Girls, Why would she be sad we aren’t talking anymore if she was the one playing games and I called her out?

[Anonymous]

She was playing games with me and it started to annoy me after a while so I called her out and she got uncomfortable and ran off. I’ve been ignoring her since because if she’s not going to talk to me well then fine. But I noticed she was hiding from me for a few days then started to open up and tried for me to notice her and start a conversation but I’m still ignoring her and can’t be bothered right now. She’s sad and upset but why if she started this in the first place? She’s also been mad that I’ve been ignoring her because she rolls her eyes at me, walks past obviously ignoring me on purpose with a bitch face attitude so I know this is affecting her. Other times she looks like she regrets it because I can tell she’s making an effort to talk me.

[Sawyerblu]

Sounds like you’re the one playing games now.


My advice?
Pull her aside for a chat. Let her know that you did like her but it’s obvious that you both want different things and want to leave things on a good note. If you’re mature about it, she’ll either match that energy or keep the eye rolls going. If the latter is the case, just ignore her and go about your life. You tried and that’s all you can really do, the rest is up to her.


She’ll move on soon enough.

[Asker]

How am I playing games? What do you mean we want different things? I do feel like I tried to communicate with her but she needs to meet me half way.

[Sawyerblu]

You’re intentionally ignoring her. If you wanted the same things then she wouldn’t be playing games. It doesn’t really matter, it’s a conversation to end this negativity. It’s what I used to use when I was dating around and didn’t want to ghost or leave anything unsettled with a guy that I just knew wouldn’t work out, whether it was true or not. So you can either tell her this, or try out the ABC’s of communication. Accept the situation, believe that what is meant to happen is going to happen, consider their position; how was she playing games? Sometimes we misread people’s intentions. For example, my ex thought I was playing games with him when really I was just opening up about my emotions and being honest and vulnerable. It was miscommunication and misunderstanding.

[Asker]

How were you being honest and opening up about your emotions? I think she’s playing games because she’s not communicating with me, being hot and cold, giving me mixed signals, trying to get my attention, trying to get me jealous and when I try speak to her she’s not talking or being honest I feel like she’s not telling me the truth