I have a low self-esteem about myself?

[Bety23]

How do you build your self-confidence up? I have real bad self-esteem. I was in abusive marriage so it’s real hard for me to look at myself as a beautiful person. My fiancé, tells me I’m beautiful every day. I have a hard time with it.

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[DishLady]

Ok, so NO ONE other than yourself can lift or change your self-esteem, so YOU need to do the work. YOU need to find things about yourself that you love and STOP BLAMING your abusive marriage for everything when you have A CURRENT MAN WHO LOVES YOU right in front of your face.

Start by reciting a mantra, "I have and respect my personal inner and outer beauty." It sounds ridiculous, but do it anyway. 10-12 times every morning and evening in a quiet place on your own. One morning you'll wake up and not need to say it bc you'll look in the mirror and see a beautiful and happy woman, ok?

[Bety23]

Thank u for your help I doing a little better with my self nice meet u

[RavVid]

Listen to your fiance to start with!

You know I think maybe you should ask what he likes about you. Obviously he likes you if he s a fiance. Then recognize those qualities in yourself and build onto them - more to build your self recognition than anything. As we recognize and build good qualities we get some self knowledge and those qualities become part of our perspective of ourselves.

I think that is probably the best way to overcome low esteem is by building and improving good qualities. Your fiance probably sees those more clearly than you do.

[kellytheman]

Usually I got a makei over like going to the gym and made a new me or just a better version of me, got a new wardrobe and just look at myself in the mirror tell yourself you are confident and beautiful. I probably might see it might be a little harder for woman because you are more emotional and sensitive than guys but I think you just find great things about and try to improve yourself that you can improve on.

[Bety23]

Thank you so much

[kellytheman]

No problem and listen to your fiancé if he says you are beautiful you are he wouldn’t say that if you wasn’t and he is trying to put more self confidence into you.

[Billlewis]

You could try lowering your privatization armor on your profile page, for a start. You're also welcome to follow or message me if you want. I'd love to chat with you for a few minutes if you have time. Thank you very much.

[Bety23]

What do you mean about my profile page

[Billlewis]

Apparently, when you created your account, you inadvertently had your profile page set to 'private', which means that no one can message you or even view your comments and questions, etc. You may also want to consider changing your status from 'anonymous' to something else, any random woman's name. As long as you don't give anyone your personal information, no one will ever find you anyway.

[bowenw]

Keep listening to you fiancé and other people that are close to you. We are all our own worse critics, so try not to listen to any negative thoughts you may have about yourself.

[andy530]

Go to therapy, look at pictures of yourself and tell yourself 5 things you like about yourself in the picture, have someone else tell you 5 things they like about you, etc

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Start by treating yourself nicely.

Eat good meals, exercise few times a week at a gym, fix your hair nicely and be grateful for the things in your life and overtime your self esteem should get better.

[DrPepper12]

Gym will build your confidence. you'll SEE the progress and BELIEVE it!

[jahaims]

Go to therapy and learn to get your self worth from who you are as a person and not from what others think