Why do you think so many women have a preference for older men?

Question

Money aside, why do you think that it is so common for women to have a preference for older men?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I'm obviously going to have to speak in generalities here. There are always exceptions to the rule.

It takes a few years for guys to grow out of being self-centered. Young men are more interested in trying out their bodies and experiencing the thrills of life. They're not too stable.

Older guys have experience. They are more mentally and emotionally mature. They know how to behave and how to treat a woman. When it comes to intimacy, they have become adept at giving pleasure and knowing what women want, rather than merely pursuing their own selfish desires.

They may be more appreciative of a fine woman, too, rather than taking young women for granted.

Physically, women's bodies are dependent on skin tone, which declines with age. And they are subject to gravity.

Men's bodies, on the other hand, are about leanness and muscle. A guy can keep his body perfectly fit for decades. Men can actually look better once they put on more muscle and grow chest hair. They look good when their facial hair develops, too.

Guy's faces develop more creases as they age, but those can make them appear more rugged. And a lot of women like the rugged look. It makes men look like they are capable of being outdoors and doing tough work.

Men's hair can give them a distinguished look as it grays. Balding men can shave their heads completely. Those things aren't true for women.

Lastly, I'll say that women are more into connection and being treated right, as opposed to merely seeking eye candy.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

maturity, stability, experience, confidence, assertiveness, reliability... and more likely to be dedicated to you and the relationship due to having more things sorted out and straightened up..

these are all things that older men SHOULD have about themselves as they become older and more older, way older... of course is not the case for every older men to be like that and it does not mean that younger men won't have any of these but, is just about the probability... and this is all generally speaking as well...

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Maturity, experience, generosity, time.

Women really just want to be appreciated. They want someone who eats dinner and then spends time with them afterwards. 'Young' men lose women all the time because they put their jobs, hobbies, addictions, and friends before them and then wonder why no woman sticks around. No one wants to be second fiddle.

Older men in theory have time, or at least maximize the time that they have. They've lived long enough to understand a few shit tests and know the correct answer without trying to 'prove' anything to nobody. If they're chronic cheaters, they've mastered lying to someone's face. if they're good chaps, they won't put themselves in questionable situations. Good men are probably be too busy keeping themselves and their one woman happy, to care about impressing their friends or proving how independent they are.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

It wouldn't be just any older man. She wouldn't want a guy that is houseless, no job, no car. He has to be able to keep up with the high maintenance women h e attracts. If that isn't the case these women must have a condition called gerontophilia. It's a real thing. People that have relationships with people twice their age or more.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

I've often felt that younger women should date older men and that younger men should date older women. It just works.

Older men are more experienced, more worldly, are more interesting to talk to, are more emotionally mature, care more about you instead of just wanted to get laid, willing to take things slower, typically have a decent job, car, their own home (all over-generalizing of course). Older men know how to treat a woman.

NicoletteXO · Answer

If I wanted to put it bluntly and truthfully, it's that most younger men are either lame or jerks. Even if they mean well.

Some older men are too - but many have developed wisdom and emotional acuity over time which young men invariably don't have. They also tend to have their careers in order, so we can have a good time together.

He can actually be the man and I can be the woman. Whereas, if you date younger men, you're going to end up being his mummy or his therapist - or worse, his ATM.

Older guys tend to be courteous, chivalrous and charming. I've never had a "hey you up" text from an older gentleman. Younger guys seem to do this all the time - god knows where they learnt it, or why they think it's a good idea. All it gets them is deleted from my end.

Older guys make my whole nervous system relax so we can enjoy one another's company. Most younger guys have me super irritated, since I always have to be on the alert for fuck ups.

rjroy3 · Answer

The appeal of the man who has been there, done that, who can guide her through the world. Take her on adventures while keeping her safe. There's a reason girls aren't just attracted to older men.

The guy has to do well enough for himself to give the girl "daddy" vibes. Preferably has some knowledge or expertise of her world. If he's just older there's no appeal. Like a girl isn't going to choose an older guy who is out of shape, about as accomplished, and mature as someone her own age.

She may aswell date a guy her age by that point. Girls like older guys that have unique benefit compared to younger guys. Oftentimes that's being more secure, more confident, knowing what to do sexually. Things a lot of younger guys are still working on.

Indiana Jones wouldn't work as a character as a 24 year old guy. But a mid 30s college professor who has been around the block and still goes on wild adventures that he could take her on too. That's enticing

Iron_Man · Answer

Money they’re set in
life. More mature they aren’t playboys and they appreciate a beautiful woman and respect her. They know what they want out of life and are finally ready to settle down and take on a wife. Plus women like the way another man looks

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Older guys tend to have made the usual fuck ups, learned lessons from them, they often have a mature self confidence from experience rather than just being cocky confident,
A lot also changes with how subjective older is, 5,10, 15, 20 years older etc.

Anonymous · Answer

Old man is a man too
If you don’t want to marry a guy who’s well affluent or in this case sooo old you can opt out for an homeless guy or a younger rich guy or poor guy no big deal. It’s your life your choice. Let women decide what they want: some wants to be housewife and stable some wants career.. what’s bothering you? Feminism is destroying women worldwide. Man and woman are cheating up and down a couple getting divorced every 5 min yet you worry why a women with beauty and potentials is marrying an old man who’s rich? Good for her !

backblueblack22 · Answer

I dunno. But I’m definitely not complaining :).

But they do hold older men to a much higher standard. I guess that is to be expected since we are supposed to have our shit together. But it’s not like everything magically gets better as we age. We still have our issues and we make mistakes.

I had a fling going on with a 22 yr old a few months ago. I had to have very tight game to pull it off and I did but it wasn’t easy. I made just one small mistake right before she was going to hang out with me for the 3rd time. I politely asked her to make sure her legs were smooth prior to our next tryst (they were a bit briskly the 2nd time we did it). She completely took it the wrong way and went AWOL.

I got a feeling if I was closer to her own age she would of been more forgiving. But still as an older guy I’m not perfect.

Schizoaffective · Answer

I like older men, not like grandpa style lol.
but I am 26 and I would date someone in their early 40s.
I like the rugged vibe they give, makes them seem somehow manly to me.
Anyway, I don't think attraction should be justified or explained, people like what they like. (as long as it is not pedophilia or such people of course...)

loveslongnails · Answer

When they're THAT much older as your photo depicts, it's mainly for the money. But, older men are much more appreciative of women than younger fuck boys who just bounce from one to the other - because they still can !! Older men can be more sophisticated and mature, as well. That said, it's not so easy to attract pretty younger women when you get older, except usually as I said, unless your wallet's fat.

Novacane · Answer

I would think maybe because its like a soft taboo in that sense so it can be seen as different. Could also be that woman like a man that knows what he wants and is about to get it in the sense of success, most men don't really get that until they are much older therefore usually older people are likely to have their life together and a lot of those young girls don't really have their life together yet so they look for that.

AviatorTom · Answer

Not all women prefer older men. I am considered an "older man" and have dated several "younger women". From my experience, women tend to think that "older men" are more mature, easier to get along with, and probably more experienced in bed. Women also consider older men to be more financially stable, but that wasn't supposed to be part of the question.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Because older guys have more experiience with women and have a better idea of how to please them, sexually and because, unlike school boys, they aren't only interested in sex for the sake of getting their own rocks off!! They'll actually try to make her cum, too!

StraightAsArrow · Answer

Sadly, it's worse now than ever for women trying to pick a man from the current generation of tech/video game addicted young men. They don't know how to. pay attention to a woman in person, earn an exceptional living, believe making love is like porn.
Older men 40+ are from a bygone pretech era. We know how to look women in eyes, arouse them gently with our tounges and fingers, open their door, pay for dinner. What woman in her right mind would prefer a screen addict to that?

ClassyMe · Answer

Define Older. For me personally older is 1-10 years older than me. Anything else is a different issue. Most women who do such especially with guys greater 15 years age difference is because of daddy issues and insecurity. Along with a whole bunch of other reasons.

sullyk1234 · Answer

i met a man thats 12 years older than me he gets so much attention from woman at any age he's the hottest man i have ever seen money etc why not

Ailaw22 · Answer

The money and social security is the reason plus +5 is generally considered normal but the couple shown in picture I don't understand how the dynamics work.
Like how such a gorgeous girl find attraction sexually for that much old partner vice versa

normalice · Answer

Social grace. Young men can't stop thinking about their dicks for the five seconds it takes to complete a sentence. But anyway most women prefer men their own age.

Livewire3 · Answer

I think that may be more about maturity, I think it's still stated that girls mature faster... so I'd assume a couple years can make it feel like the guy is more compatible. But this can go the opposite as well.

pinaypixie · Answer

My dad was around but never present if that made any sense so, at least for me, older men always were able to mirror a fatherly image better than younger men

cloudspy · Answer

I think older men don't take a younger woman for granted. They give love and adoration more freely.

RealMarek · Answer

Age differences as extreme as what is shown in the photo are rare and usually money is a factor. With less extreme age gaps it is usually maturity and/or accomplishment that is sought after.

Ghostlock · Answer

Because, us older men are just hot as f***! :D Not to mention we know what we are doing come yoddle time. ;)-

humpbackjack · Answer

Daddy issues, tired of immature guys, and I’ve heard quite a few women say that older men are better in bed. Honestly though I believe it just feels comfortable for them and it feels a little taboo for them probably

Dantenera · Answer

Typicallity and it depends on the environmental brought up.
Mostly when you were loved mostly by your old father.
And again, it depends on influence, from public, friends, social media may be positive compliments towards older men. which a times might be true or wrong and more weird.

Hanrej · Answer

Safety. Even if they're not rich, elderly men usually has their life in order, lack the energy to fool around and are well connected in society.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly? I don't know. It is just a thing (a lot of us at least) grew up with from our parents, which I get a lot of people have it different and it is weird to say that we follow our parents but, well we follow our parents 😊

wtf636 · Answer

More mature, more money, more experience. Women don't want an equal. They wan't someone better than them usually.

tatianamay · Answer

How old are we talking? I'm 16, so the oldest I'd go is 19

Queenzee22 · Answer

They are much more experience in taking care of a lady  They know what a woman wants

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

I'm 53 but look younger. I'm tall and strong, and maybe that's why younger women are always trying to get closer to me and talk to me.

Cherry234 · Answer

Maybe because they think men who are older than them are more mature

claryy · Answer

The reason are money or daddy issues, personal I don't like men who are a lot older than me

Waldoe · Answer

We are more settled and stable... we know the world and our place in it.

nella965 · Answer

Women like men 0-8 years older , not saggy old grandpas or balding fat old uncles

disgustingfather · Answer

Because they are kind, funny, mature and loving. I adore older men. 🙏🏻

pink_and_inlove · Answer

I don’t know I don’t understand when women like men that are 30+ years older than them I find that so weird. I understand older like up to 10 years i think because some women do want more mature men for their kids.

AydenHazor · Answer

Men tend to mature shower than women, so especially in their 20s women tend to find that older men are a better match when it comes to emotional and mental maturity.

River1234 · Answer

I think 🤔 their personality, afterall they are more aware of how world works , and i think aged people have ability to win over since they knew how a person can be appeased.

TM28105 · Answer

This is obvious... experience and maturity all the way around.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Smart interesting fun sexy confident loads of reasons

anon1903 · Answer

One of my guy's younger and still more mature than me. I dig that.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Because usually older men has more financial sense when it comes to money. Or the girl might had father issues when she was growing up.

DWornock · Answer

Your assumption is false. That is why the average age difference at marriage is only 2 years.

NightHawk99 · Answer

Many of these girls are seeking the love and affection they didn't get from their fathers. Which is why they chase bad guys and significantly older men.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It's money, that's it. What the hell a old washed old man has to offer a young woman besides money? Ish

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Their older more mature the they know what they want and are less likely to play games

Avicenna · Answer

Money is the main reason, but I think it's also being appreciated more by them.

B4852 · Answer

Well not sure, but maybe some of them think that maybe they are more stable and sophisticated. But I'm not sure what else.

soe11 · Answer

Stable relationship, there are many different reasons as well, but I just add one reason.

Anonymous · Answer

Because we’ve been through so many immature ones that we value maturity when we see it.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Money - cheap food/housing/drinks, socipecon9m8c security Plus inheriting stuff after they die (some with hopes of then getting to bank young kids)

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

They like older as in 5-10 years older. Not the difference on the image older.  That fellow can't even get it up unassisted anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

No, really, I think it is money, and he might die, and leave everything to her.

Dayman343 · Answer

Didn't know that they did. Haven't had a young woman hit on me for a long time

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Its experience not money. Although money never hurts.

MDollarBill · Answer

The better question is: what's wrong with today's younger guys that they can't hold a girl's attention?

StickStickity13 · Answer

It's not really true, it's almost exclusively because of money

bananathunder · Answer

they miss changing diapers and don't want to have more kids?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Older men act like men instead of boys.

Jojo74doug · Answer

Experience and maturity? My preference anyway…

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