Is it wrong not to wear a bra in the house under your pajamas if it’s just your dad, mom, brother, and grandma in the house?

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I tend to not wear a bra under my pajamas when I’m at home and my mom saw me and told me to put on a bra on my dad does that too. Isn’t it a little ridiculous though? We’re all related and my mom has been without a bra even in front of my boyfriend and she used to wear really short stuff that showed her butt before which was pretty disturbing I don’t do that though I’m just wearing my matching Mickey Mouse shirt and shorts lol. I don’t get it am I not supposed to be comfortable in my house🤦‍♂️ Is this actually wrong? I thought it was okay because we’re all related

Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

If a bra makes you uncomfortable then don't wear it. At home it's just me, my mom, and my dad. I don't wear a bra under my pajamas bc I'm not sleeping with a bra. I have two pairs of pjs I wear where my nipples are showing. My mom and my dad don't say anything about it. If I wore them at my grandpa's house then probably the only person who would say anything about it is my cousin (my aunt's daughter). If I wore them at my uncle's house, I'm sure he, his son, and his wife wouldn't say anything

loves2learn · Accepted Answer

I think that is a bit much. Maybe wear a robe to keep them happy? I was a bit embarrassed when my father in law saw me pregnant without a bra because my nips were darker and visible through my pink nighty. I do not care if my hubs or my kids see me like that.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

Your parents need to travel more, see more of the world.
You wouldn't believe the sheer amount of women I see everyday without a bra in the streets. So within the confines of your own home I don't think you should have to wear one.
Now I'm not sure about the fact you have grandma there though. Most girls I know when their grandma is over at their place they tend to tone down the sexually explicit behaviors (bras, makeup, hickies...)

Tunasub · Accepted Answer

Well you are living under those roof. Whether or not you mom used to wear revealing attire or not, it's do as I say not as I do. Besides why argue or get upset over wearing a bra.

How bout this buy some sports bras that are comfy. Wear them around the house with no panties. They won't know about you not wearing bloomers😜😜😜😜

Red_Arrow · Answer

Different families have different dynamics. Some families are okay with total nudity, some demand being completely covered at all times. But the important thing is to stick with whatever the rules are, not changing them all the time. Your mother should not demand something of you that she does not follow, and she should not be different ways at different times. Unfortunately, it is their house and they run it. Be glad you are old enough that you will be able to leave soon.

Let_me_think · Answer

I think it's totally fine, I do it in my house too. My parents really did try to get me to wear a bra, but after a while they just didn't care. Do whatever makes you comfortable! Your not hurting anyone, nor are you showing anything off. If someone is uncomfortable with you not wearing a bra in your own home, I think that says more about them than you

420Rachel · Answer

I never wear a bra at home and my family has never said anything to me about not wearing a bra. I always make sure to wear shirts that don't make my boobs very pronounced though. Bras actually make your boobs sag more because it weakens the muscles that hold your boobs up.

dustybiker · Answer

You mentioned your father and brother feel free to go shirtless.. I would make a big deal if that. Double standards wouldn’t fly with me. Sounds like you are already wearing more then most woman wear at the public beach. Pjs cover more. Making you feel indecent in this situation is inappropriate. Course you could always find your own place to live.

MindYourEyes · Answer

I mean maybe just do it in private? Or when you come out just wear a little sweater xD. Honestly I could never do that. Unless I am wearing an oversized mega sweater that is impossible to even notice. They probably see it as improper xD
it’s dumb but you can choose to not care what they think and just do it. If not then just cover up a bit when you’re around them.

DaveToo · Answer

At 20 you are an adult. Wear what the fuck you want, as long as you aren't nude. Your situation is difficult, living with your parents, and try not to expose them too much, but if wearing a bra is painful, get a larger size or do without them for now.

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

There’s more of a problem if your family members are sexualizing what’s underneath you being clothed. I am currently wearing a jacket with no bra on and I was around my father. As long as you are clothed, it shouldn’t matter

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I don't see any problem with that at all. It's important to be able to be comfortable when you're at home. It's not like you're walking around naked... That might be a problem when living with others.

JustAnj · Answer

It doesn't matter if your okay with it, if I'm okay with it, if I do it, if someone else does it. Your not living in your home your living in your parents home.

If you want more freedom to do things your way, find a place with some friends who would not make a big deal about how you live.

Remember to respect your parents, it's their home and one day you will be leaving to find your own home.

MCheetah · Answer

Maybe it only applies to girls with big boobs, and nipples that can poke through anything? I'm not a girl and don't really have family, so I don't know whether being topless around family would be considered acceptable or unacceptable.

soe11 · Answer

My advice to you is, adjust yourself with parents when you live together in same roof.
When you alone or live in own roof then you do as you like.
In today society and culture braless is common in public.

GingerGuy · Answer

I guess it's too much for them? Personally I don't see what the big deal is. Is it really obvious? I wouldn't think it would be, but if they always notice, then? I'm with you, I think it should be totally ok, but I guess not for them.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Really it’s a case of what you are comfortable with. it’s personally wrong to sexualise it when at home and relaxed. If you can’t fully relax at home, where can you?

ohshee · Answer

Mmm that's hot no I don't see anything wrong with it but then again I can't see it either LOL no I don't wear one either so I think it's perfectly fine

Stephie2369 · Answer

I think it is totally ridiculous, my dad says exactly the same thing. For me luckily my mom is totally cool about things like that.

MAAJD · Answer

trust me, if both your mum and especially your male DADDDDD told you wear a bra at home. then trust me, wear a bra.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

My sister and mom ( late ) use to walk around with no bra on and it didn't matter also my sister would walk around in a shorty and she didn't care, so I don't see the big deal

pleasestopthis · Answer

I never wore a bra under my pjs except when a male cousin lived with us, but I still wore something over my top so my boobs wouldn't be too noticeable. If your nipples are too noticeable or the top is translucent it could make others uncomfortable

Andres77 · Answer

It's kinda hard to give good advice without pics... just saying...🙄

esn9464 · Answer

Why do your parents care in the first place when it's at HOME?

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