My ex girlfriend and I had an amicable breakup and went 3 weeks of no contact but we had talked a bit (nothing love related, mostly about hobbies and what we were up to) but we decide to meet up last week and we had fun together actually and I felt that if we didn't date we could have be best friends in another world since we clicked so much
After two days since we hung out, she sent me a text saying that we shouldn't talk and she isn't a good person and when I mentioned that I've moved on already she said "Good for you". I have made an effort to stop talking to her but she always seems to be the one to reach out in cases where we stopped talking but when we do talk to each other it's mostly in a platonic sense like talking about food or our interests and making very horrible jokes and puns together but why does she keep talking to me if she tells me to stop talking to her?
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Dude that's weird, girls are confusing sometimes lol. My best guess is she liked hanging with you, but is still kinda getting over your breakup deep down. Even if things felt platonic in person, those feelings may have crept back up for her after.
When you texted she probably started overthinking it, like what if we start something again and I get hurt. So her telling you not to talk is like... a defense mechanism almost, trying to protect herself preemptively.
But she also misses your vibe! Which is why she keeps reaching back out. It's a total mind game haha. I'd bet anything her feelings are still mixed up. I know you said you've moved on, but maybe some space would help HER move on fully too, ya feel?
My advice would be chill on responding when she hits you up for now. Let her sort her own head out. If down the line you're both really over it, then maybe a friendship could work. But for now, play it cool bro. No need to stress the complicated ex drama!
hmm so I should give her some space first and wait for her to reach out? To be honest I've already asked her to go to a museum with me, she asked which one and I told her the two museums I want to go to and she left me on read to be fair she did answer at 2 in the morning so I'm guessing she'll reply when she wakes up
Aye man, based on what you said went down in the past, I'd say hold off for now on planning anything concrete together until she gets her head straight.
The fact that she left you on read after you suggested concrete plans is a sign she might not be fully ready yet. Even if she gets back to you eventually, you don't wanna push her into something that risks stirring up old feelings again.
My advice would be don't double text or seem too eager. Give her space to come to you if/when she's fully detached from the past relationship stuff. Just play it cool for now homie.
Maybe next time you chat keep it casual, like you've been doing - just catching up on interests, no meet up plans. Let HER be the one to suggest hanging as friends if/when she's there emotionally.
You gotta feel this one out slow, or you risk messing with her head again and confusing things between you. Play the long game on this one bro!
I’m only speculating, but maybe she is conflicted on her feelings or that it was hard to see that you moved on so easily or taking the breakup better than she thought. Even if you convinced yourself that you moved on or even if you did seeing the person makes it ten times harder to move on when you still miss them and having a good time can remind someone how things used to be