I hate asking this on here because I know there are a lot of weirdos that get off to it but I need help so I will not be explicit, I need advice?

[Anonymous]

My sister has developed a bad anger issue and she is being treated for it before she gets to big and it gets to far but basically right now she will just start hitting me or my mom out of nowhere and bite and pull our clothes. It isn't the worst because she isn't strong but she doesn't have any restraint and locks onto us and won't stop until she just calms down but basically a few days ago I was in her room trying to fix her television and she got frustrated that it was taking so long and she walked up beside me and swung her fist around and hit me right in the "bag" and obviously I reacted and was visibly showing lots of pain and she isn't stupid and I think she learned that she gets a reaction out of me when she hits me there so since then when she has her outbursts she deliberately tries to hit me there. I want to have kids of my own one day so I don't want to get hit there repeatedly and until she has this issue sorted out I don't want to constantly have to be guarding myself and usually I don't even notice her there before it's to late and she starts hitting.

Suggestions? My mom says just ignore her and don't react and she stops but obviously it doesn't affect her the same way and she usually just ignores her hitting and throwing tantrums because she can but I can't ignore that kind of pain

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

She shouldn't be kicking or punching you there
my opinion is to be stern with your Mother or Father
about what she's doing, Get yourself a Man Cave
and go there to get away from her

[Asker]

She doesn't understand because she has a few issues mentally so I don't hate her for it but its definitely tough. Sadly our father is no longer with us and mom is really not that assertive and its embarrassing to talk to her about it as well. But I like your idea of having somehwere to go because she sometimes goes on for a long time if you react to her hitting but since my mom doesn't react my sister usually just gives up with her and targets me now

[Anonymous]

Ouch dude.. sorry that you and your family are going through that by brother was the same it's scary

Does she listen when you tell her to stop?

[Asker]

No she just gets into a rage and the only thing that stops her is when she realizes that no one cares that she is throwing a tantrum and then she just drops on the floor for a short while and then just gives up but now she knows that she can get a reaction out of me by hitting me in that area and that's the first thing she aims at now so I can't just ignore her

[Opinion Owner]

How is your mom able to not react but you do though? Does she hit you harder or something?

[Asker]

I don't know if you know much about anatomy but um my mom doesn't have the same things in that area that I do because I'm a guy lol it just doesn't seem to affect her at all even when she gets hit right in that area she just ignores it but I fell to the ground and had to stand over the toilet for a while because i was nearly throwing up.. very different

[Opinion Owner]

Oooooh that area sorry I didn't read it very well! Have you tried talking to her when she isn't enraged and tell her that if she hits you that she cannot hit you there because it can permanently damage your testicles?

[Asker]

Yes I try to tell her not to hit me at all but she doesn't listen to me

[Opinion Owner]

Has your mom told her? Your mom should be doing more to protect you from her

[Asker]

I haven't told my mom that I'm worried about her hitting my balls because she wasn't home when she hit me there the first time and since then I've been lucky enough to see it coming and been able to defend myself and I don't want to tell my mom that I'm worried about my sister hitting me in the balls because it's really embarrassing

[Opinion Owner]

Well what is worse? Having a kind of awkward conversation with your mother about how to protect yourself or risk getting your testicles punched repeatedly and possibly affecting your fertility for the rest of your life just because you didn't want a brief awkward conversation? Who knows how long your sister could be like this

[Asker]

Both of those options are not good

[Opinion Owner]

Well dude sometimes we have to choose between bad and worse.. and in this case I think having your junk get all messed up vs having an uncomfortable conversation with your mom is obvious.. I kicked my brother there when we were young and his testicles were injured from it and I still feel bad to this day about it so if your sister did the same to you I'm sure that when she gets older she will feel really bad so it's for her sake as well. You don't want to play round with that kind of stuff, testicles are sensitive for a reason because they aren't supposed to be hit!

[Asker]

Your right.. it's just so embarrassing that I have to tell my mom that I'm afraid of my little sister.. she's going to think I'm such a wimp. How did you injure your brother?

[Opinion Owner]

Your mom won't think you are a wimp.. she knows what testicles are obviously and would have to know that it hurts when guys get hit in them. As for my brother, he said he still gets afraid and flinches whenever something goes even close to his groin because of that time I kicked his balls so it clearly affected him mentally but also when I kicked him I kicked him so hard with the top of my foot that his testicles went inside his body which I did not know could happen and they needed to be pushed back down into his sack and that's more embarrassing then talking to your mom about it.

[Anonymous]

It's not ideal but have you tried wearing a cup or a cover over that area just while she is around?

[Asker]

I thought about that but I really don't want to have to walk around my own home wearing something like that and I like to sleep on the lounge chair and I'm worried that she we hit me there while I'm sleeping now and I don't want to wear one while I'm sleeping :/

[Opinion Owner]

That sucks man.. has she actually hit you in your sleep yet or are you just worried she will?

[Asker]

She has hit me in my sleep but it was only on my face and shoulders and she grabbed my hair and goes for things that she knows we react to but now she knows that I react to getting hit below the belt and I'm afraid she will just punch them in my sleep..

[Opinion Owner]

Omg that is terrible she sounds like a menace

[Asker]

She is but I love her and I get that it's a mental issue but I wish I could do something about it