1. As someone who was a very "never speak unless spoken to" type of person in the past, a lot of people assume you are not interested in talking to anyone, or even that you don't like them/don't want to be there, and just leave you alone if you never say anything. It's best to engage at least somewhat, though I get it is not always easy.
2. When people say to "let things happen naturally", it means to not rush into things too fast or to come on way too strong, but doesn't mean to put in no effort and completely depend on the other person to approach you or start a conversation. If there's someone you want to talk to, it's best to just start up a conversation with them. Say hi, ask them how they are, and introduce yourself. If someone responds rudely to this, well, that is not only their problem and shows more about them than yourself, but it also weeds out that bad apple. Most people will like being acknowledged and be happy to engage in a conversation, though.
3. If you wait for them to start a conversation or ask you something, and they are also waiting for you to, how is the conversation going to begin? Somebody has to start it.
4. Movies are far from reality, unfortunately. Sometimes things do happen when you least expect them, but most things in life also happen when you put in the effort. It may not be right away, but at least you have a fighting chance.
5. Comments like your update do not help matters any, and people will run far from anyone who spews nonsense like that. Your attitude needs major adjusting first and foremost, and that is completely in your control. No one will want to be around someone who is bitter and hateful, and says crazy, off-the-wall things or makes threats (even if you aren't serious; sorry, but that just makes you look like a spoiled brat) any time something doesn't go their way. I don't mean to come off harsh, but this is what you need to hear.
Most Helpful Opinions
Being quiet is not a problem for me. Being a pushover and not capable of having a normal conversation with another person is. Also, as a guy it's still your job to take the initiative.
There are things I expect from a guy and things I offer in exchange. My ex was a very quiet guy but he was capable and quick on his feet, excellent at reading people. He organized everything, I never had to worry. But a lot of people are quiet because they're timid and that's not a good quality to have as a man. Confidence (not cockiness) is important.
You need to be able to step up if the situation demands it, your girl's safety depends on it and though it's harsh, if you're not able to then it means that you don't deserve to be with a girl. And girls recognize that and for their own safety will avoid you. Women are weaker than men so we depend on guys being there for us, being stronger than us. Being afraid to speak up in your own group of friends is not attractive.
What Girls Said
I prefer someone in the middle - can be chatty when needs to be and quiet when needs to be also.
I like a lot the quiet serious guy of the group much more than the popular guy in the group. Yesss
How about bringing up similar interests? Does it help you open up?
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