Girls, if you have small breasts and are in a relationship, do you feel insecure or jealous when your man looks at another woman whose breasts are bigger?

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If so, how do you deal with it? If not, have you ever? And how did you become more secure?

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Well, I realize that it doesn't matter if your boobs are big or small. I have big boobs. But if me being loved and valued is based on a man liking my body, he is only with me for the body. My body is no man's business except somebody who is my husband and already my husband. I have never felt insecure about my body until somebody started talking about my body. Until I was exposed to what the adult world is basically like by watching things in the media, hearing other adults or older people talk, and being around other peers. The world makes this important, others in church advocate this as being a man need, etc. I realize how very detrimental it is to be comparing body as well as worshipping body. If a man looks at another woman he already committed adultery. It's one thing to notice, but real men try to not look or develop self-discipline. He wouldn't even do that to you. He would respect as he should respect himself and others.

Just because I notice an attractive man, that doesn't mean I have to lusts after him. Just because I see a man shirtless doesn't mean I have to entertain it.
It is by the end of the day a CHOICE.

I have friends who have smaller breasts, and they always felt insecure around guys they dated or interested in. Eventually, they began to be more secure when they been around more respectful men and develop a strong relationship with God and Jesus for those who are believers. TRUE believers. Not those who are of the world and have a label of a Christian.

"If so, how do you deal with it?" How I deal with it may not be what you believe in or agree with. I deal with it by not dealing with it and tolerating it. That is another reason why I never dated or been involved with a man. Because I refuse to be seen for the body. I am a human being with feelings and emotions. If I love a person and as a guy, it is for him. Not his body. Let alone body alone. I see the person first. I can notice the physical of a person, I have eyes to see. I am not blind. But that doesn't mean I have to go by the flesh. You may and desire that and a particularly looking man. But remember that because you do, so do other men who desire and see the same and you have no choice but to deal with it if you expect to have a relationship and a marriage with a man. It is for his sexual pleasure. And you either please him or you don't. A man is more visual and sexually interested in you and your body. At least most are. But I realize that is mainly flesh. But if you want a relationship with men, you have to learn to tolerate or deal with it.

"If not, have you ever? And how did you become more secure?" I am still in the process of becoming more secure in that area due to trauma from others. But what I realize is this. If a man desires and wants that, let him find that with women and girls who do also. Not somebody who desires and needs and or sees more than the body, or personality, etc. That is a higher love. So you have to decide if you want surface "love" or deep love. Because if you desire surface, then you get surface and you learn to accept what you say you want. But you are MORE than just a body. But you must decide that for yourself. Just understand that men have been taught to desire body in order to decide if he loves her or not. And understand that you may have been programmed to see such men you say you need and desire emotionally to be too gay or boring if not religious for your liking if he is not desiring your body which leads to even more insecurities. So you have to decide what you want out of this and if relationships with a man on that level are something you should and need to do.

Varanus · Accepted Answer

If I've learned one thing from my guy friends about this, it's that big boobs may attract a lot of attention, but they're not actually that important to most men. He's with you because he likes you and because he finds you attractive, and you don't have to check every single box to be worthy of love. Looking at other people does not mean he loves you any less, or that he'd rather be with the other girl, all things considered.

And having big boobs isn't all roses either. There's a lot of unwanted attention, and anxiety about what you wear.

I don't like how a lot of other women tear each other down over stuff like this, and I wish we were more cognizant of the good qualities we each possess. Society often teaches us to look for our flaws, and how we don't measure up, but that's mostly bullshit companies are feeding us to sell products. You have a lot to offer in a relationship, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. Remember that <3

Bella9191 · Answer

Remind yourself that bigger boobs sag, you get neck and back pain. And your never fully comfortable. You pay triple the price for bras coz you actually need support and them to fit perfectly and you need to replace the bras at triple the rate coz the straps and band become loose or Broken from the weight. You either have to decide if your going to look like a slut in a top of a nun. There’s no in between. You feel oddly imbalanced in clothing and feel top half heavy sometimes because your Boobs bring out the top and make your stomach look wider. You can’t not wear a bra because it’s uncomfortable and wearing one is also uncomfortable = never win. You constantly have people stare at that area even when covered up - and it’s annoying. You can’t wear necklaces.
I hope this makes you feel less jealous.

natured · Answer

Men go nuts when they see boobs, but trust me, it's not funny for us women who have them, being stared at, being catcalled because of it, nothing fits you, nothing just nothing looks good on you... i have big breats because of genetics but overall i'm fit, my breats are there though and trust me SOMETIMES people even asked me if i got implants... I ENVY women with small breasts, I ENVY them because they can run without having to deal with random nip slips or boob slips, I envy them because verything looks great on them... and IF MEN don't get it then they are stupid... and trust me, i know PLENTY of men that actually prefer small boobs over huge ones.
Feeling insecure is normal, but don't even bother to be jealous because trust me i'd rather be boobless than being stared at.

ginger_snap · Answer

I also have a small chest. And guys like to look at other breasts.

But I know my boyfriend likes mine. To help remind me of this and feel more confident, when we are in sitting around just the two of us I will take my shirt off. Then I get to catch him staring at my breasts.

SphynxUK · Answer

Mine were big before I lost a huge amount of weight in a short time due to emotional stress.
They’re small now, and I love that. So much easier.
And no, big or small I’ve never cared who my partner looks at, not felt insecure.

FreyaRed · Answer

Nope, I think in such moments. "Oh boy, your time will be over soon"... Long slender legs are always a better asset to attract men than huge boobs and I will always find another guy who prefers my legs than boobs of the other girl.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

No I know he's going to look as long as he doesn't touch, shit I look when I see a good looking man, we go home with eachother that's what matters

Miah02 · Answer

When i was in relationship i didn't feel insecure. He chose to be with me for a reason

Anonymous · Answer

I have a full bust so never jealous of another woman with one. I just don't like it when they flaunt their big tits and try to do it in front of my husband should we be online with something or just seeing something in general. Not that he looks nor cares, it is just the idea. I know many women out there are insecure and this is why.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

Not unless he’s gonna pay for my boob job lol. I want to be able to find bras that fit without having to paying a lot of money for them.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m generally not jealous, but if the relationship is unstable then I can’t help but feel that way a little. However, I’m also into girls and guys so I understand if they just love breasts big and small.

fonduegirl · Answer

Not really, because out of us two... I'm the starer. Crotch, ass, calves, collarbone, breasts... I'm the one who checks people out, not him.

Alyssa11 · Answer

No because I have a nice butt to make up for it lol.

hannny · Answer

Yes, also because he loves big ones but I do not care go find a big boob woman then lol

Apple1996 · Answer

I have big boobs so luckily this has never happened but if it did I'd definitely be jealous

Anonymous · Answer

I didn't really get insecure, I accepted it. But no looking at other girls when with me. Also 2 can play that game

Anonymous · Answer

No, he doesn't like big boobs so I don't have to worry

Anonymous · Answer

I think the upper girl looks better, perhaps men don't think so but what I feel matters most.

Anonymous · Answer

No I look with him😉

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