"I'm a tall woman at 5'11 and I don't understand why so many women, even ones that are very small, like tall men."
I don't know either, but it's incredibly sh*tty. Not that I blame women for not wanting short men. The sh*tty thing is how there's literally NOTHING you can do about it. It's a problem you can't fix. If you're short - under six feet tall in the West - you are F*CKED. The closest thing you can do is leg-lengthening surgery, but it's very expensive, risky and unsafe, and not that many people qualify; maybe only like 50% of men who want it. The prevailing theory is that subconsciously, women treat men like guard dogs and ATMs. And well, a poodle or chihuahua doesn't make for a good guard dog in women's eyes. Not like a mastiff or Doberman.
"I feel bad for guys that aren't tall because it's not like they have it in their control."
I sincerely, genuinely thank you for this. It's like a virtual hug from a stranger. You genuinely have no idea how much guys under six feet get sh*t on. I couldn't begin to tell you how badly I've been hurt by women solely due to being short. (Ask @JosyJosy if you want the deets.) Getting empathy from a woman like you means so much to me. You, and two other women on here have been kind in a way 99% of other women out there just aren't. They will sh*t on short men, left and right. I just gave up pursuing women because the poll had sh*t results. It's too low to give me any hope.
"There were a lot of guys that were shortish and shorter than me that were great guys, but they told me they would constantly get rejected for not being tall. What's the deal?"
That's the deal, right there. Height is a dealbreaker for many, MANY women. The typical rule is, a man must be AT LEAST six feet tall/183 cm - and not a single f*cking quarter-inch or centimeter less - in order to be truly acceptable in the eyes of. That is just for her to accept your height. A woman will begrudgingly "settle" for a man 5'11" or less if he's at least "taller than her in her pair of high heels," although it's not a positive or anything for her. Just a "I'm willing to overlook this flaw for other positive traits" sort of deal. However, any man same height or shorter than her is a hard DEALBREAKER. A "fuck no!"
And me not passing that criteria, I know what it's like. I'm not 5'2" or anything, but I still am shorter than every male in my social circle and eight of of my ten exes were taller than me. So I've been sh*t on so much for being a manlet. I legit have no hope of finding a compatible woman who will accept me at the height I am. Note, I said "compatible." I acknowledge gold diggers, sugar babies, the severely mentally ill, and drug addicts exist out there. They are not women for me, though.
@bluesky121, you seem like a great woman with more empathy than most women you'll meet nowadays. You should join the Giant Girl Gang with JosyJosy, @Passion_Devil, and a few others on here, who are also kinder women than I'm used to. Either way, I sincerely hope you find your Tall King (or short one, if you genuinely want that in someone). Good people truly do deserve each other in this messed up world of ours. As for me, though? Well, manlets don't get to breed.
I am a short guy... and I got shorter with age. My height never really bothered me. I never even thought about it as something women would not like... (My mom was head-turning gorgeous and she married my dad...) Later in life, I realized that some women do not care for short men even if she is still shorter than the short man. But, I also came to realize that, if a woman doesn't want me because of that, then I can accept that. After all, if she doesn't want me, then, I don't want her. I don't mean that like she's a bitch or something, but it's simply a preference. If she doesn't like my height then, even if we were a couple, I wouldn't be all that she'd want. She might LEARN to love me and accept that, but, really, a man's height is for a woman part of "sexual chemistry" and a mismatch in sexual chemistry, especially when young, is a long-term problem...
Anyway, thank you for you question. I really appreciate it. And, personally, I love tall women and wished I could have dated a woman taller than me.
Good for you, bluesky. A voice of reason.
I second what @JosyJosy said. She nailed it.
The issue here is that so many girls pass up certain guys simply because of their height. In fact, there are a million reasons why girls will reject a guy (it's natural selection at is finest, right), but prioritizing height makes little sense anymore, as Josy said, because life is different now. Yes, yes, there's biology and thousands of years of amygdala-thinking/drivers, but ultimately... it's shallow. It's one of the key reasons why peoples' relationships don't last. Because they picked a tall guy, someone they were very sexually attracted to (at the time), and then found they had little to talk about, or little overall compatibility.
I believe that it's only the confident, not shallow, girls/women, who will break this, turn it on its head, and decide to drop it down in the list of their priorities. They don't feel so insecure that they 'need' their guy to 'look' like he could protect them, should a masked marauder come along.
I think it's biologically. We want to be protected so taller/more muscle tends to have an advantage. But I feel like that's a thing of the past honestly. We aren't running around with spears and clubs anymore, we don't need a strong buff man to defend a territory from wild animals or something.
But now you don't need that anymore. A skinny short guy can survive in this world. One of the bosses I worked for came with a height at my chest, but he was a great leader. You don't need height or muscle anymore to be a great leader. And then there are the personality traits in general, and some women don't even want the guy to lead. As for feeling protected, I can hold my own. But it's nice to have someone extra who you can count on
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I am 5'9" not the shortest but not tall. My friends were all very tall, I am talking 6'5" give or take an inch. They could field a basketball team easy. When it came to meeting women, I had no problem striking up conversation and having karma with many women. But, when the end of the night came they would always end up with one of my taller friends. That said, I did end up being with many of the women later on as they realized the tall guys for the most part were jerks. It just would have been nice to have been with a woman that one of my friends did not already have a relationship with.
According to those that rejected me based on height, and there have been a fair number it's illusionary a bigger man gives the illusion that he is better able to protect them. This was told to me by a girl dating an unathletic 6 ft tall guy talking to me who was (before COVID-19) a wrestler that took martial arts and worked out in a gym for 2 hours a day. I was physically superior in terms of my ability to protect her than him. I was also 8 inches shorter. So his height giving him the advantage over me in protecting her was an illusion
thats like asking an ugly woman about why so many men reject her. its a natural biological thing. we don't tend to date those who we don't find attractive. why can't people just accept this fact of life and move on? it won't change regardless how much you complain or whine about it.
Some women are very picky about height. But a lot of women just want men that are taller than they are, even if they're short. I've liked guys all across the height spectrum: short, average, and tall. Honestly I just want a guy that's taller than me (even if it's just by an inch or two). Same height is fine too. So a guy under 6 ft isn't a problem for me at all
Same reason women get rejected for their appearance. It's personal preference. People have to realize that if their most interesting quality about them selves is how they look, that pretty sad.
Men want to feel big and strong and masculine, which is why so many guys have a size complex. Often heterosexual women want a man who can protect her at least on a subconscious level.
Well... In the same logic.. Why don't guys like girls who are not shorter than them? Taller guy feels more masculine and shorter girl feels more feminine... it's a natural to prefer them... Nothing to hold grudge against.. Plus you're not supposed to be with ALL the girls or guys.. You're supposed to be with the most suitable for you, so...
Personally I don't care about height. I think it's because of our primitive brains telling us that taller men make for more survivable genes - survival of the fittest, natural selection and all that.
I don’t know but has something to do with feeling protected when the guys are tall to them but it’s silly if the guy is already a few inches taller than them but not over 6 foot and still gets rejected
Everyone has their preferences.
Girls say that online and front, but a lot end up with average height men.
Because Tall guys are better survival? I mean I know you can survive in today's socialty with brains but back in the days we use to fight a lot like alpha males.
Are you kidding me? I'm 6'3 and all the girls on gag Keep saying how scary it would be to be with a guy that tall. Fml yo! I think girls only want tall guys with muscles.
when the sexual marketplace is rigged in favour of women then women have more and more astronomical standards. Im 6'4'' and was once told I wasn't tall enough. In other words women are never happy.
I feel more comfortable if he’s at least as tall as me
I would be guys who are above 5'6. I think that's decent. I'm 5'1
It’s suspicious how many shiney new accounts have short man issues this week.. The one about extending limbs strived to be original.
I am on the shorter side of the average woman and do not like tall guys or never. i always have dating guys shorter than me or near my height.
Most western women have ridiculous standards and little self awareness.
people don't choose who they are attracted to so I don't have a problem with that, I have a problem when people are rude about it
It's because short guys aren't seen as having any value at all.
I guess that’s just what they like. 5’11 is tall? Like a wee bit over a meter?
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