I’m a woman and I’m not the type to post pictures of myself on social media in lingerie or sexy outfits but I was wondering why women do that?

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tennisgirly · Accepted Answer

It could be any, either, or all three of these reasons:
#1, they want attention, #2, they want validation that they are "beautiful," and #3, just because they're bored. I don't send people photos of myself in lingerie or sexy outfits either, but I definitely understand why girls would. Sometimes it's just nice to have some reassurance that you look nice from people whose opinions matter to you- but also because it tends to be hard for guys to visualize exactly what you look like without seeing a real picture of you and you want them to see proof that you really do look crazy sexy awesome 😉😋😁
But I also have a naughty friend that claims that she sends dirty photos and posts them on her socialmedia pages, (but, lol, then again she won't tell us what her profile names are and so there's still some iffiness and questionability about whether or not she really does that.) She says that she just does it when she's bored- and dresses up all nice and sexy and takes a nice photo to send to someone with a curious caption like, "do u like," or, "yummy eye candy, yes or no?"
Once again, I've never done this before; I just understand why someone would. And of course girls obviously aren't the only ones guilty of these types of things- guys definitely do it too and way more often, at that. It's not smart to send photos like this online or to post them on socialmedia- but sadly many girls as well as guys do post pictures like this of themselves nowadays. The main reason is just to get attention, and the rest of their reasons follow. Just note that you should never send a pic like this unless if you're totally confident that you won't regret it afterwards- which I doubt that many people ever don't. Don't let anyone pressure you into sending them pics like this, either- people've tried to do it to me and so I've made it a rule of thumb that I don't send any pictures online unless if they're to people I know very personally and in real life too- which has kept me from putting myself in lots of crazy situations.
Anyways, I don't do it, but that's why I understand lots of people do.

Sarahr123 · Accepted Answer

They are insecure and miserable and do it for validation because nobody pays them any attention in the real world. They also heavily photoshop and filter their photos so they suffer from mental health issues and are even more insecure in the real world because they don’t actually look like the photos they edit. They portray themselves to be what they wish they looked like.

Secure women don’t advertise themselves because they’re not teenage girls or insecure women with issues and a need for attention and validation. These insecure women put their accounts on public because they get high on compliments from thirsty strangers. They have inferior intelligence and want to feel like celebrities while on the app whilst in real life they have achieved nothing.

Intelligent and secure women work towards their education and their careers and make something of themselves. They enjoy their private life with their family and don’t need thirsty people to validate their existence or tell them they’re beautiful to know that they are beautiful.

Social Media apps are stupid people’s heaven. It gives them the escape and false sense of belonging they need. It is a toxic place which is better off dying out soon.

In other words you are a secure and intelligent woman who values reality and you don’t need fake compliments to know your worth. You are secure.

Insecurity is loud and confidence is silent. Confident and beautiful people do not require advertising and screaming off the rooftops.

I only value real life and face to face interactions. Not online things. Online is a fake word and I know that. My life is the people around me. My friends and family and the few good people I meet.

Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

My guess is to stimulate desire. Desire is one of the most potent qualities either sex has. To have the best of the opposite gender, or whichever gender we want to fuck, requires desire. It isn't the same as beauty either. Yosemite is beautiful but it has kept few men awake at night masturbating at the thought of half dome or el Capitan. If someone desires you, you almost own them. Desire is the loudest your body can scream "I want" & the object of that holds tremendous power of those who desire. Women in lingerie usually look far more desirable. You could call it sexy or hot but that doesn't capture the dynamic of desire. The most common fantasies of men and women have to do with desire. The fundamental truth of what has been called the "rape fantasy" that is one of the most widely shared fantasies ever scrutinized is about a woman having so much appeal that men will take her by force because their desire for her is that strong.
Every Master of the Universe Bond trader for Morgan Stanley who barely can scrape together rent money spend his vast fortune on a car, house, or a lifestyle he believes will make him more desirable. So my guess is that women buy, dress and/or display themselves in lingerie do so because it makes them feel more desirable and it usually works.
If you wonder why longer term relationships can have the sex go flat it has nothing to do with the physical act, everything still feels as good as it always has but during infatuation, desire is at it's peak

Jaumet · Accepted Answer

Possibly since most people now days have no clue just how much what they post on social media will affect their chances or hurt their potential professional careers. So, unless you aspire to become a lingerie model and are thus posting examples of your work... that shit will come back and haunt you.

Not many even care about the possible consequences of showing it all can have on their future... but once you put it out there, it will go everywhere. If you are actually a good looking person... shit people will steal your picture and use it for themselves and even pretend to be you. A little Photoshop experience and you can make anything look like you want it to be.

Reading a few of the opinions that all pointed out... that she is in dire need of attention... is a given. It's actually sad that I have even seen questions on here about how long should I wait before I send my nudes to them. I'm like, Damn! Just upload that stuff to any porn site and just link people to it and shit! If you want to be a Porn Star, like get paid for it and shit.

Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Answer

Some women post sexy photos of themselves on social media because they're confident, attractive, and want to flaunt their body, which they have every right to do. They might do it for the likes, positive attention, and to attract a potential love interest. Maybe that special someone might like a photo of hers and hit her up. Some of the women are models and get paid to promote their pictures, or they could be aspiring models and hope that modeling agents notice the pictures and find them work. Others might work in the sex industry in some form or fashion, such as, for example, to promote their Onlyfans, which is very popular with sex workers nowadays because of COVID-19 restrictions. Some women might be the opposite and have low-esteem, resulting in them posting pictures of themselves strictly for validation. Sometimes, women with low-esteem can improve their self-esteem if enough people say positive things about their pictures rather than negative things. All in all, it depends on the woman.

zollo · Answer

I feel like people are thinking into it a bit much. While I think lingerie is a little more risky to post online plenty of people still do it and I don't just think that it because all of them are "whores". I mean why do some really jacked men post gym photos? Because they think they look good and want to show themselves off and it's nice getting comments about how great they look. That's not a bad thing though. I think it only becomes a bad thing when people start to depend on it. But If anyone, Man, women, or somewhere in between wants to post lingerie pictures of themselves who the hell am I say anything, nobodies forcing me to see them.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

I honesty don't understand either. There's other ways to have confidence in your body, even show off your body without having to expose yourself completely. What gets me the most, women will do this and then talk shit about men sending unsolicited dick pics... Not saying they should, but when women post half nude/to mostly nude pics aren't those unsolicited as well? Maybe a lot of men don't complain, but I don't wanna see unsolicited titty and ass anymore than I wanna see unsolicited dick 😂(oh and downvote all you want, won't make it less the truth)

Apope16 · Answer

ATTENTION! WOMEN ARE ADDICTED TO ATTENTION.

Women get high on levels of dopamine stemming for hundreds of likes on social media. Guys and other random strangers praising them for their looks and how beautiful or sexy they are. It is a rush. It becomes addicting. Then when they post something and only 2 people like it because they have clothes on the high of the feeling goes back down again. They feel ugly or unpretty and get depressed. So they keep posting pictures of low v neck shirts to expose their breasts and nipples. They have filtered face up shots with makeup on. They pose in bathing suits with their legs spread open to reveal their camel toe (the crevace outlines of the shape of their labia or vagina under clothes) in order to get hundreds of thousands of likes.

youngmix · Answer

Wow! This is an absolute flame fest!
Some people do it for attention.
Some do it for money (models, private fan stuff, etc.)
Some people do it to show off because they're proud.

I don't do it because I've worked hard, and I expect to enter a professional setting with extremely high pay, and I don't want pictures of me floating around to hurt my chances/money. I don't see the point in posting faceless pictures, because if I want someone to see any part of me, I'll show up and show them.

But if you're about that though, then more power to you. I'm proud to call you sister. We've been told that our bodies don't belong to us for an unknown number of generations, we've been told that our bodies are sin itself, fuck that.

If you're about it, then go get it.

ZackBan · Answer

Honestly I get it. If I had a body that people would be happy to see and would even pay lots of money for a picture of me in underwear I probably would consider the option too. Unfortunately I don't and neither does the vast majority of men (fit or fat) but there is nothing wrong with doing it in my opinion it's not like it makes me think less of those women.
The only thing that makes me think less of some is when they make a fortune selling nudes and then begin to act like stuck up celebrities and look down on the rabble (like the Kardashians) these kinds of people are pathetic and disgusting. Like no you're not so smart and innovative and earned all that money you shamelessly stripped for it, nothing wrong with that but you also have to admit it.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It can be a confidence building exercise, they may not have anyone that would give them a straight answer.

feeling good about themselves, positive praise is what we all like, some more than others.

some may do it as part of their. ‘Instagram brand’ so it’s then simply work and advertising.

others to attract attention from one or both sexes.

main answer really, is because they can.

it also sort of highlights how much body shaming goes on with guys, a guy posting must have a six pack, worked out in gym for ever. There is no chance a normal person could simply post a photo and heaven forbid, no six pack, maybe bit of bulge (tiny one) non muscle bound arms etc.

so while guys may try and shame girls, we have dug a seriously deep hole for ourselves to get out of. More importantly our sons who now have to be conscious that the perfect body is needed to post online and it MUST be masculine and straight.

Anonymous · Answer

most times its for them not for anyone else. sometimes its confidence booster or a reminder. or maybe they want attention, but that's on them. if you got it, flaunt it. or don't. do you, I hope you aren't judging those women who do post those pictures. also it doesn't mean they don't have self respect, just because she posts pictures like that does not mean she doesn't respect herself, it means she wants to post what she wants. and the "society" want to see that, guys get mad if a women posts provocative pictures but they're the same ones giving them all the likes and follows.

JDavid25 · Answer

Even if you had confidence, what would that have to with posting sexy pics on the net for everybody to see? They obviously do it to feed their narcissism.. Everything today is about "self-love", and "putting yourself first".. Which is not bad in it's purest form.. But, today those things mean that life is about "me, me, me".. And when they post those pics that's basically what they are personifying.. They wanna feel good to feed their narcissism and like everybody else said get the attention they think they deserve.. It happens when they call themselves "ugly" too..

Walt832 · Answer

To get attention. They want some people validate them. In other words inside of them there is something missing.

Example: When you have a partner he tells you, "you are pretty" and you feel great and happy. When single who tells you? No one until you put yourseld exposed.

Then some may go beyond naked or up to renting their body for sex and up charge. Why that far? Because they want to take advantage being single, pretty or hot is what a man desires.

It also comes from their background what were they missing when she was a kid.

Dragonpurple · Answer

I'm not the type of person to ever take a selfie nor post pictures of myself. Just cause of the cancel culture, but In the past I've two friends a close friend who said she also doesn't understand how anyone can post revealing or nude pictures. Same as you basically.

The other friend, lets just say she liked to show off. She had a lot of confidence even though she didn't have the best body, I'm pretty sure she was a exhibitionist or whatever term means she enjoys showing off her body, even with no clothing as it was fun, exciting and a huge turn on for her. She would often skinny dip in places she could get caught with groups of friends, and streak on a simple dare. Maybe some women enjoy the attention like this friend did, maybe its a turn on for them or exciting.

originalemerald · Answer

I feel like it's an attention thing. Hey look at me. I have two accounts. A normal one. Where I look how ever I look. And a model account. And I have pictures in lingerie. But mine are basically there for work. So people can see my shape or whatever...
I have friends who tell me they do it for attention. More likes , thirst trap, to make other girls mad. But I think it's all about how u do it. U can tell whose trying too hard and whose not. They just copy they're idols and are followers.

IronLady6354 · Answer

In all honesty I've done it. I don't post any lingerie pics, but I'll post a couple bikini pics after I go to the beach. In all honesty I'm proud I've been able to keep my body in such good condition (especially at my age). I like to show that. Yes, it does feel good when you know other people think you look really sexy. I don't post a ton of bikini pics, but when I do I'll admit I like the compliments that come from them.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Fan base is the biggest asset in their perception.
This is how social media attracts specific type of people, likes make some people addicted. It's not only limited to girls, boys who are talented and show their work online can easily fall in this addiction as well.

In reality, people who stop uploading content get forgotten in no time, because there is always someone else who uploads fresh one. This is often the moment you realize those likes and followers are worth less then dirt below your shoe soles.

VianneRoscher · Answer

A friend of mine does that. And when I told her in opinion girls do it because they don't have enough sex in their lives, she got furious because of that comment, because she actually got more than enough of it at that point.
It will always be vulgar to me. Another friend of mine said if a woman shows too much skin, it means she embraces her sexuality. I don't agree with him. It's still vulgar.

beldath · Answer

A lot of them do it for attention. Others do it for money. Others do it because they're insecure and hope that a guy will talk to them even though they'd normally never do something like that.

BriaToWet · Answer

I used to do this back when i was a teenager l, now i don’t because i had to sit back and ask myself the same question like “why am i even doing this” even tho it got lots of “likes” there’s no purpose of showing your body to the internet unless your a professional photo shoot &bwinf paid to be naked 🤷🏾‍♀️

TruthBringer · Answer

Because women like that (who are at least not in the professional branch) are often insecure about their own bodies and feel the need to fish for fame, attention and compliments. Many of them also do it for money by having OnlyFans (for example). I'm yet to find a true high value, confident and self-respectable woman to do these things. Because she knows that advertising her body for attention, fame or money will only make men perceive her as a sexual object.

AmandaYVR · Answer

All humans seek validation. It's natural and normal.

But young girls and women learn that their sexual appeal is a very easy and efficient way to gain this. So much so, that they often forgo developing and expressing their mind, character, and personality. That's more risky and has a lower pay-off that takes work and vulnerability.

kobraklaire · Answer

honesty, it could make them feel sexy and feel good about themselves. i've posted my fair share of lingerie photos and just bra and underwear photos and whenever i do for some reason i just feel sexy. if i like the way i look in the photos, why not share them to my social sites? whenever i see another woman post a photo like that i honestly hype them up in all ways possible. there is nothing wrong with not liking or wanting to post these kinds of photos, and there isn’t anything wrong with posting these kinds of photos. your body your choice ❤️.

Kymberli83 · Answer

Well, just because you don’t doesn’t mean other things own don’t want to do it. I don’t see the appeal of posting sexy pictures publicly, but Iknow many women who do. They say they like the attention and/or don’t see the difference in posting regular versus lingerie/sexy pictures.

Newhead · Answer

I don't either but I think it totally depends on how the picture is presented. If it is a professional picture that meant to spice up their page or promote something I understand. I always wonder why some girls do it, but I think it is because they are looking for inappropriate attention.

RJJ33666 · Answer

Many woman out there are very proud of their bodies and sometimes want to flaunt it around. So they post pictures of themselves in social media. There are also girls who like the attention they get from that. So mostly due to confidence or attention seeking attitude, according to me.

Alpha09 · Answer

There are lots of reasons. Money, attention, fame or simply because they want to and feel good about themselves. It's pretty normal. A lot of people do it for the same reason you or I do things that we enjoy. Because we want to. It's absolutely possible to do things simply for ourselves, it doesn't always have to be within the preferences or comfort levels of others. As long as it isn't directly affecting or hurting anyone else, why the fuck not🤷 we are all gonna die. Do what you want.

Browneye57 · Answer

Because they're needy and desperate for attention and validation. It gets back to this societal change and progression into narcissism. Social media feeds the frenzy.
And yes, it's a sick self-centered attitude, where the ENTIRE world centers around their own bellybutton. They have zero introspection. NONE.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

Attention seeking, low self worth, narcissistic tendencies, social media addicts chasing likes, insecurity in their body, vanity. There's loads of reasons, take your pick.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

It could a myriad of things. Personally, I think it’s women or girls that need the constant self approval of others. They like the attention. They’re narcissists. It could also be that they aren’t getting enough attention from their spouse.

This is prevalent with women that have a significant other. They go to fb and other social media accounts to get the attention they aren’t getting from their spouse. It’s mostly showing cleavage.

MrWolf · Answer

Some carve attention some to show off and such. But you ain't seing me posting my pictures being naked and feeding my ducks! I won't be showing of my ducks! No sir/ma'am.

Unit1 · Answer

Not sure. But they might be trying to grab attention to become a paid model or they advertise, that they are up for one night stands or something. Or they could be addicted to likes and validation.

Shy_babe_ana · Answer

Easy, They seek validation from horny guys who they assume what chase after then and maybe even pamper them. A lot of girls also are doing it for "Clout" to have a fan based and make money off there Good looks / provocative Body.

Kas19 · Answer

Some women find empowerment in modesty, some find empowerment through showing skin. I'm friends with both types of women.

Anonymous · Answer

They will deny this til they are blue in the face... Its for male attention no more no less.

integrale77 · Answer

Because : - 1) she knows what most men want to see and some women. 2) she has confidence in her appearance. 3) she has no fears of being seen and feels she can handle other people's comments.

OlderThanILook · Answer

Because they feel good doing it? Who actually cares. I can't imagine people getting offended over which pictures of themselves other people put online.

Djaay · Answer

When someone won't respect themselfs , they won't respect others and then they won't respect the society they live amongst and society won't respect its own governing power which leads to a society disrespecting its own paradigm's and leaves its people in chaotic lawlessness.
This behavior from women are advertising themselfs so men will fall before they're measures and fall before GOD.

ChocoBrowny · Answer

some women like men to desire them, look at them. not just one man, lots of men. It gives them the feeling they are sexy and hot. Because in her own physical life she probably gets none of that and not so many guys even approach her.

loveslongnails · Answer

E G O They want likes, validation, admiration.  Some are attention hounds, some are exhibitionists, some like to tease, some are full blown narcissists.

Anonymous · Answer

Boost confidence, show body improvement, or to thirst trap. Sometimes all LOL I don’t personally post any sexy pics but for those who do and don’t make money out of it I am pretty sure that would be one of the reasons.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Feeling cute, confident and sexy and want to share it

Katie1964 · Answer

I try not to judge, but I would not post pictures of myself on social media in any fashion other than I would want my kids or father to see.

msbrightness · Answer

Many are too self permissive and find a circle to support them in self-validation via the 'likes' in nudes or semi-nudes

RingOfFire · Answer

They do it because they are narcissists and desperately need attention.

Don't tell them that you could dress a pig in a g-string and bra and guy's would get turned on and post comments about hot she is.

BillHe1 · Answer

To show off! Get Guys excited. THEY NEED TO KEEP DOING IT. I LOVE IT. Makes me grab my dick and squeeze and rub it.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Lots of reasons. •attention  •boost of one’s ego  Etc

BeMuse · Answer

Hos! Hoooooooooos!

Anonymous · Answer

Insecurity/attention.  Very often these girls have boyfriends who are quite wimpy, and it seems like they're advertising themselves for other men.

zoobs94 · Answer

To seek attention mostly and they like to be appreciated.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Because they have a nice enough body and they are confident. It’s ok if you don’t have the best body, you can work on it.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

She is confident and the same reason why a guy show a topless pic of him

ILikePlants · Answer

Mix of all the comments (not sure why the hate about it) confidence and sexuality is my guess

kkirk4442 · Answer

Probably because of exhibitionist tendencies, or lack of self esteem, looking for approval.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

-They feel hot and they wanna share it -Money -Attention

sheikalana · Answer

I have zero photos of me in bikini/lingerie on my social media. I think they do it for attention or because they feel confident enough to post it.

H4des · Answer

Underneath it all, most girls desire to be sex objects. I would argue it's biological.

SirJohn42 · Answer

Women like the attention they recieve and get. Its a turn on for them to show themselves off.

Anonymous · Answer

Attention/validation seeking. In my case, if woman I know posts pics like that , she will not get to far with dating me...

AshleyAnd · Answer

I think they do not feel confident or loved, so they need to be judged

kitty71 · Answer

Im that woman too. Im a woman and Im not the type to psot pictures on social media in lingerie or in sexy outfits either

TheFlak38 · Answer

because today women have to ways to win in the attention competition: 1. Get naked 2. Commit a felony

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