Why do women say they want commitment and relationships but when a guy offers commitment the women are not interested?

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loverboy26 · Accepted Answer

My current experience is I met this woman who has 4 kids divorce barely started. We had an instant connection which I’m not used to. I’m usually closed off and shy and with her it was not like that. Anyway she says she’s not used to be treated with respect and how she deserves to be treated. So 5 unbelievable weeks and then cold turkey. She hasn’t been able to fully communicate with me exactly what’s going on. I guess the intimacy and feeling vulnerable has caused her to step back and may realize she’s not ready for anything serious. So yes, trust is an issue with her having been with a soon to be ex (cheater) for many years. I had made every effort to make sure she felt secure however doing damage at the same time. Maybe if she had to fight a bit for the trust instead of me spoon feeding my sincerity she may have felt better about the situation. So all boils down to her not being ready. Men and Women have their moments of thinking they are ready for commitment until it’s actually time to buckle down. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Be careful what you wish for. Getting with the wrong woman is way worse than being alone. Not everybody is compatible. A lot of time women aren't even sure what they want. It's more like when you go to the ice cream shop with 30+ flavors and you have no clue what you want... these women have a long list of ingredients they're looking for but no clue which ice cream flavor has what.

The other thing is that the best catches tend to be unavailable most of the time so it's always slim pickings. Two people have to meet at just the right time when both happen to be compatible with each other and available.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because only 10-20 % of women aka women in their early or late 20s are dateable according to many gag guys in my experience. Many of them told me they only like young women. This means they reject 80% of women
For these guys it is ok to want 10-20% of women but women get hated for wanting 20% of men.

Why do women say they want commitment and relationships but when a guy offers commitment the women are not interested?

However, i can't generalize men. I only tell my experience about some or many guys on gag. The problem with prefering only young women is that you make your dating pool very small and risk getting to know immature girls since their brain development is not finished till in their mid 20s which affect the maturity level and personality. I personally do not care if you prefere young women as long as you dont complain about majority of women when you had bad experience with young women

St37xy11 · Accepted Answer

Most guys who approach the girl are usually the opposite of what she's looking for. Like not attractive or maybe they don't get along personality as well. It's like her heart and soul is not in that relationship if they start one. So she's just wasting his time and stringing him along. She wants to feel a spark and if she doesn't feel it with you even though you want to commit to her, something she is looking for, there's still too much missing for her to see herself with you and to be happy in the relationship. Yeah commitment is important but chemistry and a connection is equality as important too. Sorry this happened to you by the way. But the right now will come eventually have patience! 😊

spookywashere · Answer

I was like this with my boyfriend at first. I have always wanted commitment, but before meeting my boyfriend... I kept giving my everything to these men who would treat me as if I didn't exist. I was heartbroken, and eventually developed trust issues and became overly self defensive. I never messed around with guys, or did friends with benefits because I still wanted commitment. I nearly gave up on dating. Thanfully I met someone who offered commitment, he truly respects and values me. It was hard at first because I was being too catious, I wasn't used to being treated so kindly so I was suspicous. But he has shown me nothing but love. We are planning a future together now. Other women may have similar reasons as to why they say they want commitment, but then end up being flighty. Patience is all I asked for, and eventually I gained enough trust to fully commit. If you are curious as to why a certain woman does this, ask her to be open and honest with you as to why she is that way.

Anonymous · Answer

What's the difference between having to asking you for a rose for my birthday even after I've talked on and on about how much I love it etc and you observing that I like roses so you get me some on my birthday?

My point is when you have to ask someone for commitment and then they give to it you it can feel like they only did it because you asked, it doesn't feel real and genuine. Kind of like you're just doing it to keep them around

CuriousJC · Answer

That's the problem with most women, they will say they want a loyalty and commitment type of relationship but when the man tries his best to be the committed time she isn't interested anymore because she wasn't specific about how she wants the man to be committed to her.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Obviously they're not so desperate for a relationship that any offer will suffice. It's person-specific. Females are particular. It's the way the biology and culture of our species works.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because commitment is a fundament of any relationship. Friendship also need to commitment to keep things going. Maybe they aren´t attracted to the guy that´s trying to commit. Without commitment everything is nothing in a relationship but just commitment isn´t everything in a relationship.

Browneye57 · Answer

Well, she likes sex alright... just not with YOU.

You chose poorly. It's not a good match. PERIOD. She wants to keep her options, fuck other guys. You'll see. Or she just doesn't value you.

Are you rich and good looking? If not, she's holding out for one that IS.

PralineCream · Answer

Anything really: she's not into you, she needs to work through some personal trauma, guys have also said they want commitment and lied to get women into bed which is traumatic, she's not ready for it, she's giving someone a second chance. It could be anything!

Siren777 · Answer

It can be one reason, none or all of the above. Indecisive women are difficult women & difficult women you should stay away from.

Screenwriter · Answer

A woman may want commitment, but not commitment with YOU. That's the bottom line. And then some SAY they want it, but don't act on what they're saying.

Justneedtokno · Answer

It just depends on the person. We all want someone that we are attracted to or mutually like. Tell me could you be in a relationship with someone you’re not attracted to?

pickedcrisps · Answer

To me it seems the physical poll option is leading. Says something aye? In combo with all else sure but come on now fellow adults and me included: who are we kidding if someone doesn't attract us physically at least 🤣

Anonymous · Answer

They absolutely want that--just not necessarily with you! lol!

It's like when people say "I'm just too busy right now for a relationship!" That's just a polite way of saying "if the continuation of the human species depending on me having sex with you, we would 100% go extinct."

You've got to learn to decode the messages, my man!

Anonymous · Answer

other; I'm stuck on seeking perfection even though i know it's not realistic my expectations aren't based on reality as I have zero personal experience. This is assuming he has none of my major breakers

SClassWizzard · Answer

Almost always to do with you either lacking the looks, which is majority of the case, or you lacking something else, e. g money

Toldol2 · Answer

Its complicated. We love to fantasize about it but the reality of it is different

Vanilla_taste_nice · Answer

it simply so because the guys are not to be trusted even when they appear real you just can't predict what's on their mind

ChiPaPa · Answer

Because they don't want it from that particular man.

Sur_Is_Weird · Answer

I only turn someone down if they ain't my type, so uh... Anyway no one has even asked me for commitment so-

Anonymous · Answer

The implication is that they want commitment and relationship with attractive guys. They often just don't like saying that part up front.

noohair · Answer

They are waiting for prince charming and they have not grown up to realize that he is a fairy tale.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women are deceitful by nature. Not all women but most of them tend to lie in order to get bye in life. They do this because they are physically weaker then men and they view lying and dishonesty as normal for the female race.

Spirilio_180 · Answer

A girl may simply just not be interested in you, any of these guys ever thought about that before?

KrakenAttackin · Answer

She wants to keep her options open and continue to build her friend zone bench.

Flower7 · Answer

Because she doesn't like that particular guy.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Cause he's not her type

Asianguy123 · Answer

They want to have sex with cute guys but then they want to marry to a rich guy.

Anonymous · Answer

Because women are fickle b* these. Which direction is the wind blowing that day?

grierwrange · Answer

They want that with men they find attractive

exitseven · Answer

Only the losers are willing to commit.

Hangry06 · Answer

It's him. Not her

Anonymous · Answer

Not the right guy?

Sketti2021 · Answer

Not the right guy

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