Is it bad to admit you get jealous sometimes to your girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

My LDR girlfriend posted a snapchat story where you can sort of see her in a bra saying "Goodnight :)". I got mad and brought it up to her, because everyone can see it! She said she didn't mean any disrespect by it, and that you can barely see anything.

I said "It's a sexy picture and I love seeing it, but honestly got a little jealous everyone else could see it. Combination of that and not having talked to you in a while :/"

Was that bad to admit jealousy? I was really mad when I saw it.

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+1 y

I think she was upset because I hadn't been initiating texts recently. So if this is a way to catch my attention I don't like it.

[XRabbitHeartX]

It's OK to admit jealousy but it's a very off putting trait. It's a huge turn off to have a partner who tries to restrict your freedom of being able to do what you want. Obviously within limits. I mean there's basic things that are a no-no in a relationship like cheating of course but when a partner acts possessive and tries to change you it becomes a huge problem. I guess I can understand if she was just wearing a bra or something but you know... not all girls are inclined to just think of their bra's and boobs 24/7. She might have taken the pic and not even realized a part of her bra is sticking out. You're a guy so your male mind draws you to other parts. She's not you and it's her picture. She probably thought her face looked good in it or whatever else. Honestly I'd feel pretty insulted if a bf made such a big deal about it. I'd assume he's then not OK with me wearing bikini's either cause it's pretty the exact same thing which would lead me the topic of whether there's some underlying trust issues... all in all be careful. You might scare her away.

[Asker]

Crap :(. Well should I wait for her to text me back or send another one saying sorry I made a big deal out of it?

[XRabbitHeartX]

Maybe just text her and say you're not mad at her and would like to talk. She could be thinking that you're very pissed at her which is why she's avoiding you.

[Asker]

Yeah that could work. I don't know I thought two texts in a row wasn't a good idea lol. Now I kind of feel bad for admitting I'm jealous (it's the first time in 8 months I've said I'm jealous about something)

[XRabbitHeartX]

If she's committed to you and has feelings for you then this won't be a train smash. You'll be fine. These things happen. It can't all be smooth sailing.

[Asker]

Can you friend request me or whatever so I can show you what I sent?

[SunshineAmy]

Well, I don't mind when my boyfriend tells me things like that because i respect his feelings and opinions. At the same time, it sounds like you may have yelled at her about it. Not the best way to go about it. You would have been better to talk to her calmly.

[LunaReyes]

generally-speaking, I LIKE knowing my bf is jealous sometimes (it shows me he still cares)... as long as it doesn't get extreme or overbearing. some degree of protectiveness is always nice (and natural)... within reason.

[devilINSIDE]

U shud not show jealously but u do shud tellbher not to post things like that

[Anonymous]

I think you were reasonable. Getting jealous over every stupid thing is a turn off but you had a legit reason here. If she's your GF she will want to respect you and your opinions.

[MaskedSanity]

Dating 101

Don't go out wirh girls, who post a billion selfies on the internet.

[still_waiting]

No. Its not bad to admit you're jealous when you have a legit reason to be jealous, and you did.