I have no idea where I heard this. Maybe a podcast? Or tiktok? but I literally just heard it this week.. but apparently there was a theory that women like taken men because it means they have been vetted and accepted by another woman. We want what other woman have deemed valuable.
Now personally I DO NOT AGREE. I can't speak for other women, but I have no interest in taken men. I see no future there and I would never date someone that would cheat.
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I'm not looking for anything serious and married men usual just want sex, which is perfect for me too. Therefore I usually only go for married guys.
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Two things: (1) men who are taken are more confident in themselves, and (2) women want what other women value. The first of these things, confidence, is how a guy carries himself when he's not desperate for pussy or emotional connection- he already has it. When a guy isn't thirsty it piques girls interest.
Second, girls care immensely what other girls think. This is why they care about a big engagement ring, how much money their man makes (i. e. 6-figures), and how tall he is (i. e. 6ft plus). It's all just shit to brag about to their friends, and receive commendation. If all they cared about was showing they were married, a $50 ring would suffice; if all they cared about was being taken care of then $50k/yr would be fine; if they only cared about a guy who could protect them, height wouldn't really matter. But, we know that all of this does, and it's not for practical reasons, it's so they can boast to their friends about how they're better than them for getting it.
When another girl has shown she values a guy, other girls perceive that he has value and become more interested in him as a result.
It has happened to me multiple times and I've always declared i am married. doesn't stop them. My wife reminds me I wear the ring not to remind women im married, but to remind me.
I believe its centered on the notion that im not looking. Im comfortable with myself and consequently make others comfortable around me. I listen because I care, not because I want ass. there's a sense of genuinity that I suppose is attractive to a woman.
Women aren't dumb, you see. Most guys are in it for the ass and women can sniff this shit out.
People want what they can't have. And what you see is a great man, he's got a girlfriend so he must be great right? That man already put in the work to be the awesome boyfriend or husband and with a happy couple that whole image is enhanced. So I am guessing you either still have some things to work through to be girlfriend material yourself, keep attracting or going for the wrong men, or you're simply too lazy to put in the work to get and work with a man and get him at his best so you try to take him away from someone else who did put in that work.
I'm not. I lose interest as soon as I find out a guy is with someone
I had a friend who was always attracted to men who were already in a relationship. She told me that she liked challenges. It was a challenge to her to pursue him - to see if he'd cheat or not. I think she did it to try to prove her point. She assumed all men would cheat. She'd been cheated on a few times in the past, so she had serious trust issues. She didn't want a committed relationship with the guys she pursued. She didn't even want them to leave their partner for her. She just wanted to prove to herself that men will cheat if given the opportunity. I eventually cut contact with her as her moral compass was way off the charts.
It's not just guys who are taken. It's guys they can't have or well be a challenge. This is something men need to learn. You'll get a lot more women to take interest in you if you stop acting like a thirsty dog, hassling every woman you see. They're competitive, and if you have some standards they'll see you as a prize worth going after.
Never whine about being single. That reeks of desperation. Always say you haven't met the right girl or you just don't want a relationship at the moment. And act like it. Talk to them like friends and stop hitting on them constantly. You'll be amazed how many start getting flirty
Preselected men show that they are competent and worth it in the eyes of women if they are taken because it means he has qualities that are deemed important and key to make him a good mate or significant other.
So naturally he will stand out more.
I know I’m NOT more attracted to taken girls vs single ones when all else is equal. Once she tells me she has boyfriend or is married then I back off immediately. I will be friendly going forward but not “friends”. Even if she did cheat on her boyfriend/husband with me is that someone I could trust?
But I swear every time I was in a relationship in the past other women would just come out of the woodworks. It was ridiculous. It screws up so many things on so many lives. Taken guys get tempted. Single guys get passed up and more frustrated. There is more paranoia for girl dating the guy. Girl chasing the taken guy is wasting her time on something she can’t (or shouldn’t have).
This is a major area where women need to improve upon. There are a minority of men like this but overall most guys aren’t like this. It’s really f*cking backward.
Some want what they can't have and want to prove to themselves that they can get any guy regardless if he's in relationship. Some girls do it out of spite cause they are in competition, but it's possible they liked him before finding out he was in relationship.
If another woman has him, that means he has something desirable that she wanted enough to be with him.. It's not so much that he is taken, as opposed to the fact that somebody else wants him.. It also happens when other women desire a guy... It brings the guys social standing up.. There's some desirable quality that any woman would be intrigued by or after..
Because it appears as though he already has worth, because why would a girl be with a guy that holds no value in himself. Its like a new car comes on the market, but nobody is going after it. If they can avoid risk and discover what defects is it may have, they will. But once you see others in it, you think well others would be buying if it was a piece of sheet problematic vehicle. Think of it as the pre screening has already been done with out wasting the time to do so.
It's called Social Proof. He is not just with someone. He probably looks descent and has a confident air about him having a woman. They rarely have that desparate look in their face, trying to see if a woman is available.
Plenty of single women have found themselves knowingly dating a married guy for this reason at least at one point of their life.
I don't think that's always the case tbh.
But one reason could be is that it implies that those men know how to commit and aren't afraid to. It's a positive quality for a lot of women as women DREAM of stability and loyalty/Faithfulness, and also maybe they like the thrill of the forbidden fruit! Some women LIKE "winning over" or stealing from another woman for some sick reason. HOWEVER, it's never worth the drama or the heartache! My opinion.
We all have a need to conquer and demonstrate achievement/accomplishment. Those most "not available are most attractive and desired. If this man can be righteously committed to her then he can with me as well. She's not that attractive anyway...
That is definitely not true for the majority of women. But for those who are, it's because this guy has been successful enough to get vetted by another woman and found dateable. It tends to be the less stable and more narcissistic women who are like this.
Being envious and wanting what belongs to someone else and looking for a challenge. It’s basically maturity.
But I’ve been hit on by guys who knew I was/am with someone so guys do the same thingYeah it's common... They also like it when they see other girls visibly attracted to the guy they like... I think it's half they care about validation from other girls about the guy they like... And half being competitive and getting a wanted man because not every guy can attract a lot of girls
Uh said who? Is there statistics for this. Yh we can like a guy and if he happens to be taken we can't can't off the like instantly, u have a few who try to butt into the relationship but its very opinionated to say girls like taken guys more.
Most females use preselection as their method of determining who is safe or a good partner.
If a guy is liked by females better than her, she believes in her head that “if she thinks he is ok, then he must be”
but if a guy is attractive but women seem to avoid him or he is single... they wonder “why is he single, what is wrong with him?”
That did happen a lot in my college. When I did date and had more than one relationship at one time. Some girls in my ex experience try to temp to guys to cheat on me and most of them did part by one. Are now ex boyfriends and they should learn very hard lessons? I am not even friends with women that try to force a friendship. I will keep rejecting it. and will kept saying no since they ruin the trust to begin with.
Perhaps such men exude an inner confidence from being loved, flow with happiness inside, such is the warming bubble that a loving relationship can create.
Perhaps it seems they need nothing from women around them and that makes them both interesting, attractive, and safe to interact with.
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