Don’t want to be weird?

[Anonymous]

Previous relationship was horrendous (imprisoned in the home for 10 years, very bad stuff). I personally feel like I’ve done a really good job recovering, but now I’m entering into a new relationship.
I really really like him, I’m attracted to him, he is 6’5” blue collar guy that’s huge. I’m 100lbs (still recovering from not being allowed to eat.)

the main point of the post is that I’m worried I’ll accidentally flinch, I’m not scared of HIM, but I don’t know how to explain it. Even though I’ve gone to therapy, a quick moving hand still will probably give me a small flinch, especially from someone towering over me. I’m really worried to hurt his feelings. I also get the shakes bad and my head bobs due to anxiety. 😅 I try to keep things light and just make a joke of it because I don’t want to freak him out. I’m sure all I need is time and I’m having the first time jitters , but I’m worried I’m going to look like a real WEIRDO?

[HawkPerception]

Imprisoned? That sounds kinda like the dude kidnapped you and physically/sexually abused you.

Why couldn't you leave the relationship? Were you literally locked with shackles in the house? Or locked in a room while he was gone?

[Asker]

The police defined it as imprisonment and that’s what he’s being charged with after I explained to them that if I ever tried to leave the house he would drag me back inside and attack me

[Asker]

He was never gone.

[HawkPerception]

That's crazy. I'm really sorry to hear about that. Glad you're with someone you actually like right now and you're slowly healing

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I think I read you before, this month, your story. Please consider that, even if you undergo therapy, double check the guys you select for dating. Or triple even, because you will need someone with a caring personality given your history, so make sure you target the good ones :)

[CuriousHubby]

This is great congrats on recovering but if you do flinch just be honest. You had some bad history and were bullied... You don't have to say more just leave it there for now.

Latter come back and be honest if it's still going good!

Proud of you keep loving your life! Here is a big hug!