Girls, do you get a little jealous when a friend gets pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Not at all.

One, I'd be happy for them (if it's what they wanted) or I'd be there to support them and find them resources (if they didn't want to get pregnant). They're my friend and I care for them. I don't get jealous of friends' accomplishments, I celebrate them.

Two, I'm childfree, never wanted kids, and am sterilized. So no, even if I were the type to be jealous I would not be jealous of becoming pregnant. I don't want to be pregnant ever, so why would I be jealous of a state I'd never want to be in?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

No, because I am not at all at a place in my life to have kids of my own. It is also just not something I want right now. Children and babies really wear me out and I have a lot on my plate at the moment already.

[Asker]

Bruh give yourself 5 more years and you'll be dried up

[aWes0MeNeSs]

🙄
My mother had me at 33 with no issues at all and having had no previous children, lol. But chances are, I will not be having any children, so it doesn't matter anyway. Besides, having children just because you can regardless of whether or not you're able to properly care for them or actually want them is a horrible idea and a disservice to those children (not to mention horrifically selfish).

[Asker]

Yeah ok it turned out just fine that's why you're so scared of having kids. Because her kid turned out just fine.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

🙄🙄🙄 Yeah, because someone choosing not to have kids (and it isn't that I'm scared, it's that I simply don't want to) means there's something mentally wrong with them. Grow up. I think there's much more to be said about the mental state of someone who believes people should have children regardless of whether they can give them a quality life (and a parent who didn't want them in the first place, and/or is not currently ready or prepared for them, cannot).

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Also, if you think I'm such a messed up degenerate, why does it bother you so much that I don't want to procreate anyway?

[Asker]

Are you gay yes or no

[aWes0MeNeSs]

What does that have to do with anything? No, I'm not. That still doesn't answer my question about why you're so concerned about me breeding, especially since you seem to think something is wrong with me. Shouldn't people who have issues that could be passed on, or those who simply would not make good parents, NOT have kids?

[Asker]

If you're not gay how is it possible to not get pregnant

[Asker]

What's your ethnicity?

[Asker]

Did you go to university?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Why are you avoiding my questions? You also must be a troll if you think the only way someone couldn't get pregnant is if they're gay.

[Asker]

I thought they were rhetorical

[Asker]

I have my reasons why I asked what I did

[aWes0MeNeSs]

How are they rhetorical? They're perfectly reasonable questions. The questions you ask have nothing to do with anything, and it's weird that you care so much about whether a random stranger procreates or not. Now I know you're a troll. 🙄

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I have reasons why I asked what I did too, yet you seem to not be able to answer those. 🤣

[Asker]

What's your ethnicity? You're talking like a white girl would but you're giving me Asian vibes

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Why don't you answer my questions first?

[Asker]

Ok let's start over. You ask a question, I answer. Then I get to ask you a question.

[Asker]

What's your question?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

🙄 Don't play stupid. You can go can and read my questions, you know exactly what they are. You're just making excuses not to answer them because you know you either can't, or it will negate your argument if you do. If you're just going to play childish games, then this conversation is over.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

*go back and read

[Asker]

Alright I just like to text like I'm having a real conversation. Let me go read though🙄. Ok you never know who you'll meet that could change your life. I like to keep an open mind about kids, that means that I may never have any

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Yeah, because it's really hard to scroll back and reread something. 🙄🙄🙄

I have an open mind and realize that I could change my mind in the future (which is why I said in my original answer, that I was currently not at a place in my life for them right now, do not currently want them right now, and also currently have a lot on my plate), but at this point I don't want any. There's also a chance that could stay the same. Not to mention that as I've said more than once, there is no point in giving birth if you don't want kids or are not in a good position to raise them/are not ready for them. It will be a huge disservice to the kid, as you will not be able to give them the quality of life they deserve. Just because someone CAN breed doesn't mean they SHOULD. Nobody seems to think about the child in these situations, only the act of breeding.

[Asker]

Now what ethnicity are you?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

You didn't answer my questions.

[Asker]

You can take time out of your busy day to answer mine first

[aWes0MeNeSs]

You're the one who has been avoiding my questions. Why should I answer any more of yours? Like I said, if you're going to play childish games, this conversation is over.

[Asker]

Yeah you like me

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Of course you're still evading, and in the most typical 12-year-old fashion ever. Here's a tip: next time, make sure you know what you're talking about and can actually back it up before running your mouth, okay? It's so clear you don't want to answer very simple questions because you really don't know the answers. 🤣😂🤣😂

[DianaWest]

@Asker lol. women can have as many kids as they want when they want and they don't need a male partner for that, we could just go to a sperm bank. in the 1800s, before birth control or modern medicine and technology, women were commonly found to have been having kids till their early to mid 40s. with your mindset, i bet women must be running away from you. wouldn't want your low IQ and discriminatory mindset to be passed off to to a new generation. men on the other hand aren't as lucky. you have to actually convince a woman to put up with your bullshit and be willing to birth your children. or you could pay a surrogate 100,000 dollars, and she may decide that she wants to keep the baby afterwards.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

My cousins wife, is evangelical nutjob, but, is also a very good nurse. They're having a very hard time reproducing though, and she believes abortion is wrong. She must be ecstatic about what's going in in texas. Ya know, aborting is wrong, according to her=her not being able to get pregnant

see the correlation there

[KrakenAttackin]

Most women do feel their own clock ticking when their friends get pregnant (assuming their friends are married and not just skanking).

[Asker]

What's the difference between being married and divorced with kids than being a skank

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... The single mother with kids by multiple baby-daddies is a skank.

[Prettygurl12]

Lmfao my initial reaction is always, "Oh my God, I'm so sorry! What are you going to do about it?" But I have to stop myself before I actually say that and remember that we're in our late 20's now and they probably got pregnant on purpose 😂😂😂😂😂

The answer to your question? No, I don't get jealous lol

[NicoletteXO]

My initial response has always been genuine happiness for them. They are my friends after all! But more recently when this has happened, shortly after I get a wave of sadness/grief. I got pregnant last year and lost the baby due to a horrible external event which caused me a physical shock. I also broke up with my ex in connection with it all. So after my happiness for my friends comes the sadness of that loss, and then just really wanting also to have that again.

[SamFromFL]

Breaks my heart to hear that happened to your baby. So sorry and I’ll pray you get to be a mother sooner than later

[NicoletteXO]

@SamFromFL aww thank you :) Receiving your prayers with gratitude!

[Anonymous]

Back when it seemed like every other one of my friends was getting pregnant, I definitely did not feel jealousy. It was more like this realization that we weren't kids ourselves anymore, that life was changing, and the way we used to be and the way we used to hang out, probably wasn't ever going to be the same because they now had other obligations.

[pppppkk]

absolutely not lol. it’s not my time yet. im not ready for my body to change when i worked so hard to get it this way. congratulations to my friends but im gonna stay childless for a few more years

[Apple1996]

When I was ttc I'd get a little jealous of other people's pregnancies but that's cause I wanted to be pregnant so badly

[Aakash_Hangargi]

You had kids already by 19 right?

[Apple1996]

@Aakash_Hangargi yes I had two by then but with the third baby it took a lot of trying. It was still painful to see others get pregnant so easily even though I already had a few kids

[maggie_c]

If we're talking about close friends, then yes. It means that we will spend less time together with a friend. But I feel more social pressure than jealousy :) That I should have a baby sooner too.

[little_rose]

No. If anything, I get excited. lol

I love babies but don't want any so I like it when people around me have kids.

[Blackcupcake]

I have a friend who got pregnant last year and no I was not jealous. Not even close.

[Subarugirl]

Fuck no... been there done that. Don't want to do it again.

[Skeks]

No i usually feel bad for her because she'll be stuck with a fool and a baby will become her whole life

[Anonymous]

Jealous of what? Being burdened with a child? No thanks, I'm more than good.

[Anonymous]

I get a little jealous that I'm not the one who knocked her up.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

No I dont want to ever get pregnant

[Dinklex3]

Hell no, lol.
If I wanted them I'd have them.

[Brown-Kitty]

No, never I have 2 already

[Flower7]

Nope, this has never happened to me.

[Aurora1010]

Nope, not at all. I don't want kids yet

[GhostMochi]

Nah, just glad it isn't me.

[TacosRAwesome]

No coz I don't know if I like babies.

[Anonymous]

No I don’t have friends