"I need some time to myself" is not translation " I don't love you"

[lananoel]

UGH! I'm so tired of this common misconception.. Knowing the person gauging what they mean by that should be simple. I work upwards 60 hr weeks between two jobs and generally spend ALL of my free time with my b/f.. Sometimes I need a day off to hear myself think and watch t.v.. Maybe fart and not have to say excuse me or feel embarrassed.. boyfriend doesn't understand calling me selfish and self-centered. THE WHOLE F<CKING IDEA WAS BECAUSE OF HIM! what's so wrong with that? Share your thoughts please.

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Note: Building a savings account to use during school. So I will have more time for school and b/f

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"WHOLE F***ING IDEA WAS BECAUSE OF HIM" ... I love how The MODS on here cut my most important sentence off. -_-

[Eiffelgirl21]

many many people are different. I am probably just like your BF. But, my Boyfriend is kind of like you. He talked to me about it..and told me that he couldn't really explain it..But, that he likes time by himself. Maybe you should just try telling him that. I know..we freak at first. But, try talking to him about it again. Be nice and calm when you talk about it. Tell him it is who you are. And, that you like time by yourself. I am sure he will think that you are thinking of breaking up..or think you don't "feel" it anymore..and every single mean thing you can think of. But, just reassure him that this isn't the case. Explain to him that you are not the only one like this. And, just tell him...you need you alone time to relax...and etc. Good luck. And, if he loves you, it will all be okay and work out. :-)

[lericah]

Many people are intraverted we enjoy the company of others but equally enjoy time by ourselves

[Eiffelgirl21]

I agree :)

[Shaun]

Thing is, many of us men have heard "I need time" from women prior to a break up, it's a common line.

Men, on the other hand, say that when they need time to themselves.

It's for this reason that women always ask the question "is it normal for men to ask for space/time?", because they know when they say it, it's goodbye charlie.

[toulouse]

Shaun, apparently you just have not heard a guy say he needs time , because he wants to break up. Or a woman say she needs time, because she needs time.

I have heard guys use that as an excuse. I also like to have a lot if time to myself. Doesnt mean I'm breaking up with anyone.

do your misconceptions help you? What does prejudice get you?

people think guys need space because its convenient excuse to cheat. Why else would anyone put energy into promoting bullsh*t unless they benefit from

[Shaun]

If by people, you mean women, I'd submit that they are projecting, because they know when they say it, that's what they mean.

[Eiffelgirl21]

I can see your point, Shaun. Though, 90% of women may feel this way..The other 10% of women actually mean they need space...their own space.

[Eiffelgirl21]

why was the idea because of him? he wanted it?

[lananoel]

Since the beginning of our relationship I have been unemployed.. So when when he wasn't at school HE ALWAYS HAD ME. So when I started working he was concerned about spending time together. So I decided to work and save now. So I would have more time with him when I start school. I don't have to work as much.

[Eiffelgirl21]

Oh..okay. hmm..well did you tell him this? I still stick to my answer the first time. Good luck...He is just going to have to get over it. Like I had to with my BF. I also accepted that it was who he is..your Boyfriend needs to do this.

[queenofpeen]

I don't have much to add besides "I agree." :P I value my alone time SO much and feel smothered if I don't get enough of it. It doesn't have anything to do with how much I love my boyfriend.

You feel embarrassed when you fart around your boyfriend? No farting contests?

[Eiffelgirl21]

haha farting contests? my boyfriend is so like...women shouldn't do that..and men shouldn't do that around women..haha he is special

[queenofpeen]

It's just gas XD

[lananoel]

farting contests? LMAO! your silly no.. I'm not embarrassed or shy really I was only using that a a smart elic remark...

[lericah]

I don't think you communicated your situation to him fully but it should be his job to pay attention to what your doing. If he really got that mad at you I think you should dump him maturity is clearly a problem

[Shaun]

It is when a woman says it.

[toulouse]

Women don't need time to themselves? well, dfu judge situations based on stereotypes you'll end up hurting/ frustrating yourself, before anyone else can. I know people think guys ned space & women need love. but that's just teen magazine info. everyone needs space and most people want love, I suppose everyone needs it.

[lananoel]

WRONG! Every woman in my fam is like this.. We need space from time to time. I said explain your reasoning.. this comment doesn't help.