How do I deal with low self esteem?

[Anonymous]

For years I’ve felt ugly and felt like I would never become successful. I have days where I distance myself from everyone and just cry. I try so hard to love myself and build my self esteem it’s sooo hard

[MotorcycleMan]

Self esteem is exactly that. It comes from the self. It doesn't depend on what others think. There are plenty of successful people who are ugly. The two are certainly not mutually exclusive, in fact, probably the opposite as people who think they are ugly may try harder, which is usually the key ingredient. More importantly, talk with a counselor. They can help you walk through the issues that you are dealing with and provide you with tools and strategies to move the direction you want to go. I'm not a doctor (but I played one on top of the TV) but it also sounds to me like you are dealing with depression. You should talk to your doctor about this too, because depression will just suck all the fun out of life. There is a book I like called "The Happiness Advantage" by Shawn Achor. I highly recommend taking a look at that if you are able.
So... as one person who knows intimately the struggles of depression to another, I just want to reach out on a human level here and give you a big virtual hug. It gets better and things will be ok. Also, please remember that you are nowhere near as ugly as you think you are and that a smile will light up anyone's face so your inner beauty shines through.

[Jay3344]

It is hard, but it takes time. It doesn’t happen over night and it takes work. You have to realize that in you is an amazing soul that is undeniably as beautiful and wonderfully as every other soul around you. We’re all connected to so having you succeed and feeling happy means that everyone’s else shares in that. So my advice would be to identify patterns that cause you to feel down and try and remedy them the way you know how. Maybe it means getting out in nature with friends or enjoying your work more. Maybe it means meditation, the point is if it’s not going well you have the power right now to start changing your world for the better.

[Justneedtokno]

Well most people that have low self-esteem they start with what is bothering them. Maybe it’s a fear maybe it’s your way maybe it’s not having enough education whatever it may be you work on it. Along with the other things that make you awesome it’s a great combination. you have to take some time to understand you and what you like and don’t like. In life

I’ve dealt with it myself. The only thing that I can honestly say is you have to find what makes you you. Feel free to talk to me anytime

[Justneedtokno]

Thanks hopefully this really helps

[Anonymous]

Ur ugly because u don’t take care of yourself. Get a facial, learn how to do ur hair, how to dress then you’ll be good. No need to cry. Even if your average, average guys will notice you and approach you

[impatient_doll]

You're unique, no one can be you no matter how hard they try. Sometimes we have low esteem because we focus on our flaws, those flaws actually make us stand out and we should learn to love them.

[babydinosaur]

😢 why so down?