat world knows when a girl of given SMV shoots down a guy if given SMV.

[CasaNorba]

I also think that this is how PUAs and Dating Coach run their business. obviously they claim they know how to seduce any women with their "magic tricks" yet they are always single and whenever they go out in public they are surrounded by models way above their leagues.

one day me and few other mgtow in our sub concluded that they obviously PAY these bimbos to surround their asses in order to APPEAR like their tactics work. hell I even called one out on Instagram a couple of weeks ago

[TruthBringer]

I've noticed this many times in my life aswel. I tend to get women more interested whenever they find out I'm in a relationship. And this is not even a selffulfilling prophecy. Even when two girls happened to like me at the same time, they started to fight for my attention even more.

The psychology is simple: If he can attract that pretty girl, that means he has something of value to give. And I want that aswel. This is of course on a subconscious level.

[CasaNorba]

And of course they always want what they can’t have. They know that a taken man is something they can’t have politically speaking. So if they conquered a taken man then that boost their ego as well knowing they were able to have what supposedly they weren’t supposed to have to begin with.

But of course they better not bitch about the consequences of their dreams coming true

[Avicenna]

There are two aspects to this- the first one is that a single guy is usually perceived by women as being unattached because he is in some way inadequate, and that isn't desirable to most women because their expectations are high, plus they think "if no other woman wants him, he must not be good enough for me". The second is that the guy who is in a relationship (generally with a woman judged by other women as being worthy of being in a relationship with) has been vetted and judged adequate or better than adequate by another woman. This usually doesn't apply, or not as a much, to a guy whose girlfriend or wife is considered by other women to be unattractive or dumb.

[Avicenna]

Incidentally, women with Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder are known to try to take other women's guys from them. In other words, they do act on it.

[CasaNorba]

I agree 110%

unfortunately I personally knew a few borderlines growing up that made themselves a prime example of this.

[JuneLady]

The simplest answer is about status. Higher status males attract more females, and if other females (at least one) find you attractive, it means you're probably higher status.
Secondly, men get much more confident when they are in a relationship, which is super attractive.

[fgfgf24]

thats true. much more confident part.

[FatherJack]

It's called Pre Selection , meaning if another woman has chosen you , you may have , & be perceived as having more value than a completely single man. I have noticed this in the past , I seemed to always get more female attention when I had a girlfriend at the time , this may contribute to why most men also tend to have lengthy " dry spells " too.

[lovalova12]

Taken men are generally more confident. They know that at the end of the day, they have someone to rely on. Also, if they are single, they might try to make a good impression on women, and even if they seem confident, their body language and facial expressions might signal insecurity. When they know they don't have to seduce women, they become more spontaneous and genuine.

[ADFSDF1996]

I say it has something to do with women not being as visual as men and instead they care more about a man’s social status. I’m guessing a guy who has a girlfriend gives the impression he has “good game” to those women.

[In_Trance]

It happens with guys and attached women also
It's because of the energy shift. When you single, there is a distinct energy of desperation. People want it so much and appear so desperate, it turns potentials off.
When you're in a relationship, you relax; almost non cholent with others around you. That intrigues people since they're use to people with a distinct interest in them. it's a challenge; a chase. Everyone loves a chase

[Holisticapproachsara]

by the way. People like to score taken people. It boosts their confidence. They like the thrill of the chase. After a while it cools down

[CasaNorba]

you mean "women" not people in general. the only men that get a thrill and confidence boost out of scoring taken women are dumb fucks who dont who either dont have a well functioned brain or just dont value their meaningless life of theirs

[Mia-Wallace]

Because you probably should have had something to make a woman choose you.

[Kopodoulouski633]

trueeeeee

[CasaNorba]

so having a woman makes other women want to chase you?

[Mia-Wallace]

It probably makes you more interesting. Some of them might try to find out why another woman opens herself (and legs) to/for you.

[ChrisBlue]

This is true.
I used to get hit on by random women sometimes when I had a wedding ring on.
I think they do feel like I must be valuable or something because obviously someone else values me.

[Mia-Wallace]

@ChrisBlue Yeah. I can't speak for all women, but I can confirm that I personally experienced that feeling when I used to see a taken/married man.

[Shihab-91]

Because she needs to boost her ego by seducing taken man. As " even taken man couldn't resist me". 🙄🙄

[anon1903]

If he's hot and rich, yes the pull is twice stronger than if he were single xD

[anon1903]

In your case, it's the social desirability effect working like a charm for you.

As a kid, ever wanted the same video game as your friend? Yeah, there you go.

[CasaNorba]

yeah if it was a game that I thought looked fun to play I would of wanted it as well. shit I remember back in my elementary school days I used to get bullied for being the only kid in class who owned an Nintendo 64 while everyone else owned a PlayStation 1

[anon1903]

Sorry about that but now you probably can understand a thing or two.

[CasaNorba]

the point is that my personal experience debunks your logic on people wanting something just because they see other people having it. if this was the case then I would of own a PlayStation 1 just like everyone else. but instead I chose Nintendo 64 because I thought it had better games to play and I trusted the brand better.

but I guess this is how we men function because we usually hit on women who aren't taken and we never assume they're better material just because they're in one. we instead look at their looks and other qualities that suit us, the same way I picked my video games

[CasaNorba]

relationship material*

[anon1903]

It's individual differences. They will always be one or more people in room that assume just cuz you're in a relationship, you're most likely an attractive person.

As for men and video games, yeah you guys like something new, I'll give you that. But I've seen my brother download the same shitload of games as the neighborhood kids so... Honestly, not a gender thing.

[CaptainSmartass]

Dunno. I used to get looks like that ALL the time at school. A particular group of girls would act like the ones in the picture.

Simples...

[_Troian_]

They like the feeling of taking you away from your girlfriend, its an achievement for them.

[scooogy]

They're like pieces of fashion, women wearing them proves to others that they're interesting.

[chriscdi]

seems like they like to compete

[Kopodoulouski633]

I SWEAR I NOTICED THIS TO HA HA HA HA!!

[Marhaban-1]

Taken men often show more confidence

[Waldoe]

because they are worth having

[CasaNorba]

cause they put worth over everything after all

[Letixia]

Maybe you're just more receptive to it

[CasaNorba]

and how exactly does being taken make you more "receptive?"

[Letixia]

You notice it more in order to avoid it

[ChefPapiChulo]

That’s a conspiracy.

[CasaNorba]

where is your proof that what I said is a conspiracy?

[ChefPapiChulo]

I don’t need proof to disprove something that isn’t proven. Girls don’t like taken guys. I hear it all the time. It’s a false sense of confidence.

[CasaNorba]

is that why you're the only one who says is a conspiracy so far?

[ChefPapiChulo]

I don’t know what you’re getting it. But girls will usually turn the other way when they find out a guy is taken.

[CasaNorba]

makes me wonder why so far everyone who has answered this agrees with me, both male and female.

perhaps maybe the women in your planet turn the other way when they find out a guy is taken? shit what planet is this? cause I been dying to meet peaceful women who avoid drama

[ChefPapiChulo]

That’s sexist. And most females on this site are dudes.

[CasaNorba]

"And most females on this site are dudes."

whatever helps you sleep at night. the only way I can see you proving this is if you've actually spoken to them all