Girlfriends weekend trip to vegas, would you be supportive?

[datingaspanishgirl]

My girlfriend's friends are planning on going to Vegas & have invited her to go. They're all married or in a relationship. One friend is lesbian & is bringing her Girlfriend with her.

At the heart of it, I trust her but don't know her friends well enough to trust her with them.

Any tips to deal with this and/or support her with her girl's only trip?

Guys-would you be okay with your Girlfriend going?

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+1 y

I made sure she knows that I trust her & love her unconditionally. I didn't mention anything negatively towards the concept but rather expressed my concerns for her going with her ("I haven't seen these girls in 8 years") and don't really know what they would be like in a place like vegas.


Turns out she is uncomfortable going and is planning on cancelling because the girls are talking about doing drugs and most of the activites don't include things she would be interested in.

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+1 y

And, she said she would rather do a couple's trip whereas we could do things together and the girls do their thing with their S/O could things with the fellas.


I really appreciate her decision but in the end would have supported her girls trip regardless.


When you love someone, I have learned that giving them their space is necessary in order to grow and not be dependant on that person's every move.

[firstlast]

Unless you think your girlfreind is the type of girl who would sleep with some random stranger, I don't think you have anything to worry about. I'm sure many women would sink that low, but I personally would be offended if my partner thought that low of ME, knowing me as well as he does.

[random_hero]

Exactly. This is precisely why women that have had casual sex cannot be trusted, because they are used filthy women with no morals that have whored themselves out. It's proof they could have sex again with no emotional attachment and value their own pleasure over commitment or any notion of love.

[datingaspanishgirl]

Good feedback... thank you!

[proudtexasgirl]

It's not about whether or not you trust her friends - it's about how much you trust her and how secure you are in your relationship. You should talk to her about how you feel, but in no way should you make her feel guilty for wanting to go or tell her that she isn't allowed to go.

[datingaspanishgirl]

Great point! I appreciate you saying this. And, I really worked hard to not say anything negative about the concept or trip to her. Got to love online venting tools like this... lol I did express things to her and made sure we talked things through :)

[ShootingStar5]

If you trust your girlfriend then why would it matter who she's with? Either you trust her or you don't. If she's never given you any cause for doubt before then I wouldn't worry about it.

[datingaspanishgirl]

Good point! I do trust her. Guess because at the heart of it, I want to experience that with her together doing adult things as a couple. I do want her to have fun with her girlfriends... just not 100% comfortable with the location being in Vegas.

[Guytalks]

Why do you feel worried, has she done anything in the past that made you wonder?

[datingaspanishgirl]

Not one thing. She always is saying she wants to support me going out with the fellas. She doesn't do anything that makes me question her intent

[Guytalks]

Then you should repay her and show unconditional support to her and appreciation and do your best to make her feel good about herself and tell her you trust her and are happy with her.

[Shaun]

She wouldn't be my girlfriend by the time she got back.

[Shaun]

So it turns out the girls were looking to party and whore it up in vegas, shocker.

[datingaspanishgirl]

tough to read. Trying to be supportive without coming across like a complete D bag. Would never put it past any female though to be honest.

[datingaspanishgirl]

Thank you!

[vmw2008]

What's the problem? Girls are allowed to have girl trips sometimes. If she's never cheated or given you a reason to worry before, telling her not to go is just insecure.

[datingaspanishgirl]

I would never tell her not to go. I encouraged her to go with her friends. She's not given reason to doubt her judgement nor question her integrity. Its the location in vegas that I have the trouble with :)

[Anonymous]

all of them are married or in a relationship, so they're not going to be out looking for booty